My trial for solicitation doesn't happen until July or early August, so I'll be able to make my scheduled missions trip to Bolivia in June.
I never did actually tell my wife about this trip, so it's not on her "radar" as of yet.
Hypothetically, if I was to instead bring my Korean girlfriend instead, how should I introduce her?
There are going to be two other people I know on this trip. I obviously will have to tell them she is from my church youth group or something. (I am 35, she is 19)
The others I could tell that she is my fiancee.
Or should I just keep the same story for everyone?
This isn't fair. I always have to think about others! What about me? I don't deserve this stress.
2007-04-24 06:51:32 · 21 answers · asked by Kermit 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Hmm, tough situation.
Telling the people you already know anything is something that could bite you in your behind in the future. I don't know the details of the situation, but you could talk to your girlfriend and have the two of you pretend that you have never met before. That way the people you already know won't have any suspicions about why you're with this other girl. That way you can pretend to 'meet each other for the first time' and become 'friends.'
Now, if your girlfriend doesn't know that you have a wife, this is a little trickier. You could try and come up with a story that involves her needing to play this part for you. Maybe you could just pitch it to her as a sort of role playing fantasy--meeting a beautiful stranger on a trip and falling in love at first sight or some such.
Just watch your public behavior around the others and enjoy yourself in private, and it should be smooth sailing.
God bless.
2007-04-24 07:03:40 · answer #1 · answered by shengduoma 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Holy cow Kermit, I didnt realize you were old! Here I am picturing a guy about my age *sigh* well that's the internet for ya, eh? Keep it one story, all the time. Tell them she's a chick from the youth group, and stick with it. The fewer stories told, the fewer you have to remember, yeah? As for her, you might want to settle on a relationship. Are you trading in your wife for a newer model, or just dabbling?
2007-04-24 09:15:45 · answer #2 · answered by Goddess Nikki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are not divorced!. Then suffer the consequence of your actions and stop the belly aching. You are putting her in a really difficult situation . HOWEVER, if you are divorced, just tell the people who she is and don't make up stories. Your girlfriend deserves to be treated with dignity, have fun and enjoy life in the full light of truth. Ciao
2007-04-24 07:22:49 · answer #3 · answered by kickinupfunf 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is this a joke? Why not just tell the truth- I am having an affair on my wife, I am living a life of sin, and I really do not care that I represent a lie to all of you.
You need to talk to the pastor ASAP about your life and your wife.
By the way- you do deserve the stress, because you are bringing it on yourself.
You can be sure- you sin will find you out.
2007-04-24 06:58:37 · answer #4 · answered by northville 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Better keep it real and tell everyone the same story - she is from your Church Youth Group. that way, if youre caught doing the nasty, no one will be surprised...
Good luck passing this off in front of the wife. I know what a ball buster youve got...
Give Mirela my best!
2007-04-24 06:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I think that you don't deserve the title Christian, and you shouldn't be anywhere near a church. You cannot have a girlfriend and a wife at the same time. I think if you had a personal conversation with God he wouldn't approve. And another thing. You are pretty sick to have a 19 year old girlfriend if you are 35. That is perverted.
2007-04-24 06:56:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
I think your mission trip should actually first start with a trip to church
2007-04-24 06:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by † H20andspirit 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'd rethink the missions trip. You wouldn't be a good missionary to anyone. Fix your own life first.
2007-04-24 06:56:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
and watch as the whole community loses all respect for you.
And if you have children, well then don't expect your daughter to let you walk her down the isle.
My father did this shi*t, and he cries because I wont give that useless bastard the time of day.
2007-04-24 06:59:57 · answer #9 · answered by danksprite420 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
LOL, dude that is just wrong on too many levels. I can only hope it's not even remotely true.
2007-04-24 06:55:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋