I'm going to be a single mom, with no income, just education?

Question

I don't know what to do. I was relying on my finacial aid through school to help me get through my pregnancy. I have 8 more weeks left and I'm already on maternity leave from Whataburger. I really can't do much about another job, cuzz I got to school Mon-Thurs. I want to finish school, but I don't know what I'm going to do. The guy I'm with cares about me but doesn't have enough money to support me him, and a child that isn;t his. Help please.

Answer 1

FINISH SCHOOL! Whatever you do make sure you finish. You will be much better off making sure you can support this child in the future.

Sign up for every program you can. Talk to local social workers and the welfare office. They can send you to other resources. Do your homework, use every resource you can and get done with school. Even if the daddy isn't making a big income, the little bit of child support he is required to pay can help. Sign up for a rent voucher with the local housing office to help with rent. There are usually places that will help with utilities, too. You will be fine and the struggles you go through now will be so worth it. The baby won't remember these tough times now. Remember that. Think about the times that really will effect this child and that is from age 3-4 on. I will repeat myself and tell you again to finish school!

Answer 2

You need to contact your local welfare office, pronto. These financial issues aren't going to ease once you have the baby, you're going to be out of work for at least a month to six weeks immediately after birth...

Look into WIC, possibly food stamps, and Medicaid if you don't have insurance coverage.

I think you're doing a really wonderful thing by continuing school, and I hope you're able to completely see this through. It will be your best chance at a better life for yourself and your child. It will also most likely make your stint at the welfare office fairly short-term, so if or when people complain about that, let them know you are working hard to get to a point where you can care for yourself and your baby.

A lot of men feel as though the responsibility of birth control falls first and formost to women. This is just not true. Your ex, or whoever your baby's father is, is 50% to blame for the predicament you're in at the moment. Take any measures you can to ensure he is helping to financially support his child. If it comes down to it, get a court order for him to pay a set amount.

Answer 3

Is he the father of your baby???? if he is not then as soon as your baby is born, filed for childsupport but if he is the father there is always a second job he can get... then after you can go back to work it has to be at least 2 months to recover... in the mean while you can get WIC, Foodstamps because you are maternity leave...but also you can apply t child care if you have no one to take care of your baby so you can go back to school... by this childcare will help you pay less and you can alternate part-time school and part-time job if you want or only full time school but you will need money for baby needs so think about it or if for any chance you can't go back to school this year work the rest of the year save as much as you can and start school in January but you will feel better because you will have money saved to go back to school... don't let go your dream of finishing school but you need to make sacrifices, just remember that now you have someone to take care and protect and that will need your time and love but there are times that we need to set aside our goals lie putting them in hold for a while and then recover what you left behind....good luck and best wishes!!!

Answer 4

Get over to the state welfare department and start proceedures for assistance (WIC, Medical assistance, etc.). They will also know of other programs in your area like work to learn or another program where you can be working while going to school. Sometimes these places have programs for soon to be parents that help them out financially through scholorships. You may also want to see your schools financial aid department and see if they have any programs for you. There is help out there, just make some connections and put your name out there. Good luck.

Answer 5

If I were you, I would get myself into an agency where adoption was an option. You need to realize that your child and YOU deserve the best, and it sounds like right now you need to get the child to someone who can support him/her. There are many, many families who desperately want children who are unable to do so - and you can give them the ultimate gift - and you won't be short changing yourself or your
child.

From experience, it's hard enough to raise a child in a loving, married, two parent household with two incomes, don't put an unnecessary strain on your and your child when there are loving couples out there wanting and able to take of your child.

Answer 6

Wow... sex really gets us into trouble sometimes, doesn't it?

That being said...

I can relate. Been there. Done that. Now, I would NEVER, EVER, EVER give this advice to someone unless I really, truly believed that it could help.... drive yourself down to the county welfare office and ask for assistance. As long as it is only TEMPORARY, there is nothing wrong with it in your case. I know it makes you feel pretty awful to have to go there for help, but you also have to be able to keep yourself healthy for you and your new baby. They can provide you with medical assistance, WIC, food, etc. Use it just long enough to have that baby and get yourself back to work and school.

It will be OK... I promise.

And I think that guy you are seeing just might be a keeper if he is willing to be with you through this... especially if it's not his baby... GO BF!!!!!

;)

Answer 7

Do whatever you have to do to finish your education. In the long run, you and your baby will be better off because you will be qualified for a good job with a future and good benefits. I'm sure you know by now that a mcjob will never do. If you have to go on welfare for a bit, so what. My cousin did that and she managed to finish her degree, get a good job and provide a good life to her and her child. That's what its there for.

Answer 8

Hey honey, good luck with the rest of your pregnancy! You don't mention which state you are from, but many have organizations set up that can help with costs and food. Call your local health department, and they will probably be able to direct you onwards. They can even help after the child is born.

Answer 9

Well, you might have to put off your education for a while.

You should not be relying on school financial aid to help you with your maternity or pregnancy or baby costs. That is not what it is intended for.

If the guy you had a baby with is not financially stable, you should have made sure you were financially stable yourself.

I guess you'll have to live with a relative, or go on welfare. Makes me really angry because I had to wait until I was 35 to get pregnant and have a baby, because I didn't want anyone else to be held responsible for my actions.

If you're having a baby, you need to put your baby first. Get used to it. It's called being responsible for yourself.

Answer 10

have you considered unemployment pay or welfare for 6 months till you go back to work? there should also be places in your town to help single moms. they will give you stuff for your baby either free or cheap and will sometimes even help with your bills. go to my site to the forum and see if you can get some help. it's a new site but i check in often. post where you are located and i will try to find you some help.