Who pays the check?

Question

I find it difficult to understand why it is that most people feel that a man should be responsible to pay the entire check at the end of a date.

Personally, I think that it should be 50/50.

Now, if my date was to insist on paying it all himslef, then I will respect that request.

Times have changed....

What do you guys think?

Answer 1

I don't think there is any SHOULD about it. I personally don't mind if the guy picks up the check. I don't ever want him to think I expect it though. I will always offer to pay at least my share, if not the whole bill. I would expect that the guy would let me pay, at least every now an then. No, chivalry is not dead, but why does chivalry only belong to the man?

Answer 2

In my opinion, if your in a relationship, the couple should be able to share their money. So that being said, they should also be able to share bills.

As a guy I do like paying, but I also don't like feeling mooched. I think by both paying bills it shows that both people are serious enough about the relationship that they are willing to give up a little cash for it too. Even though money is not an important part of a relationship (necessarily), I feel that how money is looked at by the couple can also tell how they will look at each other.

Answer 3

When you cut things 50/50 it doesn't say much for the relationship. When I dated my girlfriend, it was on a basis of opening our pockets and seeing what we have and putting it together. If it cost $25 and she pulled out a 20 I would add the 5. If we went to a fair or something and had to pay entry fee, one of us would say I'll pay entry and you can pay for the stuff inside. It's about working together, not just splitting things down the middle

Answer 4

Yes 50/50,times have changed

Answer 5

Him paying is based on tradition
Woman paying is based on feminism

All in all its your choice but wouldnt you prefer having a "traditionaly" oriented person as a partner to having one that you just cant figure out and changes opinions all the time? Besides why would you want to pay if someone else offers to pay for you? Yes, i do understand the whole point of being / proving independence but equally this can create the illusion that you as a woman do not want to be taken care of which can create offense

Answer 6

I think most women who say that they want to go 50/50 are hypocrites. Women will go 50/50 but won't ever go out with the guy again. So spare me your fake outrage. Women offer but secretly hope that the guy will be chivalrous and pay for everything.

Answer 7

this is a very old fashioned value and still runs today.
but since women are moving up the career ladder and earning enough to support themselves there is no need for them to not pay.
my boyfriend is generous in this way and does pay for alot of my drinks when out, but i do my fair share.
we never have a problem with it really.
but yes i dont see a reason why it shouldnt be 50/50

Answer 8

50/50

Answer 9

I'm pretty old fashioned, so usually I foot the bill.

If anything though, some ladies like to pay too. The dates I've had like that usually turn out to be more independant than women who simply look for a "Sugar daddy".

Some women though take things to an extreme. "Can you pay my bills?" by Destiny's Child, is the "Gold digger's" anthem. My department secretary at work is like this for example. She's told me before that if she moved in with a guy, she would expect his paycheck to go to rent, food and etc, while hers is used by her for her own wants. So basically, he pays the bills while she spends her check at Macy's.

When you have women like that in this world, men don't change their mindset so easily.

Answer 10

50/50 sounds good my mom only pays like 10 and my dad is mad the more and more you are together the more he will want you to help so do what he wants for now and when he wants help. help him and only go to 50/50 dont do more then 50 only if you really need it!