Why are some women so insecure ?

Question

That is the question. I mean it is not
a finger pointing theme. Guys are
insecure, too. But how do you define
yourself ? Is it through a relationship,
or the opposite sex ? If a man tells
you how he feels, in an uncanny way,
then he truly does mean that. Genuine
effort is always sincere. Because a loser
does not have to have a person of
quality. Meaning it does not take much,
to please a no good somebody. So it is
not about looks, or imperfections. If one
is comfortable with themselves, then the
relationship is, too. Agreed ? OK class,
best answer wins.

Yeah, I know what you all mean.
The typical, traditional, rhetorical
bull crap. Get married by 30, and
get a divorce at 37, right? We are
in a new age. I think that relationships
must fit with the times. If not then
you end up struggling with socialistic
ideals. Keep answering, interesting
topic. *

Answer 1

The reason people are insecure is because they have low self confidence, jealousy, or self esteem...Sometime it is how they were raised or maybe they were in a relationship where bring that person down to make the other one feel good can also cause a great deal of insecurity...cheating can also make someone have insecurities...

Answer 2

I think if you have been hurt or lied to in a relationship then unfortunately you take that insecurity with you as if its happened once then whats to say it wont happen again. Yes its easy to say things but to actually be able to prove that what you are saying is true builds trust.If your constantly let down then you know something isn't right! We all know **** happens but if becomes too often then that's when women become insecure! The good old saying actions speak louder than words! If you say things and don't make it happen then don't believe its really what you want. I am not an insecure woman but on the other hand not met the right man that i feel totally secure with yet either.Not everybody is perfect and if you truly love someone then you love them for their imperfections too its the whole package your in love with good and bad! My ex was always late and I'm mean late like 4-5 hrs late usually from the time he said he would be there which to me is just rude esp if no phone call. Used to drive me mad but didn't mean i loved him any less. You have to be comfortable and have respect for each other if you don't have that then relationship isn't likely to work out

Answer 3

Too right, there's insecure and there's insecure. I really think you've got to trust each other for a relationship to work on all levels. I think it's sometimes okay if you just want some fun and you see the games as part of it, but that's not my style and it's not productive or really for a long term thing. How can people like that have any happiness in their lives if they don't trust those their closest too.

My boyf and I have a really honest relationship and feel secure enough in our selves and each other to confide in each other even if we know what we're feeling is stupid and insecure. We find it reasuring to discus that type of stuff because it helps to remind us how much we both mean to each other. It's also hilarious how well we know each other, for example if a guy that looking like Johnny Depp walks by my boyf will sometimes clock him before I do!

In a more general context I can't stand insecure girls, they're bitchy, two faced, jealious and spend all their energies in such destructive ways, I just can't understand. I had a hard time from girls like that at school and it was a definitely a factor in me moving away from my very small hometown. I now find I have more male friends than female and generally find guys easier to get along with and trust. And the boyf's cool with it too, so all is good, glad and shiny!

Hope that helps!

Answer 4

Hi I am insecure my poor partner puts up with it. What makes me insecure, a few things really first i believe for a woman to believe a man (or another woman) loves them they need to love themselves and be happy in their own body, I am not happy with the way i look and i think if i cant stand too look at myself why would he and if a slim better looking person comes along why would he say no.. Also I grew up living with my mum as my dad cheated on her and is in his 3rd marriage he has been cheating all through hid life he is supposed to be my role model. and on top of that i was in a relationship for 5 years with a son when he cheated on me so my faith is destroyed but there is hope if you love that person compromise is the answer my mam understands why I'm like i am and we talk about it. I know all men aren't cheaters but sometimes its hard to get over it when you have been hurt so badly.

Answer 5

Women are insecure because we live our entire lives trying to win a man. No kidding. Since birth, girls are trained in attraction as far as looks go, and all that hard work can be torn down in an instant with a glance that says, "You're not good enough." Trust me, it's a sad, sad thing. Everybody thinks too much of the opinions of others, not just women. Not all of us are insecure like that, either, just those of us who never thought about how hard we try to work our way to certain failure.

Answer 6

I don't really believe all this "if you're comfortable with yourself you shouldnt feel insecure" when it comes to relationships. Relationships by their very nature require you to depend on someone else, and you can not control a person's feelings-you can feel as confident as you like about yourself, but you can never be confident that your partner won't leave you. They could change their mind one day, or they could meet someone else who sweeps them off their feet... it happens all the time.

I'm not suggesting we should all be consumed with insecurity but it's not difficult to see how a few bad experiences could turn someone into a total wreck.

Hey Phillipa, I think we went out with the same guy! 5 hours late, no phone call, wouldn't answer mine... sounds all too familiar!

Answer 7

well im not a woman just a teen lol
im used 2 be vey insecure so much when around boys coz i was probably afraid by then that they were gonna try and make a move or something. when in a relationship the woman seems to be more herself coz its kind of obvious that the other partner won't jugde her. sometims the insercurity is caused by the women really not wanting the guy etc to touch her coz some guyz do it in a pervy kind of manner.

Answer 8

we like you guys get insecure from past relationships
I was with the man of my dreams for 26 years, then he shattered me, our world, our family with his drinking.when I left he said no one would want me for I had breat cancer at 19. I had marks he said no man could ever deal with. I did not loose all my breast but I lost more than 2/3 of each breast.
later reconstruction to make em look more normal but NOW TINY

I met another guy married a year later and found out he was not who he said he was or what he said he was
I am very insecure and trying now to come out of it. My dad left me as a little girl as well so ....... But we are like you guys..
it only takes a few times of something happening that our insecurities pop up like crazy... the man woman thing is not that hard to figure out and handle if we would treat each other as we want to be treated.....
and I have had ladies say gosh your almost flat chested, and they say this when we are out in a group or crowed..... I dont tell them why.... It hurts when people say things like this but again YEP there goes up my insecurity flags all over again.

Answer 9

Everyone defines themself differently... Like I am quite and shy... I look like hilary swank (it's scarry) BUT I don't think I am pretty... I am very insecure about myself... Even when people tell me that I am pretty...
I think it depends on all factors... Honestly, about the relationship people have to love themselves before they love anyone else fully.... So if a person is that insucure then the relationship is going to have insecurities too...

Answer 10

Who are you to define a loser? Genuine effort is not always sincere, it could be for some sort of gain. If one is comfortable withthemselves that doesn't make their relationship perfect. You have to factor in the other person. There is always another factor!