Should i just do it ?

Question

1'm 16 and i am still a virgin and i am really insecure about my body, i have a boyfriend and we have been going out for nearly seven months now and i trust him with my life and i love him so much, we have be closer than normal lately and we have talked about having sex, but i am scared incase i get hurt after wards and i am really insecure about my body, so should i just have sex with him or not the thing is i really want to. I am so confused HELP :'(

Answer 1

When you are ready, you will know. Dont rush yourself into something that you might regret later on.

Answer 2

Saying, even to others that you love someone at 16 is very hard and often not what you really feel (when you reflect back on it).

My friend's daughter has just turned 13 and she has said she has been in love 5 times already and there is just no way, she thinks it's just something to say to someone you are interested in.

Losing your virginity certainly won't help your insecurity issues.

I would actually talk to your parents, both about the sex and the self-esteem issues.
No parents want their daughter to have sex at an early age, but statistically, they probably had sex early too.

Answer 3

Well, there is a time and a place for everything and having sex will happen when the time and place are right. It will happen naturally and won't be pre-planned. You and your boyfriend will make love and it will be wonderful for you both. Always use protection, so make sure you always have some with you. Most people are insecure about their bodies at 16, I was, but I got over it and so will you.
I am sure you are perfect in every way and as long as your boyfriend thinks so and loves you, no one elses opinion matters.

Answer 4

listen.. I'm 20 years old now.
I lost my virginity when I turned 19.. hard enough to believe as it is.
Take your time. Only have sex when you feel comfortable. I, myself am insecure with my body.
I dont take having sex lightly. Its something, that in general, should be with 2 people who are in love.
You have your whole life to have sex. lol.
For your boyfriend to have waited 7 months already, you have a great guy.
He's understanding. But dont give in just because he wants it.
Yes, its painful for some women, but if he takes his time with you, its not that bad. Trust me.
my boyfriend and i were together for 3 months before I decided to have sex with him.\
He had asked me before, but I told that I have never had intercourse before, and he understood.
He never asked me again, until we were laying down together, and i told him i was ready.
You have to be physically, mentally and emotionally ready for sex.
When I told him I was ready, I wasnt scared. And thats when I knew that I really was ready.
If you two get into it, and almost in the act, and you have a fear in you, stop. You're not ready yet.
I say, wait. Wait until you are sure that you are ready.
Take your time, you have a great guy, I can tell. And he's patient. He's been waiting for 7 months now... and he seems understanding. Sex is nothing that should be taken lightly.
Best of wishes to you, and write me if you want.
Savor your virginity, you get a lot more respect that way.

Answer 5

Listen, everyone gets nervous when they are going to have sex for the first time. It is a confusing time in your life so it is important to think about it before you just jump in and do it, because you will never be able to get that first time back.
You have to make sure you are ready and that you are sharing this with the right person.
Don't worry babe, every girl is insecure about their bodies, i know i am. But your boyfriend has been with you for a while now so obviously he loves every inch of you. You have nothing to worry about babe, as long as you think about it and you are both careful then i don't see why you cant take that next step in your relationship.
Good luck babe xxx

Answer 6

i dont think that you are ready to have sex yet. that is just my personal opinion.

first, i think that you need to love yourself before you ask him to love you. become more secure in yourself. you are beautiful, every woman is beautiful in her own way. you need to know and accept that fact.

second, having sex for the first time is no light matter. sex is a very powerful thing, especially at a young age. getting pregnant or recieving and undiagnosed std could ruin any plans that you may have had for the future. also, you need to know that you love your boyfriend with your whole heart. if you are afraid of getting hurt later on, you dont. its just plain and simple, and im sorry to be so harsh. you need to be able to know in your heart that he would never do anything to purposefully hurt you. until you know that, you do not completely trust him and are not ready to have sex with him, especially since it would be your first time. also, you say "should i just do it?" it sounds like you arent taking it seriously or are being backed into it? i might be wrong, but thats how it comes off to me.

and third, think the decision through completely. know all of the risks, potential consequences, and pros. the decision is ultimatley yours, and i hope you make the right one. the fact that you are asking this question shows that you are at least open to the fact that you may or may not be ready. make whatever choice you feel is right for you. good luck.

Answer 7

Like other people said, it really depends whether you feel ready for it. If you know you're ready then fine... if you are having doubts then don't do anything that you might regret.
I think it's one of those things that is entirely subjective - you have to do what is right for you, and if you make the decision not to then please don't let your boyfriend change your mind. That's what happened to me about a year ago. We broke up quite soon after, basically because my feelings towards him were such a mess and I still find the thought of what we did really uncomfortable. Don't worry about anyone else - just do what's right for you. Good luck.

Answer 8

Do not do anything that you would feel uncomfortable with (especially if it involves your body, you only get one of those). And don't let anybody pressure you into doing anything you don't want to. Try to get your self-esteem up. Insecurity turns people off. That being said I would meditate with your feelings and find out if you are really ready to take this next step. If so, stay safe and good luck.

Answer 9

If I say no, are you going to listen? No you won't, but trust me the day will come when you'll be sorry, and then its too late. You will risk everything, your only 16, you'll meet alot of guys and he will want to date other girls. Right now you think and he too thinks your the only one for each other, but it will happen he will want to see how it is with someone else and it will break your heart in a million pieces, hold off for a couple more years until your at least 18 you won't be sorry and each day you can look your parents straight in the eye, don't forget they trust you and want whats best for their girl.......

Answer 10

Doesn't sound to me like you really ready, if you're not sure.
Everyone has hang ups about they're body, weahter they're having sex or not. If you trust him that much, then you shouldn't be scared of getting hurt. So do you trust him as much as you think?
It sounds like your both sensible, your talking about it rather than just doing it, so I'm sure you'll make the right decision.
But you have to be %100 sure.
Good luck.

Answer 11

No dont, ,more than likely he is not the person that you will be with for the rest of your life. Be unique most girls have sex at your age, not many save themselves. Dont allow him to take something so precious from you just bc you feel close to him. Tell him that you have made a choice to wait until marriage and see how close he will still be. I am sure that he will hang in for awhile and then jet.