my boyfriend has become distant lately. we hardly see and haven spoken so much over the last couple of days. feeling frustrated, i text last night and told him we need to "talk". so we agreed to meet up today only he hasn rang to find out when. i think he should ring no me. right? i want to call it a day because now i feel like hes not making so much of an effort now but i feel i need to hear whats going on.
2007-04-24 02:13:57 · 14 answers · asked by snowflakes 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
M C S rao what are you on. who talked about marriage?
2007-04-24 03:43:50 · update #1
It is the feeling that you are not recognized that is hurting you.
You are craving for undue recognition. Learn to balance the need of sharing caring and recognition.
Discusses the matter with him.
Key to happy married life.
Married life needs lot of adjustments. Before marriage both of you are more than eager to accommodate but it is not possible forever. Remember blood group compatibility is a must for having healthy babies. Find out about interests in various activities. Best way is to ask him/she to make a list and you can do the same and match them. If more than 50% match is not there life becomes boring soon. Most important is what You don’t like and tolerance level.
The best way to handle burden in married life and make it happy is to learn how to balance the needs of sharing caring and recognition.
Good luck. Heat to heart discussion is the key.
Read “what is that you want” given in know your source
Good luck.
2007-04-24 02:19:19 · answer #1 · answered by righteducation 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hold back if you feel you need to get something off your chest then it's best you do that. Don't wait too long because then you start to lose focus and you'll try to justify everything that is wrong. RING HIM !!!! You have a right to do that and you should not feel out of place or like a nag. If this is the guy you are in a relationship with then there should be an open line of communication between the 2 of you no matter who initiates it first. If he does not want to take you seriously or try to understand what you are feeling then that is when you should probably consider moving on to find someone who will appreciate everything about you. Including your emotions. RIng him...I hope it works out.
2007-04-24 09:21:33 · answer #2 · answered by nikkid6910705 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need some personal pampering. You can't deal with this if you are feeling neglected so take a little time for some self care (manicure, bubble bath, dance to great music, etc.)
Take time to look your absolute best today. Look yourself in the mirror and remind yourself that you are a great catch. Then, call him up and TELL him what time you want to meet.
When you meet, tell him you have noticed his distance and you want to discuss it. Maintain your cool and listen. Don't be defensive, just listen. If he feels your emotions coming on, he will not say a word. Repeat back what he says and then tell him how you see things from your side. Communicate.
If you sit around waiting for him to make the move, you are wasting your own personal time. Get the answers you need one way or the other today and prepare to deal with it.
Good luck.
2007-04-24 09:26:57 · answer #3 · answered by Singer4fun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had something similar to this before. the best thing is to not talk to him at all until he talks to you first. if he's not trying to make this work, why should you? it's not going to work without both people's efforts. don't keep your hopes up. it's most likely that he doesn't really want to talk. i'm sorry but i think his attention is elsewhere. please move on=( oh and when he does talk to you, which may be quite a while, don't act too friendly. you should be mad that your bf's treating you this way. take your stand. i advise you to forget about him. not worth it.
2007-04-24 09:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by heartiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arrrgggh I haaaateee when this happends chica this is a typical guy thing. he feels safe now. hes secure so he feels as though talkin to u is not his main priority. to me i look at it as not makin an effort. why shud u be the one callin and makin plans? cos when u grill his a$$ about it he gon get all 'why u always sweatin me for'? ask him whats up if nothin changes my advice is to end it and not wast no more of ur time
2007-04-24 09:20:20 · answer #5 · answered by Rianna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You asked for a "talk". You call him and tell when and where. Not to be the bearer of bad news but it sounds like he may be at the end of his rope with this relationship. Good luck.
2007-04-24 09:19:53 · answer #6 · answered by Adapted_For_The_Screen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him and tell him when otherwise maybe he just wont care enough to find out. Being distant can be caused by alot of things, but one thing it causes is confusion. So talk to him and fins out whats up that way you arent stressin
2007-04-24 09:19:20 · answer #7 · answered by vbolden88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to break up but is stalling because he wants you to do it. Do him a favour and break it off, he will pretend he doesn't want to but he will be happy about it. This way he can place the onus on you just in case you come back and say "you hurt me" he can say "well you broke it off" Or tell him to be a man and do it
2007-04-24 09:23:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You opened the door when you texted him. It is up to him to walk through it. You shouldn't have to guide him where you want or need him to be. If he doesn't have the decency to call you to ask when and where, then he isn't worth it.
2007-04-24 09:23:25 · answer #9 · answered by cinnatigg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk, get it out in the open then make a decision.
2007-04-24 09:18:38 · answer #10 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋