I've been dating a great guy since February but sex with him is just not enjoyable for me. Every other aspect of the relationship is wonderful, but being intimate is a big part of being happy for me... Should I talk to him about it? I don't want to insult him.
2007-04-24 05:19:42 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's not too well endowed, if you get what I'm saying.
2007-04-24 05:23:42 · update #1
you can enjoy a small penis unless you like pain. It took about a month or two for me to like this guy sexually and he was not packing, in the end he was the only to make me have mulitples. So just try new things it should work itself out.
2007-04-24 05:26:38 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly if what you are saying is that size is a problem for you there is nothing he can do about that and telling him he's too small to satisfy you is NOT a good idea. If you think that trying other positions or using other toys would help talk to him. If you don't think you'll ever be happy in that department sadly the relationship is doomed since you consider it a big part of being happy (not that I think you're wrong about that - it would be important to me too.)
2007-04-24 05:50:41 · answer #2 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't come out and tell him that you're not enjoying sex. Instead, try suggesting new things for the two of you to do, like new positions... or using toys... or stuff like that. Tell him what you like and what you don't like, but be gentle. You don't want him to feel offended and embarrassed.
If that doesn't work, then I would just have a convo with him about it, but keep it light. Focus more on what you want and like more than what you don't like.
Good Luck - Sexual Chemistry is definitely important.
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2007-04-24 05:27:48 · answer #3 · answered by SlickNick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a big part of who we are as humans. It affects every other part of our being. Yes, talk to him. Maybe you just aren't connecting sexually because of some issues not quite related, but uncomfortable for you or him. Talking about this problem could take care of it. It maybe uncomfortable to do, but very important. The more you put it off it could damage what the two of you have together right now.
2007-04-24 05:25:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
www.bettersex.com. Lovers aren't born great they are made. If you can't talk to him than why are you in a relationship?? My fiance and I had a good sex life before these videos but they have made us see that talking to each other isn't only out of the bed room it's also in the bedroom. He is totally awesome now and I have better sex dvd's to thank for it. We have learned so much about each other as well as about ourselfs. Hope this helps. Just get the DVD's and pop one in.
2007-04-24 05:27:14 · answer #5 · answered by Toni V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you had too high of expectations from the beginning since everything else was so wonderful. Just give it time and switch up positions and be spontaneous with it. Do it on the couch or the table or a chair or on the kitchen counter or wherever!!! You could be putting too much thought into it...
2007-04-24 05:24:41 · answer #6 · answered by benz s55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he hasn't developed the skill of having pleasurable sex, a rookie in sex. Perhaps, you can guide him a little with your experiences in order to make both of your sex life more colorful and enjoyable. Talk dirty sometimes, to add some spices.
2007-04-24 05:24:02 · answer #7 · answered by ChampsElysées 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it's better to let him know, I mean you'll feel like you are lying to him every time you two have sex, let it out, tell him that you are just not feeling him, Maybe give him some advice on what you like or not. Just be straight foward with him and tell him the truth it's the easier way.
2007-04-24 05:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by Vicz101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its either you talk to him or you will find yourself cheating to get the type of sexual attention you desire. Maybe he is feeling the same way and the only way you can find out is by talking to him and letting him know what you want in the bedroom. You cannot assume he knows what you want if you don't say anything
2007-04-24 05:23:39 · answer #9 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a bit kinky, and add toys, what ever you have to do to get off. He better be ok with it, cuz if the sex is not good for you, the relationship wont last from the tones I am getting.
2007-04-24 05:33:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋