why would he???

Question

Okay so here is the deal. My man cheated on me. Well they didn't have sex BUT he did make out and kissing someone else is cheating in our relationship. So here's the question. Why would he do that so early into our relationship. We have been toghether for 4 months and this happened 2 months into it. Also I found out from someone else not him. He says he doesn't remember b/c he was drunk. But i mean there is nothing i wouldn't do in bed or out of it for him. So i don't understand? Can i get a little insight??

Answer 1

Get rid of him. He doesn't respect you. Kissing is cheating in my book, too. I dont' care if you are drunk or not, you still know the difference from right and wrong. Also, if he drunk himself THAT silly, then making out with another girl would be the last thing on his mind....he'd be hugging the toilet all night not another girl. Also, by continuing your relationship with him AFTER he cheated, is telling him that it is okay to continue cheating on you. Seems to me like he is just using you for booty call, if you know what I mean. He is getting everything from you that he needs, so he can just come right over anytime he wants, but he can still "play" around with other girlies too. Have a little respect for yourself and kick this dirt bag to the curb. Find a man who loves you for you and not just for sex. Believe it or not there are plennnnty of fish in the sea.....good ones who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. You dont' have to sit there and put up with that kind of crap. You deserve better.

Answer 2

Alright well whats done is done right?

*Most likely he cheated because he obviously does not take your relationship seriously and well....it shows. Being drunk is a lame excuse, I have been drunk many times, but I don't make out with people.*
.Now you have a couple options, and I know you know what they are.

*You can:

1.Forgive and Forget and go on everyday wondering if he is going to cheat on you again. And have that in the back of your mind all the time.

2. You can ditch this loser and give yourself the piece of mind of knowing that you won't have to worry about him cheating anymore, because you aren't with him. And you can save yourself a lot of trouble and future "cheating" problems also by taking this choice.

*It's up to you but from my view point this relationship just sounds like it's headed for a crash and burn. You need to find someone better than him, you don't deserve that BS.

Answer 3

Why do you even care why he did it? Dump him. He has zero respect for you. Being drunk is no excuse. Why are you willing to accept this treatment from a guy you've only been with 4 months? It's not like you've invested a lot of time in the relationship, get out now. I hope you dont think you can "change him" because you can't. He did it because he could, and more than likely because he knew you would let him get away with it.

Answer 4

Ok, The reason being is because its the first couple of months so its nothing serious and he probably might think your doing the same thingor just wants to see how far you will let him go or he simply just wanted too, either way the relationship is new and its not serious. if he does or doesnt but Im sure he does remember being drunk hes using it as an easy way for him not to take responsibility for his actions.

Answer 5

ummmm, honey, you said "But i mean there is nothing i wouldn't do in bed or out of it for him. " and you also said " We have been toghether for 4 months ". k, well, that is seriously early in a relationship to be doing anything "in bed" with anyone.

sounds like you already gave him want he wanted and now he's playing th field while he's keeping you in his pocket.

he's not that into you or he wouldnt have done that.

you deserve better. walk away now. and next time dont hop into bed with a guy so soon. if you make them work for it, you'll weed out the guys who really want you from the guys who are looking to score easy.

Answer 6

While it was definatly wrong, I wouldn't take it personal. It is him not you. Males are just plain physical. So chances are no emotion was attached, but that doesn't excuse it. It prolly has nothing to do with you. On the flip side, males are also attracted to what they can't have. If you were only 2 months in and there is nothing sexual you wouldn't do, then maybe he lost the sense of adventure. Taking you for granted sinc eyou will give what ever he wants.

Answer 7

i think you need to find a more responsible guy. Something like that happening 2 months into the relationship would last for me, we would be done. The first few months should be the best time for both of you (getting to know each other and whatnot). Good luck in your decision.

Answer 8

Simple answer: A combination of loose morals and alcohol. He's obviously not prepared to fully commit to a relationship, and with the alcohol killing his judgement the limited commitment he did have just vanished.

It's also possible that he doesn't consider the relationship to be as exclusive as you do. Sometimes if communication isn't clear, one partner believes they're still openly dating, while the other believes it's committed. If you haven't yet, you should consider having a talk about what your expectations are, and give him a chance to tell you his as well.

Answer 9

The guy is a BUM. lose him. hes using being drunk as an exuces for not being fathful.. whats going to happen the next time he gets drunk. Hes a p l a y e r. if hes doing is so early in the relationship, hell always do it. he doesnt respect u or the ralationship---lose that zero!

Answer 10

There's so many reasons why people cheat. His cheating didn't have anything to do with you though. I mean look at all the beautiful famous people that get cheated on like Heather Locklear, Hallie Barry and Christy Brinkley. It has more to do with the man's insecurities and wanting his ego stroked. I sure hope you broke up with him. No one with self respect would tolerate someone cheating on them.