My grandparents got me a laptop for my 17th bday, after they learned I was going to college the next fall. They were really excited and they worked really hard to get me my laptop(over $1000).
My mom always asks to use it. Sometimes she just takes it and leaves it in dangerous situations(on the edge of a rickity table, in full sun in a parked car, etc). We have two computers that do the same exact thing and work much faster, so wouldn't you want to use the faster, more efficient computer? I dont let her use it because she is very irresponsible and has broken things of mine in the past and hidden them from me until I found them.
This laptop means a lot to me and since it is *mine* and there are *TWO* other computers in the house, I am the only one allowed to use it. This is my college laptop! But everyone is always mad when they cant use it and we get in fights all the time. Why? What is so important that they have to use it? I know I sound selfish but this is my 'baby' so to speak.
2007-04-24 04:19:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Its not wireless.
Last time I told her no, she told me I couldn't use her computer for internet access.
She also told me this morning that I will not be able to use her car to learn how to drive because I will not let her use my laptop. Trust me, I've hidden it and she still goes through my room to find it.
Its a losing battle with her. If she cant have her way, she has a coniption fit and takes something away from me.
I just want to know why she always needs to use it!
2007-04-24 04:28:56 · update #1
Its not wireless.
Last time I told her no, she told me I couldn't use her computer for internet access.
She also told me this morning that I will not be able to use her car to learn how to drive because I will not let her use my laptop. Trust me, I've hidden it and she still goes through my room to find it.
Its a losing battle with her. If she cant have her way, she has a coniption fit and takes something away from me.
I just want to know why she always needs to use it!
2007-04-24 04:28:59 · update #2
I put a password on it once and she grounded me.
She usually just takes it from my room and puts it somewhere the dogs will slobber all over it(we have 2 shar peis that need to slobber everything if they haven't seen it before). Or she puts it in her car in the front seat, goes to work, and leaves it in there all day, in the open for anyone to see, and in the hot sun.
I would like to know why she does this and talking to her gets nowhere. It only makes her more angry because she does not see why I wont let her use it. She always says that they're really durable. But mine is a Dell and NOT made for use like that.
2007-04-24 04:33:24 · update #3
You should really talk to them about this. For now, you are a young woman and "No" should mean "No". . Set ground rules for using your computer, and of course follow them yourself.
2007-04-24 04:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by ChaiTea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A new laptop would be like a new car in a family with two old computers everyone would want to try it on for a while, do not turn it into a power struggle or it would get unhealthy. After a while, it will become normal as its novelty value would wear off.
Right now she knows it is yours so she is not so caring for it, when you tell her its everyone's till you leave for college, she will take care of it as her, as I am sure she does for her car. May be you are being extra possessive about it, and that is making you extra cautious, and they would resent it surely.
2007-04-24 11:35:37 · answer #2 · answered by Abhishek Joshi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you need to give up fighting, if she takes something away, like letting you to learn how to drive a car, ask your friends instead, if she blocks Internet access, than look into wireless or stick for yourself, ask someone to assist you, this way she wont be able to control you, but now she knows she can and that's what she'd be doing...
2007-04-24 11:42:03 · answer #3 · answered by happydial 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
arguing wont help cause you will most often lose, so settle it the silent way, set it up with a user password so only you can access it then just act normal and dont say a word, they will get the hint.
2007-04-24 11:24:28 · answer #4 · answered by griffyn10941 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a password, put a lock on the bag of it or just tell her it's broken
2007-04-24 11:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by kimtee92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it on wireless access, if so then thery can sit on the lounge watchin TV and use it, you need to put a password on it
If its yours its yours theyve got theirs
2007-04-24 11:23:58 · answer #6 · answered by Audio Visual master 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't a problem with your mother, it's a problem with you. Why do you let her use it? It's yours, just tell her no. You have to learn sometime.
2007-04-24 11:23:33 · answer #7 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋