I love my employer, he is kind, caring and generous...however, he has some emotional problems that keep him from coming to work some days. I must cancel all clients for the day and get yelled at and I must apologize 80 x a day due to numerous cancellations. I am so stressed out due to this and the fact that I am a single Mom struggling to pay the bills. I am recently out of a loving long-term relationship that my child and I are also sad about. I am trying to do + affirmations, however when I get the call that he is not coming in, all good thoughts fly out the window and I am left with neck tension and an upset stomach, lately I cry alot over this...please help me!!!
2007-04-24 05:33:16 · 14 answers · asked by karuna 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Your first priority is that you need to take care of yourself and your child. Pay the bills, keep a roof over your head, make sure you have the stamina to keep getting up each day and the strength to love and care for your child.
If you need to be in a different environment, so be it.
This employer has some hard decisions to make. They are his decisions. This is his business. He either needs to take care of the business himself or hire someone to do his job - or take a leave of absence.
2007-04-24 06:03:27 · answer #1 · answered by Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nobody deserves to live like this.
If you don't like any situation you are in - then change it.
Obviously since you have a child, these decisions cannot be made without forethought. The needs of your child need to come first.
It seems as though the situation is not within your control - which is a good mantra for you.
Understand you cannot control the actions of others.
90 percent of life in general is not the problems we face, but how you chose to react to the problems.
Start looking for another job. Jobs are not usually hard to find - but jobs that you enjoy often are.
Formulate and write down a 6 month plan of how you are going to make your situation better.
You'll feel better just having a plan - instrad of going day by day not sure what you are going to do.
Wrtie down your must have criteria like salary expectations - write down your like to have criteria, then write down what you hate about your current situation, so you'll know what to avoid.
Hope you get on the right track soon.
2007-04-24 05:41:43 · answer #2 · answered by dave_h4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your boss? Maybe he should only schedule appointments three days a week and plan to be off a specific day until he gets things worked out. If you do have to cancel appointments try just explaining the he's ill or had a family emergency and keep your calls brief. I am in the same boat at work, but have just learned to cope. Been doing about the same thing for 4 years except mine doesn't come in just because he doesn't want to. As for yourself and child, keep busy and find new things to do together and start over. Life is only what YOU make of it.
2007-04-24 05:38:59 · answer #3 · answered by teamkimme 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a very difficult situation for you. If I was you I would look for another job, of course. Before I would give notice to this employer you should tell him how stressful this has been on you. Just maybe, the fact that his emotional problems have caused you great stress may make him wake up to the fact that everyone has to deal with stress from time to time and he may change his ways.
Do not quit without another job lined up or your financial situation could be even more stressful. Best of luck with this situation.
2007-04-24 05:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by JAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that before you jump ship, you need to have a one-on-one conversation with your boss and let him know what happens when he calls in sick.
As long as he isn't the one yelling at you, then don't worry about it because his customers are the ones that need to tell him how unhappy they are with cancelling meetings. So, it is easy for me to say that you shouldn't worry.
But don't worry about it that is his job not yours.
If you don't stop worrying about it and getting stressed you will wind up in the hospital not able to work or take care of your child.
Once you meet with him and let him know what happens when he is out of the office and he doesn't understand what is the problem or he continues missing work, then sit down one more time and have a talk with him again. If it still continues, then look for another job.
2007-04-24 05:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by lremmell64 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be more professional to call her and give her your 2 week notice. But if you don't think you will ever need her as a reference or list that job in future resumes you can just email her and quit tomorrow.
2016-05-17 21:29:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't just up and quit...if you have a good relationship with your boss, perhaps you should sit down and explain to him the toll his constant calling in sick is taking on you. Or, if you work for a company large enough to have an HR manager/department, speak with them and have them talk to your boss. If you dn't want to do the above, then start getting your resume up to date and pounding the pavement (or surfing the internet...whichever the case may be).
2007-04-24 05:42:12 · answer #7 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's alot to take on when it's not your fault. You're just doing your job. It shouldn't be something you take home with you or take personal. As long as it doesn't effect your pay I wouldn't worry so much about it because it's no one's fault but his if the company loses business.
I would suggest trying to talk to your boss on a personal level to see where his head is at and how you could help him. It wouldn't hurt (if he's emotionally stable enough to handle it) to talk to him about how you've been feeling lately too.
What's business are you in?
2007-04-24 05:40:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you care about providing for your family you should never quit your job until you have another one under your belt. Everyone should always be looking for new opportunities, get your resume out there, make it "confidential" and find out what other jobs are available to you. Once you find out what your options are, then decide whether to leave your current position.
Quitting a job without having another lined up is just flaky.
2007-04-24 05:38:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a better job, then quit. You shouldn't be anywhere thats not going to bring you peace.. even work. Theres tons of jobs out there that you'll like better, and might even bring you more $$. SEEK PEACE.
2007-04-24 05:37:38 · answer #10 · answered by MELLO26 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋