I am going to go broke. I cannot find a job in the extremely rural town I live in and cannot find child care AT ALL that I can afford. I am 19 and have a 19 month old son. My son's grandma has offered me a place to live with her. I currently live with my mom. I am not with the father. My mother charges me rent even though I have no job and am going broke. I want to live with my son's grandma 30 miles away. I can live there for FREE and there are plenty of jobs I qualify for. She will watch my son! I like her and trust her but I will have to live with my ex all summer while he is home from college. however I can save money to get my own place. My Curent boyfriend who I have been with for a LONG time does not want me to go. He was upset when I suggested it. I will not break up with him but I need to do what is best for my future. I am scared he will want to break up. I cannot go broke with my son and this is a good oppurtunity. Im confused and going nowhere fast! WHAT 2 DO???
2007-04-24 04:45:17 · 3 answers · asked by 1 Hott Mami 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
hi hon...
you probably need to do what is best for your son FIRST, and then for you second.
if your ex boyfriend doesn't know about this arrangement, maybe you can talk with him about it, so you won't be uncomfortable all summer long?
if you decide to do this, your current boyfriend will simply have to adjust or move on. YOU and YOUR CHILD are the important issues here, and if your boyfriend is jealous now, what will he be like later?
it's too bad he doesn't understand that you have responsibilities.... and if he's so concerned, why doesn't he get you a place and take care of things himself?
you could consider taking the opportunity to stay with your child's grandma for now. it seems best for your future.
take care, ok? I hope things work out for you.
2007-04-24 05:31:30 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the father of this baby NEEDS TO GET A JOB!!!!!!! is he even paying child support? this is ridiculous!!!! tell your current boyfriend that either A.) find us a place to live, or B.) he can go with you to your grandma house.
now call me crazy but you must still have some feelings for the father or else you would not be considering living together....I WOULD LIVE WITH THE GRANDMA it is easier for you right now, the father of this baby however is a real jack ***, he should have quit school and found a job and started supporting his family, also the government offers free care you just not looking hard enough or asking the right question....please contact me and let me know how things go email me whenever at priorwood2004@yahoo.com
good luck and i shall pray for you:)
kevin
2007-04-24 12:08:15 · answer #2 · answered by priorwood2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is a touph one. How long have you and your boyfriend been together? I mean how serious is your relationship? It doesn't sound like he's willing to help you financially while you are there and he knows the situation you are in. Your first concern should be yourself and your baby. If you move with his gramma, you would be rent free, get a job, free daycare, he can see his gramma and daddy. Now, how are things between you and the baby's dad? It could be awkward to live with him don't you think? It's a hard decission, but I think your boyfriend should understand a little. I would move in with the gramma until I got back on my feet. Good Luck!
2007-04-24 11:59:38 · answer #3 · answered by dollphins06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋