Ladies, have you ever been in a relationship where you discovered that a man had lied to you? Could you forgive him? What was the lie? Does the subject of the lie mater? Can a relationship survive a lie?
2007-04-24 02:10:30 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-04-24 02:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by righteducation 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes the subject of the lie matters.
say you lied about your favourite colour, thats not really a big deal, although why you would do that doesnt make sense! lol
but to lie about say, where you had been or something major like being married or having a girlfriend, well then yes it matters!
depending on the extremity of the lie says how easy or hard it would be to get over.
trust plays a major part in any relationship and if you cant trust each ither well then there will be alot of work to do.
if you both are serious about each other then im sure you can work through this. but then again i dont know what the lie was!
good luck
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2007-04-24 02:17:03 · answer #2 · answered by mowgligurl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When me and my fiance had been dating for about 6 months, he promised me he wouldn't do something again (I don't really want to say what) but I found out multiple times that he still did. We had a rough time, and broke up. We ended up getting back together. We are completely happy now. I have forgiven him, but I will never forget how him lying to me made me feel. To answer your question, no lie is a small lie if it comes from someone you trust. A lie breaks the trust, and believe me it took a long time for me to trust him again. But if your love is strong enough, you can get through anything. If the lie is something so big that you just can't let it go, then you will have a hard time moving on in the relationship you are in. Have a talk w/ your guy. I hope it works out.
2007-04-24 02:19:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes it can survive a lie depending how big the lie was and what it was my fella and i survived it was hard work i still ain't got the 100% trust back but its nearly there if you love someone with all your heart you will find out the problem and get to the bottom of it and work it out together you may never forget about it as it will always be in the back of your mind but you can forgive once and i mean only once i would forgive if it ever happened again i would dump him good luck
2007-04-24 02:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can get past a lie. Subject does matter. Was it something stupid? Or detrimental to the relationship? Did he lie about how much they spent on a pair of shoes? Did he lie about being with another girl?
It all depends. How important is the other person to you? If you love them, you can get past it. Good luck!
2007-04-24 02:16:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion no! A relationship cannot survive a big lie. I suppose it could if it is a small lie but then you have to think cause small lies always lead to big lies! I have had boyfriends who have cheated on me, lied about it and when they got caught would always say that they are making sure that im the one and now they know that i am!
2007-04-24 02:17:09 · answer #6 · answered by Stacey-Lee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes a relationship can survive a lie depending on what it was and how forgiving the person can be........ you have to rebuild trust though which can take a while, but if you know you love eachother or are falling in love and you know that the relationship is worth saving then sure . forgive , learn to be honest and move past it together!
2007-04-24 02:17:35 · answer #7 · answered by littlemisssaigon 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A lie is the most damaging thing done to confidence , confidence is the fuel of the friendship that links a couple , that , can damage love too , it's hurtful and it jeopardizes the credibility of the entire data base about your couple...because if he/she has been using lies with this....with what else has she/him ? the sincere acknowledge of this by the culprit should be done fast , and a long term probation of his/her word would be necessary ... if that chance is given... none wants to be with a fake , prove you're not a fake , say why you needed to lie ....and you both work on that ...
compulsive liars are the worst heart breakers ....
2007-04-24 02:19:12 · answer #8 · answered by robertman30s 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My ex lied all the time. Got to the point that even when he told the truth, I accused him of lying anyway. We were only married 5 years and divorced now for 11 years. And I've been much much better off since getting rid of him. Lies are not forgiveable, not in anyway, shape or form. Tell me the truth, or get out of my life.
2007-04-24 02:15:34 · answer #9 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it can... but the liar will have to be on eggshells for a while. I have had the same problem, My fiance' and I are recovered drug addicts. We both used to get high together. He would lie to me alot back then. I just had to accept that he was like he was because of the drugs. Now that we are sober, we have the greatest relationship!
I must say though, I don't fully trust him now. Not that I think that he is doing wrong. I just don't want to be blind to it if he is. Make sense?
2007-04-24 02:16:32 · answer #10 · answered by lovepink317537 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋