My husband got diagnosed with diabetes and the doctor is having trouble regulating it. He has been in the Hospital a couple times. He keeps having attacks. He is depressed because he didn't have medical coverage before and now no one will pay for anything affiliated with diabetes. His friend called (he's in a local band) and wants to throw a benefit for him. My husband thinks that people should only do benefits for those having ailing diseases. What is your opinion on this. It would help us pay the medical bills off, which would be so much relief on me. We both work full time and I send the Hosptial and doctor what I can, but it does cost us 100.00 for him to go to the doctor and he has to go every two weeks. Plus now we owe the Hospital 5,000.00. Would is be wrong to let him throw the benefit????
2007-04-24 03:21:35 · 14 answers · asked by MommyofTwo 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I don't think it would be wrong to throw the benefit. People like to help, but some just don't know how. Many decide that giving money isn't very comfortable. Instead of asking for money first, why doesn't his friend charge an entrance fee? He has to advertise it as much as he can to get people to go. After his performance, THEN he should say that its a benefit concert. After seeing the outcome on that, decide wether or not to throw another benefit perfomance with "benefit" in it and see how people respond.
I think you should tell your husband to accept the fact that people want to help him. Many people don't have anyone when it comes to support, especially at a time like this.
About his attacks.. is he taking care of himself? He should be on a diet and light exercise program, even if its little by little. I've seen that it helps a lot just walking 20-30 minutes a day and being even more cautious of what you eat.
Good Luck!!
2007-04-24 03:33:10 · answer #1 · answered by YayaMami87 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your husband has been a self-sufficient person for most of his life and probably has been a big help to others also. Now it's his turn to be on the receiving end and he doesn't know how to deal with it. Your husband needs to understand that diabetes is an ailing disease and if not treated properly, he could lose his life. If your husband does not want the benefit, respect his decision but also explain to him that it is OK for others to do for him what he has done for them. Call your local diabetes association. They will be able to assist you and your husband with valuable information regarding doctors, treatments, and assistance with medical bills. Hope all turns out great for you and your husband and I hope your husband accepts the offer of the benefit concert in his honor.
2007-04-24 10:48:31 · answer #2 · answered by desstan 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't be wrong at all. The idea that your friend has is what we call "gadugi" in Cherokee, working together toward some goal without asking for anything in return. It can be anything from helping someone put up a window that was broken to what your friend wants to do. I'm glad there are still people out there like him, actually. Let him do it.
Money for proper treatment can mean the difference between a good, active life with diabetes and dying of ketoacidosis.
2007-04-24 11:09:56 · answer #3 · answered by Danagasta 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's very nice that friends would want to help you out by throwing a benefit but the person who should be making the decision as to whether to have it is your husband and he has said he does not want it. He has to be the one who is comfortable with it and if he's not, then let it be. I hope you will find other ways that will make both you and him okay about the fund raising. I can only imagine it has been tough. Good luck.
2007-04-24 12:24:24 · answer #4 · answered by pathfindercia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely nothing wrong with that. About 6 years ago we frequented a local bar were we were friends with the D.J. and his wife and she was diagnosed with the same illness,they threw a benefit party to help with their cost and the place was so packed that we couldn't even shoot pool because of the people.They offered door prizes and ticket prizes and by the end of the evening I don't think they realized just how many people care about them. I am sure you will get the same responce,I can only wish you and your husband the best.Good Luck!!
2007-04-24 12:16:56 · answer #5 · answered by Sidetracked0260 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, if your husband continues to have problems with his diabetes, you should consult with your doctor whether it is possible or not to try alternative medicine (natural medicine that is).
As a doctor, I rely on chemical medications for different types of conditions my patients had. But I have had some patients before with conditions that none of my colleagues and me could control. Some of those patients turned to alternative medicine, and now are living normal lives.
However, before starting any treatment of any kind: CONSULT WITH YOUR DOCTOR.
I wish you both the best.
2007-04-24 10:35:49 · answer #6 · answered by David G 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Have a benefit there is nothing wrong with it. Your friends offered to do it.
You do need to spend the money raised to the doctors and the hospital.
The only thing wrong with this would be if you used the money to buy you, your husband, any other family new things, or use the money to fix up your home.
I have seen lots of benefits done and the money used on the wrong way. Thats when it's wrong.
Good luck and I will add your family to our church prayer list.
2007-04-24 10:27:30 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica H 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Benefits are for people in need - medical need OR financial need. I would appreciate any help I could get, including your friend's concert.
And try to find a different health insurance. Not all are so stingy on diabetes.
2007-04-24 10:27:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
Not at all!!
You are so lucky to have a friend who is willing to help you out!! Your husband IS ailing. I work at a pharmacy and I've seen diabetics who have lost eyes, limbs, and have even died because of this.
It IS an ailing disease!
2007-04-24 10:26:36 · answer #9 · answered by Songbird 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Diabetes IS a serious illness!
I think your friend is doing a great thing by having a benefit.
After his health is better you could do something great for the band to repay them for their assistance.
2007-04-24 10:41:12 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋