... am starting to develop a crush.
I'll back up - I went on three dates with this guy who seemed wonderful but realized later he was extremely arrogant. My super big mistake - I had a one night stand with him and know that I shouldn't have. I did it for my own selfish physical reasons (i've been celebate for a long time) and told him "I don't really want to date you, buh-bye." I know that was horrible but he was so self-absorbed he didn't care that I didn't want to date him.
Then, about a week ago, I met his best friend who I wish I met first. He's kind and polite, and seems interested in me too. He has a great smile and a single parent like I am.
Level with me yahoo family: since they are best friends I really don't stand a chance with him, do I? I'm hoping that if enough time goes by and the friend is still unattached there might be opportunity but....
I need advice pah-leeeze!
2007-04-24 06:30:55 · 15 answers · asked by tilley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would talk to the best friend and see where he stands. tell him about your "run-in" with his friend. you don't have to tell him everything, just tell him as much info as you're comfortable giving up. if he's interested it shouldn't matter to him what happened between you and his friend. it's not like you're trying to date the both of them at the same time. and if the first guy is as self absorbed as you say, i highly doubt he's gonna trip about you and his friend talking. just remembe rto be as honest as possible. it diminishes problems in the long run. good luck!!! =)
2007-04-24 06:38:38 · answer #1 · answered by desireme112 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didnt have a long lasting relationship with the first guy so I dont think it is a big deal. If you do date the guy you like hold off before having sex or he wil think you are sleeping around. Get to know him well if they are best friends there is a reason for that and they might be similar in some aspects of their personality. Make sure the friend likes you and be honest about everything. I think it might work out.
2007-04-24 06:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by Lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to read all of your details. the "golden rule" has been around for a long time. Never ever go out with a best friend of an ex. It's rude and it's not okay. Besides the best friend more than likely wants only one thing from you. If he gets it, he will leave it. And then your ex and he will have something to gossip about among the rest of their friends.
2007-04-24 06:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be totally honest with you, I am sure that the first guy that you were with told his friend that he was with you, if they are in fact best friends. So the guy that you now like probably knows that you and the first guy had sex so unless the second guy is a very mature and grown up guy he probably only wants to be with you so that he can have sex with you too. I would be very careful if I were you.
2007-04-24 06:45:16 · answer #4 · answered by benz s55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they really are best friends, then you have no chance.
There is a very well known unwritten rule that you don't date your friends ex. Men understand this better than women, however there is an exception...if you are smoking hot and put out then it's ok.
2007-04-24 06:37:20 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they're truly best friends, the guy won't give you the time of day. Boyfriends and girlfriends come and go but friends are for life. Find someone else.
2007-04-24 06:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably not a good idea! How good of friends are they? If you get invoved with the friend and they are close it will be hard on you because you will have the guy you didn't care for in your life for ever! Are you willing to do that?
2007-04-24 06:37:53 · answer #7 · answered by fatbrat64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was only three dates and a screw, everyone can get over it. If you like this man, try to get to know him, you don't have anything to be ashamed of, and you didn't get to know his best friend *that* intimately in three dates (or even the screw). It's not like you are his ex-wife or even his ex-girlfriend.
2007-04-24 06:38:21 · answer #8 · answered by Tahlula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember "Bro's before Ho's". If he and his friend are tight you could be in for some game playing at your expense. Proceed with caution.
2007-04-24 06:38:38 · answer #9 · answered by mojosc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know the friend isn't exactly like the guy you went out with?...
2007-04-24 06:38:37 · answer #10 · answered by Ghanaian Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋