Please don't take that as a challenge. I do not wish for negativity. I'm really looking for honest responses. No one can make me say or do anything. Am I missing something here? Does that make me heartless? I attempt to never offend others because it makes them feel sad. It seems people tend to make excuses for bad behavior.
2007-04-24 07:07:30 · 10 answers · asked by Jen 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i m realy happy to meet an angel. Everyone has anger in himself/herself but those who can control their anger and are not offended by someone are great people. but i must say sometimes it may be necessary to show some anger....
2007-04-24 07:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by ammar_shahjee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I see some great responses here..
The reason you aren't easily offended is simply that you aren't looking for something to get offended about.
Trying to not offend (or hurt) others also speaks of a well mannered, tactful person that respects other people. I wish there were many more like that.
I am the same way and I think it's great to find out there are other people out there like that.
2007-04-24 14:40:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a hug, and/or a bow of respect. My view - it's the value to which I aspire, don't always succeed, but beat myself up about if I fail - is that there's no point in increasing the amount of anger or hurt in the world. And on the occasions when I've been offended - for want of a better word - by someone's behaviour towards me, I've nearly always found out that biting them back doesn't actually make me feel any better and will almost certainly make the other person feel worse (and won't be likely to change their behaviour, either). I wish that I could say that I always abide by these rules of conduct, but I applaud you for having them as a value.
And where one witnesses behaviour that really *is* offensive - because someone is hurting another person who can't protect themselves, for example - then the best response (i.e. likely to produce insight and a change in behaviour) is better when it's measured, when it handles the problem not the person, and is directed towards a valuable goal.
So - as long as you can retain your capacity to be shocked by what's truly evil in this sad world and want to do something about it - I'll give you a round of applause.
2007-04-24 14:25:17 · answer #3 · answered by mrsgavanrossem 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people are not very bright, and tend to follow the group. These days the group dynamic encourages people to be offended. Now everybody thinks they should be offended by comments about their race or color or religion. They think they should be offended, so they act offended and soon are offended.
But most people are really being childish when they act so offended by nasty words or comments. There's hardly anything a person can say that really is so bad that one is damaged by the words.
2007-04-24 14:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not desensitized, you are, in my opinion, actually quite sane.
I think people get offended way to quickly in our society, and I always wondered why? Self indulgence? Because they so quickly insult or judge others? I just don't know.
But I do know one way to be happy and well balanced is to not create effects others cannot easily have, and to be able to have everything. So you making a effort not to offend others and your stability in not being easily offended, probably make your life a lot less upsetting than most peoples.
Good for you!
2007-04-24 14:17:36 · answer #5 · answered by Leal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way, but I blame mine on the fact that I take a seizure medicine. It's also used to treat bipolar disorder, and it makes me feel very apathetic about anything other than my children or immediate family. The Va. Tech. shooting, for example. While yes--what happened was tragic and senseless, I don't have CNN on 24/7 to find out what's going on or how the families are doing or to watch the memorial service. I hate to say I don't care about the victims and their families--but I really don't. Obviously the shoe would be on the other foot if I (God forbid) had a child or children who were murdered, but I don't. Like I said--I'm concerned only with my family and my day to day life, and I blame this on the anti-seizure med. I'm on.
2007-04-24 14:55:50 · answer #6 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To get offended too easily is childish. But you should have some deeply held beliefs that you would defend. perhaps that is different from getting offended. Any way you sound like an interesting person.
2007-04-24 14:18:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're a good person. That's basically it.
Maybe try and find people like yourself, or join Buddhism, or something. Anything where you can express your peace, because it is defintly a gift.
2007-04-24 14:12:24 · answer #8 · answered by suds 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont ever really get offedned either, not really sure why, but I think maybe I just dont care. I just dont care what other people think. Some might see that as selfish, but I could really acre less.
2007-04-24 14:28:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
we all have our own ways of responding to things. we're all individuals.
2007-04-24 14:12:34 · answer #10 · answered by kent_shakespear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋