i'm 22 and i still dont have a boifren.i just feel inferior to be on relationship.its kinda scared.?

Question

im not good looking but yes still got ppl approaching me.but inferior always comin my mind.well im a bit fat i guess

Answer 1

It can be scary to do anything for the first time, so don't worry. Many people do not have boyfriends until their 20s or even 30s.

Concentrate on developing one or two friendships with boys. Tell them that you want to just be friends, and get to know them slowly. Also, sit down and make a list of things that you personally want in a boyfriend - make them as specific as possible. That way, you will know what you are looking for, and won't just get into a relationship with some guy just because he says that he likes you. Eventually, if you do decide to date... then it's perfectly fine to tell the boy that you want to go slow, and to get to know him first, that kind of thing.

Thirdly, it sounds as though you don't think highly of yourself. Work on your self-esteem and think about all the of good things about yourself in other areas. A very helpful book is "Reviving Ophelia" by Mary Pipher. It is a book for adolescent girls, but is good for women of all ages. She talks about dating and sex and how to develop healthy self-esteem.

Answer 2

What the hell is inaccurate with you truly I actually have lost desire in all of humanity. you're 14 and also you probably did it with a 23 365 days previous. One thats rape, 2 it truly is disgusting, 3 i frown upon you, 4 you're 14, 5 you're screwed. This guy is an fool no condom and a 14 365 days previous. you possibly both lost your virginity. a minimum of wiat till your 16 and do it with someone your age

Answer 3

you beinga little thick doesnt mean the end of the world....people always complain they are fat but they keep on eating so do yourself a favor and try to lose weight for yourself and if you like the way you look then someone else is going to like it too.....there someone out there for everyone. if you dont have a bf is becasue you are probalby spending your time been all depress and sad when the best you can do is grow some confidence

Answer 4

Here is my stradegy to get you to yes, for a date. I am going to number the process. Move on to the next number when you are comfortable with the number your on, ok?
Keep working on previous numbers but add the next.

1. Start walking straight and tall and dont walk like your no-body, walk like your proud, good posture, don't walk fast.
2. When people approach, don't shoot your eyes away or to the ground, try to just get a smile out or just a head nod that you acknowledge them.
3. Start saying hi, to people you pass or come in contact with, no need for conversation just say hi.
4. Now, if someone is within 3 feet of you smile, say hi, and how are you?
5. Ask a complete stranger a question, like do you know where a book store is in the area? Or what ever, just ask people questions, even if you already know the answer(You are doing this to build your confidence in talking with people)
6. Starting to make progress, intermediate level now, your assignment here is to, start saying hi how are you to every cute guy you can. (your just saying hi, just do it, ok, trust me)
7. If someone trys to talk to you then force yourself to think of things to talk about even if it seems silly(What if they are scared and want to ask you out but dont know how? Give them a chance to talk to you)
8. If your talking to a guy you think you would like to go out with drop a hint, but do it like this, Have you seen such and such movie yet? or gone to such and such? I would love to go but don't know anyone that would like to go..hint hint,
9. Face all your social fears, do not run, allow yourself to learn what it is like to be social and accept conversations, do not back down due to your own beliefs, to allow yourself to open up even if your scared.

There is no such thing as an ugly person. There are so many people who have a wide range of person interest and likes. Everyone is good for someone. You must not decide for someone what they like. Do not make those choices for them by pre-judging yourself.
Practise those steps of confiedence building, and you will feel more worthy and you will have a happier life.
Open up be free, have fun...

Answer 5

o my don't think like that plz! i know i don't know you but im sure you are a wonderful person especially where people are approching you don't settle yourself short. everyone deserves to be happy and experience a relationship. and this is all from being a little over weigh there has to be something else there. give a relationship a try and see what comes out of it you might like it all these thoughts will go away

Answer 6

I agree with TheKid. You have to love yourself first and realize how good you are. Then, when a person approaches you, just go with the flow. Don't second guess yourself. And your looks doesn't matter. It's how you carry yourself. If you are confident in yourself, you will attract people to yourself.

Answer 7

You're not familiar with your league. You're getting approached by guys in your league and you most likely want guys that are out of your league. Water seeks its own level and all that. Time to re-evaluate yourself and change something if you don't like it.

Answer 8

don't be scared just go on a few dates or group dates you weight has nothing to do with dating so don't feel discouraged and i have a friend that is 25 and dosent have a b/f your age has nothing to do with your relationship status just have fun.

Answer 9

if people are approaching you then you must be ok....you have to find that thing within yourself..id do that before oyu start looking for a a relationship

Answer 10

Having a BF isnt all it seems to be,, go out and have fun and stop worrying about finding someone, you will find someone when you are not looking for someone so hard,,