I am married to my husband for 9.5 years and hes a great guy, but I recently met this other guy and hes says he loves me and I think I love him too? I cheated on my husband with him and confessed to my husband. I only told my husband we kissed and he took me back.
I'm not sure what to do. I tried to put an end to it but I cannot stop thinking about him. My husband is sweet, like a kid and this guy is passionate (sex is great!!)
Both are great guys, both want kids with me and as stupid as this sounds I want to be with both of them....
2007-04-24 06:07:18 · 22 answers · asked by virgo_07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This depends entirely on your definition of love. You cannot have two husbands. You presumably made some sort of vow to your husband which included love. One aspect of love is fidelity. I happen to love two women other than my wife and very deeply. But the reality is that relationships which are based on real love require real trust. Marriage gets stale and I suspect some of the love you feel for the new man is simply a reaction to someone other than your husband paying real attention to you. We all need to be loved but you used the expression yourself that yuou "cheated" on your husband. We do not cheat on people we love. It is perhaps coincidental that both of the women I love have been cheated on by their partners and it hurt them deeply. Once someone has broken that trust it is very hard to put back together. Your husband must love you a great deal to have you back. It is most likely that unless you say adios to the new man you will lose them both. Be careful how you define love and make sure you know what you really want from your relationships.
2007-04-24 07:31:04 · answer #1 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel out your husband. See if he would be willing to have a 3 some. If he would, get the other guy involved. If not, you will eventually have to choose, unless the choice is made for you by your husband.
Remember one important thing. Most guys that get involved with a married woman, who know that they are married, feel safe, since they are married, and there is no chance for them to get "stuck" in the position of having to get married themselves. Why buy the milk, when the cow is free...not saying that your a cow. Anyway, guys like that usually run away, when you are once again single and available.
2007-04-24 13:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by auditor4u2007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you cant love fully two guys. I dont know how a person can cheat on a spouse even if he's not a great guy, or a great girl. youre being used by one and hurting the other plain and simple. youre fun and unavailable to the other guy...its probably a game. you dont love yourself...thats why youre messing up your head and heart splitting it up! fix things with your 'great guy' of a husband! peace
2007-04-24 13:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married for Pete sakes, have you no morals? You vowed to him for sickness and in health, for better or worse. What is wrong with you?? I`m married to my husband for 16 years and would NEVER THINK ABOUT being with two men....you need to make up your mind stop messing with your husband and the other guy you are being a player you want your cake and eat it too. Wake up and be head smart.It`s got to be with one or the other...
2007-04-24 13:16:40 · answer #4 · answered by Missy C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, That does not sound stupid. Because what I believe is that you shouldnt be with one person your whole life. Its kinda primative based on the environment here today. How can a person be expected to stay with only one person. but anyways I think the best thing for you would be able to be with both of them but thats probably not going to happen. You should Choose just one if you cant be with both of them and just think hard. But it sounds like you should go with that one guy and not your husband.
2007-04-24 13:14:05 · answer #5 · answered by Victor 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can not be in love with 2 people at the same time
i think you were just comfortable in your relationship with your husband the attention from the other man is new and exciting.......... new relationships are always fun but you never really know a person at first it take roughly 5 years to actually know someone (learned it from a psych class) but you should choose before someone gets hurt
but some words of wisdom:
never leave the one you love for the one you like
because the one you like will leave you for the one they love
2007-04-24 13:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by soccer_star 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't love him you Lust him, there is a difference...It is easy to get attached to a person you just see for a few hours a week then leave him. I see you as a selfish slut but most women fall in to your category anyhow so continue what you are doing, I am sure your kids won't mind the breakup.
2007-04-24 13:20:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good women can't but bad ones can.
You are the worse type of women, a cheater. A cheater is deceitful, untrustworthy, and of low character. Hopefully your husband finds out quickly and kicks you to the curb. You will get your in time, karma is funny that way.
2007-04-24 13:14:49 · answer #8 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you! do you learn anything? this such a classic case, that song, what goes around comes around! pick one or lose both. I can believe ur husband actually took you back! stay with your husband. but you can still be friends with him. by the way... have kids right now.. it solves the problems.
2007-04-24 13:18:22 · answer #9 · answered by Maria love Aaron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're like all the sluty women. YOu make us believe that we men only like sex and you stay with the other guy just because the sex is terrific. Talk about institulionalized lying. Boo-ohh-ooh, and all this time I thought women have been hard done by.
2014-01-04 23:39:17 · answer #10 · answered by infotrad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋