I've never been in this situation where a guy treated me so disrepectfully. He's really nice, kind-hearted, but does mean things either becaue he's dumb, so he says, or is a very good actor. OR he'll do them, waits to see if I react or he gets away with it.
I've always moved on if someone'v values were so different. Am I just lonely or like that it's fun, not too much pressure as I know it's not forever?
For a while I wanted to break up, and it didn't bother me as much..but I sought him out and we got back together. I broke it off this time; I felt I had no choice.
He brought his recent ex live-in that he doesn't/ didn't consider a 'girlfriend' to an event with us,and his friends.They were very friendly, touchy/huggy,he was attentive to her, and to me. I later asked where I stood; he got mad and said he felt backed into a corner and wouldn't 'choose'.
He said: If forced to choose, I'd choose neither". Am I over reacting? That's the cruelest thing anyone has ever said to me.
2007-04-24 02:07:25 · 12 answers · asked by Marie123 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because you have low/ no self-esteem.
2007-04-24 02:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not you...so the only thing I can tell you is what I would do
I would dump this guy so fast he would not know what happened until the door hit him on the way out!
I would either have him leave or I would leave and never be with this person again.
That kind of lack of respect is not because he is dumb...it is because he can be that way and get by with it.
Stop the abuse...verbal abuse can be more harmful than physical abuse.
Dump him and move on with your life. Being alone can be a good time to explore yourself and find out what you want out of this life and what you will and will not tolerate in others. When the time is right for you...start dating again. Your time to shine in love will come. Just take your time and move slow with love and moving in with someone....but for now, take the first step to a better life for you and get rid of this a$$hole.
be cool...
2007-04-24 02:15:31 · answer #2 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a contract between two people, it provides security, and strength among other things. I guess that it probably laughed at these days because marriage is looked at as a failing practice. However, if it is taken seriously it is a wonderful thing. A good marriage is built on a good relationship and provides a good environment to raise children and instill good values. And tis guy has not even got a foundation on how to deal with relationship,it is going to be tough one though.
2016-05-17 10:08:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't you see that the man doesn't want a relationship with you? Can't you just figure it out all by yourself? Does he have to trample all over your heart, before you'll leave him alone? You're an intelligent woman and there are other men. Stop acting like a love-starved child and move on.
2007-04-24 02:27:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want to spend time with him because you NEED him..for love hope so..in situations were my self respect is in danger..i get out of the situation a way to tell myself and others that i don't want to be disrespected..and hurt..because when encountered by such disrespectful situation you will be forced to make a decision which might later hurt yourself and your love one..as in your case.. to maintain respect..its very hard to accept a cruel act from the one you love.you did not over react..you were just right..but the consequence is hard
2007-04-24 02:25:12 · answer #5 · answered by chit MD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM!!!! You are wasting your time with a loser. He is not nice if he disrespects you! That is a deal breaker. Anyway the more time you spend with him, the less chance of meeting someone worthy of you! Life is too short. Yes. it is tough when we get older, but by no means impossible. Good luck. Respect yourself
2007-04-24 02:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave him alone and stop letting him walk all over you, he is playing nothing but head games with you and i am sure you can do better then that.You also sound like you need to be on your own you are allowing him to treat you this way and if you stop allowing it then he won't be doing it find someone else and move on.
2007-04-24 02:13:09 · answer #7 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you people stay in situations like this? It always amazes me why a woman would take this. Get out and make a real life for yourself.
2007-04-24 02:11:30 · answer #8 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG and he is 44 u say.... wow what a child..... move on. unles u like being treated this way. you say his really nice and kind hearted but how can you justify that when you just wrote how he is treating you. come on stop being desperate and find the respect you deserve elsewhere!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-24 02:12:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just read your lst paragraph. that was enough. i couldn't help but think: dumb. what a waste of your time......why are you still with him? Give your self a break.....and welll, get real.....honey, life is way too short to be wrapped up in a worthless relationship.....get away....move on to bigger and more that better (much) dating situations....ok......give it up....this sounds way too negitive too bother with, really. move on, and the best of luck to you......afterall, you just might find yourself to be much...HAPPIER........God bless you and yours......take care, but move on........really......let some other "sap" mess with his immaturity, etc.......go and enjoy your own life........
2007-04-24 02:16:37 · answer #10 · answered by suzy3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your deffinatally not over reacting!!! you need to dump this jerk and move on! you dont need that! you need a man who will treat you with the respect you deserve!
2007-04-24 02:13:17 · answer #11 · answered by Kelly*Belly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋