My Overprotective family does not want me talking to this guy i really like what do i do?

Question

And now they put a monitor on my computer and a block on my phone i'm 20 and think there going too far advice?

Answer 1

Youre too old for your parents to be interfering in your life.
Get some friends and move into an apt.
The more friends cheaper the rent.

Answer 2

Wow, that sucks- well, if you're 20, you are a legal adult, and there is technically not much they can do to stop you. However, since you still live under their roof and I'm assuming they're paying the rent/mortgage and all the bills, they do have a say in what you do with your life. There must be some compelling reason why your parents don't want you talking to this guy. Is he dangerous or bad for you in some way? I mean, that's pretty strict- even my super-strict upbringing was relaxed by the time I was 20. If it means that much to you, you should move out. Then you can do whatever you want. What I will say is this: Parents can be really crazy sometimes, but it's extremely probable that you'll have them around for a lot longer than this guy, so honor your parents as much as you can. Or move out.

Answer 3

Dear Overprotective: You are now an adult, and do not need anyone monitoring your personal things. This is a total invasion of your privacy, but on the other hand, you are a guest in your parents home. If their rules seem to restrictive to you, then it is time to find your own nest. If you are helping with the financial debts @ home, then you do have a say in what they may be doing, i.e. blocking phone and computer monitoring. There are more factors to consider here, I am only hearing one side of this story, your side. Remember, if you are not financially involved, you do not have any room to complain, it's called the"chain of command" and this does apply, if the aforementioned is true. May God richly bless.

Answer 4

Greetings! Since you are 20, I would try to have a mature adult discussion about why they dislike him so much. They may have a valid reason that you are not aware of. If this is the case, then they are looking out for your best interests. But if there is no other reason other than "because." I would ask them to give him a chance so they could possibly get to know him better, he might be a really nice fellow. The key is to approach the conversation in a calm and controlled manner. Parents are more inclined to listen to a child who is being rational. Good luck to you. Let us know how you do.

Answer 5

Well..... if they have gone to such great lengths to keep you from this person, what does that tell you? I can tell you that there are no parents out there in the whole wide world that would do such a thing just to make their childs life miserable. There is a reason. Have you asked them why? Have they told you why? I get the feeling this is an online guy you are interested in. Online people are not always who they say they are. You have to be careful these days. But, if you are hellbent on defying your parents and seeing this person anyway, you are 20 years old. Move out, pay your own bills, do what you want. Good luck!

Answer 6

Well I'm thinking that this guy is a real bad guy or you're obviously not telling us the whole story. So it's hard to say one way or the other. How do we even know you're really 20? I can't see a parent doing this to a 20 year old unless the guy is a real loser or the very immature 20 year old can't take care of herself and makes bad choices.

Answer 7

Maybe they have a reason to be overprotective??? Your family is the only thing you'll ever have girl, they care about you. You're still young and for sure can find someone else that your family thinks is worthy of your time and effort. You are important, always put yourself first and don't always think your family is only tryin to control you, they love ya!

Answer 8

Sweetie what I think you should do is forget about what your family thinks if you and that guy like each other forget about other people and about that monitor and the phone find another way to talk to him and tell your family your grown enough to know what you want and whats wrong and right.

Answer 9

If you're really 20, then you have a right to do basically whatever you want to do, within the law, and only if they are not your legal guardians. But if you want to, you can contact me and talk about this matter, as friends. My name is Kevin Barnard, I'm living in Bristow, OK. and my email is im1friend@yahoo and my cell phone # is 918 855 9748

Answer 10

Your 20?
Yeah, theyre going too far unless this guy really is bad news. But seeing how your 20, you could probably get your own little place and talk to who you want, type what you want.