what has this world come to?

Question

when us parents (mother of a 9 week old) have to worry about are children when we send them off to school.we have kidnapping,guns in school,gangs,molesters,bullys, all going on in school or by school.

schools are just not safe anymore like they use to be my son is 9 weeks old and im debating on home schooling my son at least ill know he is safe but if i did that then how will he make friends and play sports.

there has got to be something us parents can do to protect are kids while they are in school.

don't mind the spelling i was typeing and holding on to my 9 week old at the same time.

if your going to have a problem with me at the computer holding my 9 week old when he is sleeping. then dont answer my question. if your going to be rude too don't answer.

Answer 1

I feel the same way! I am sending my daughter to a private school. I can't bear the thought of her being in a public school with poor education, no moral values and other kids competing to see who can dress the sleaziest and get in the most fights.

All we can do is teach them right from wrong. There are no guarantees in life, but as parents it is our responsibility to do everything we can to protect our little ones. I hate when I go somewhere with my daughter and see negligent parents who let their kids run around without even a "hey, come back here!" They don't think about the dangers that could be just around the corner. At least I know there are some parents like you who think about these things too!

Answer 2

Even before all of the recent media attention about violence in schools, I was set on homeschooling. And there are several advantages:
- There are average 23 students per class in NY elementary classrooms, and only sometimes is there a student or teacher's aide present. Who are your kids learning from? the other kids or the adults?
-The average student spends 3hrs/day doing busy work or transitioning from activities, leaving only 3hrs to actually learn. While the average homeschooler spends 4hrs a day doing work and then getting on with the rest of their lives. I personally want my children to learn time management - why spend 6 hrs in school when you can do it in 4?
-With a ratio of 1:23 teachers cannot accomodate a child's personal learning speed, be it accelerated or slowed. A homeschooler can advance at a pace resonable for their capabilities. this eliminates alot of behavior problems that occur when a child is bored or struggling academically.
-Private schools are not much better- as a product of private school, I can tell you that I never had to learn social skills, bacause my friends were the people that had been in my class since kindergarten, they knew everthing about me and my family and vice versa, and If a new kid came into school, they had to be friends with us because there was no one else around!
the arguments I hear alot on this topic is that Your child needs to be socialized, which is so true!!! PLEASE DO NOT LOCK YOUR CHILD IN THE HOUSE ALL DAY!!! Get into a homeschooling group in your area. Often they will go gym, art, or music classes together, and do fieldtrips. Also, I recommend putting your child in sports or dance/ gymnastics for socialization. this also clears up the next argument that your child should be able to take direction from other adults besides you. Then Ihear people say that your child will lack in academics because you are not qualified to teach, but you will study, and you always have answer keys to look at. Even if you don't know an answer every now and again, it will be good to have your child see that you are going to use the internet and books to find out. That will teach them to be resourceful .And you can have them take State standardized testing through your school district yearly, so you know you they rate compared to other kids in their grade. You have the right to keep you babies safe, that is the single most primal right every mother has. Exercise that right with pride!
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Answer 3

"don't mind the spelling i was typeing and holding on to my 9 week old at the same time."

What has the world come to when a mother disregards her squirming 9 week-old child to ask lame questions on the internet? >.>

Anyways, stop being so goddamn paranoid. Schools aren't THAT bad. You've obviously heard too many "Columbines" and "Virginia Techs." The truth is, the media (apparently your only outlet for news regarding schools [aside from gossip]) only reports on the most tragic, disturbing stories. When viewed in volume (and when they make as big a damn deal about is as they have), people begin to think all schools are like that, when in reality, the VAST majority of them are fine institutions. The simple fact is, homeschooling your child is far more damaging to a child than letting them go to school. School is where kids learn the basic social graces (like no touchy, and when to shut the hell up). Stop being so damn over-protective and let your kids live. It's not that big a gamble.

Answer 4

Our world, and our schools, reflect the facts that we have forsaken balance for men-only in charge, we have waylayed our responsibilities as a People and given our governing wonders the helm of everything, we have allowed our technology to over-ride our humanity...plain & simple. We are living the consequences of choices...past & present.

Home schooling is a great alternative if YOU have the patience, great organization, a decent intelligence ability, & can afford to stay home & do so...I'm sure there are lots of others in your community trying o do the same...most even organize so that the kids go to different homes for different subjects, gather to play in local parks or create back yard events for socializing...and your local YMCA sponsers many sporting programs. The main disadvantages to home schooling is that you still have to answer to state regulations--the paperwork is intense, you rarely get a break from your child, which can create personal issues, and you have to be pretty wise to make sure you are not over sheltering them from the realities they will have to face nonetheless. You will have to weigh the ups & downs & do the research into this more deeply.

Please keep in mind...schools are not the only places we can lose our kids...children, just as adults, are confronted with demise in their own homes, at work, in their front yard, or at a neighbor's house...they can be hit by cars, baseballs, drown in a bath tub, or go quietly in their sleep for reasons unknown...we all come and we all go...somehow at some time. It's always best to enjoy the moments rather than fear them. You have big wheels & bicycles & b-day parties yet to deal with...driver's licenses & broken hearts, & broken bones to come...hang in there, MOM...it's quite a ride!!!!

Answer 5

Yes it's true these things happen BUT that doesn't necessarily mean these things will happen to your child. I went to public school in a "independent" school district which means it was semi-private, without tution. We had kidnappers in my city, the seldom (i think twice in 13 years) gun in a locker, gangs, molesters (only one teacher and it didn't happen to me), bullies (I did get bullied a little). but i never got kidnapped, molested, join a gang, or get shot. I'm not saying it doesn't happen at all but it happens less then more. As an only child (I don't know if you have, or plan to have more) if I was home-schooled I wouldn't have been able to socialize with other kids, get involved in soccer, join DFY (Drug Free Youth) or meet any of my friends. You can't protect your children forever and they need to exp. the world, good and bad.

Answer 6

are??? children? Honey, I don't think homeschooling is the answer for you. It is spelled our, not are. That is scarier than guns in schools...lol...no offense but you got to admit...lol...the schools will have to be run like courthouses where you have to go through metal detectors and such. Believe it or not, school shootings occur very seldom. It isn't an epidemic like drug use and unsafe sex and having the blind lead the blind by trying to homeschool when they are just not qualified. Roll with the changes.

A lot of you have made good points about your infants and wondering where their lives will head. What you should be doing is enjoying each other now because yesterday is gone and tomorrow never comes. Kinda' makes you wish you had thought of all these issues before you went ahead and had kids. Seriously. Think about it. You all knew you were bringing them into a nasty world that will only get worse before it gets better. And don't pick on the USA. A lot of countries are in on this dance of global destruction. Hmmmm????

Answer 7

honestly, depending on your neighbourhood, those things are rare.

yes, home schooling is an option, although I don't think it's as effective as regular schooling. The majority of what kids are learning in the early grades, are things like sharing, getting along with others, teamwork. I'm not against home schooling, I would just rather my kids go to a regular school. And if you do decide to home school, there's lots of homeschooling support networks, so you can get together with other home schoolers. You child can play sports on community teams.

Answer 8

Homeschooled children thrive socially. It is a lie perpetrated by anti-homeschoolers that all HSed kids are socially inept in some way.

There are several ways to include your children in activites with children their own age. HSers actually learn how to be social with people of ALL ages(oh the horror). A great place to start is a homeschool co-op. Check out www.hslda.org to check the homeschool laws for your state.

I will agree that there can be HSed children that find it difficult to thrive in a public environment, some even because the parents taught them to be that way. However you can also find this in public school. Just because they are surrounded by kids their age does not mean they interact with them.

Answer 9

Well, nothing much we can really do the moment they are left out of our sight. Heck, even if they were within sight, what's stopping some crazy guy from shooting from afar!

We would just have to go by faith that all would be well.

And seize each day to reinforce your love with your kids. At least if anything happens, there would be less regret (notice I didn't say "no regrets")

Answer 10

consider private or church school so that he can still make friends and play sports.


FYI: homeschooled children typically excell better than public schooled children. Look at the statistics. If the teaching is done right at home,