My wife and I have been happily married for 15 years. I am 20 years older than she is. I'm 55 and she'll be 35 in August. For about 5 years now, I've been letting my beard grow (most of it is gray) and like big mustaches. I also hate getting hair cuts. My wife has been telling me that she wants me to start trimming my beard and mustach to have more of a clean-cut look. I hate shaving my face and dying my beard. My wife has lost some weight and wears size 10-12 pants, always highlights her hair, goes to the gym, takes care of our home needs including very good home cooked meals. Our daughter who is in high-school also tells me that I should do something about all my hair. My feeling about this is that I love big mustaches (always have always will), and love big beards, if this is the way I like to look, without disrespect for my wife and daughter, why should I have to change what I like for them? My wife is happy with my physic (I workout everyday), but not my looks. Can anyone help?
2007-04-24 05:16:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Hair
That should be a compromise between you and her. You'll both have to decide what is more important, the hair or the relationship (unless you both just like having a tiff about nothing, in which case you both already have what you want). ;-)
2007-04-24 05:24:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you should have to completely change the way you look if it really makes you happy. However, what's wrong with getting an occasional haircut just to keep it looking nice? Or trimming your beard and mustache so it looks clean and professional? Grey hair tends to be very coarse, so maybe the reason she wants you to trim it is because it's scratchy when you kiss. Everyone wants to feel attractive to their mate, so maybe by compromising a little and not letting all your hair get out of control, everyone will be happier.
2007-04-24 13:21:04 · answer #2 · answered by Amy M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear your wife is giving you a hard time. My husband has hair down to his waist and a beard to match (ZZ TOP all the way) and that's the way he likes it. I didn't necessarily like it in the beginning. I couldn't imagine him changing and I couldn't imagine demanding he change either. Then he wouldn't be happy. I realized that he may not look the way others want him to look BUT he is the nicest smartest man in the world . Long hair, beard and mustache ,blue jeans and t-shirts. I wouldn't change a thing!
2007-04-24 12:36:36 · answer #3 · answered by ladydaisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once had a boyfriend who grew a mustache, sideburns and a beard. I asked him to cut them off. He removed the beard, trimmed the mustache considerably and told me the sideburns were a part of his heritage and he was keeping them.
I liked that about him!
And he was right not to allow me to control everything. After all, it was his face and he had a perfect right to determine how he wanted his face to look, although he did give in somewhat.
I respected him more and still do, even though that was many years ago,
2007-04-24 12:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by SANCHA 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about the controlling issue on her part. I hate shaving also. I've had this beard for 35 years. We should periodically trim up a bit just to throw them a curve. I just had the hair and beard trimmed back for Spring and an upcoming court case. I wish you luck! ;-)=
2007-04-24 12:28:30 · answer #5 · answered by Jcontrols 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever pleases you. Your wife wouldn't take it too well with you telling her to gain 50-100 lbs because you like big women, right? Do you think she would run out and gain weight if you asked her to? Bottom line is, do what makes you happy and tell the others you are happy just the way you are.
2013-10-11 14:01:47 · answer #6 · answered by red4skins23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your wife and daughter should respect the way you feel. It seems like your wife is being a little selfish & not really considering your feelings. Would your wife shave her head and grow out her armpit hair if you said you preferred it that way? Don't think so! She should try to put herself in your place. This is a tough one, hope you guys can work it out!
2007-04-24 12:47:58 · answer #7 · answered by PEACE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, look at it this way. Your wife and daughter are the ones who have to look at you. If they tell you that they think your hair and beard would look better trimmed up some, then maybe it really would. If you don't care whether you look nice for them then do nothing. It's okay either way, please yourself or please your family, up to you....and if they really love you they will accept you either way.
2007-04-24 12:30:07 · answer #8 · answered by Tallulah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you could tone it down a bit. I mean you are wanting to look attractive for your wife not someone else, right? See if you can find a compromise with what feels good to you and what is attractive to her.
2007-04-24 12:41:39 · answer #9 · answered by yogagirl929 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try it , you might like it
do something nice for the people who love you, you can always go back to the old style
2007-04-26 23:11:32 · answer #10 · answered by ma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋