As soon as I get home from school, they are right on me about getting on my chores!! Now, I know that they have to work, but don't you think they should at least try to help us a little bit?? AND...for some reason, they think I'm jumping out of my window at night to go see a boy!! =[ I have a b/f, but he lives way to far for me to even think about going out to find him. I am 14, but they are treating me like I'm a full blown and grown adult!! They are always saying "I'm tired of paying for you, you need a job" I HAVE APPLIED EVERYWHERE I POSSIBLY CAN!! I am 14, not 16!! They won't take me....I am constantly getting grounded for the lamest reasons!! Like if they tell me to be home at 8, and I get home at 8:01, they ground me for two weeks!!! That's a little much don't you think?? Well, I could go on FOREVER with this, and I'm pretty sure you are tired of reading, so, Do you think they might be a little too hard on me...?? There is WAY more to this story but I don't feel like typing it.
2007-04-24 01:45:51 · 7 answers · asked by l1zzyxc0re 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't think there's anything wrong with children helping out with chores, but I also think that the upkeep of the house should be the entire family's responsibility. As long as you do your chores and get them done in an efficient amount of time your parents should back off a bit and let you have a breather when you get home from school.
Secondly, you are too young to find a job, other than babysitting. Your parents need to realize that having children means they take care of them on every level, including financially, until they are at least 18 years old. If they want to teach you financial responsibility fine. If they want you to understand that if you want "extras" then you need to help pay for them that's fine too. But when it comes down to it, they need to allow you to be a kid and not expect you to provide completely for yourself.
As far as grounding you for two weeks just for being 1 minute late, that's silly. They should choose their battles and apply punishment in more serious offenses that you may make.
I don't know why your parents would think that you are sneaking out your bedroom window at night, but it doesn't make sense if your boyfriend doesn't even live anywhere close to you and doesn't spend the night in the town you live in. I guess you need to ask them why it is that they feel you are doing this.
Sit down and talk to your parents. Be respectful and verbalize how you feel. Let them know that you are only 14 years old and you feel pressured to take on adult-like responsibilities. Also, let them know that you aren't asking for them to allow you to be spoiled, you will make every effort to be responsible on the level of a typical 14 year old, meaning you will go to school, do your school work, do chores, abide by their rules (as long as they pertain to your age) and act respectfully towards them and other adults.
2007-04-24 02:01:09 · answer #1 · answered by Lwood 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nah, your parents sound pretty normal to me. It may seem harsh , but you will understand later. Hopefully, you aren't jumping out your window, they probably know of someone's kid who is doing it. About getting a job, maybe you are asking for material things that you don't really need but want? Your parents grounding you for being 1 minute late, is a great way to show you responsibility..like when you get a job, employers don't like employees who are tardy.
Your parents know what their talking about!
2007-04-24 08:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by shae 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol well i got a 14 years old,, an i can see their point, but your too,, the thing is, all threw life you got rules,, now if you like our 14 year old, you put thing off, ,, so i say, when you get in, do the chor, an then you have time to do the thing you want,
2007-04-24 08:52:40 · answer #3 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. I do not believe your folks are being hard on you. I think you are making it hard on yourself.
i'm a parent. of 3 children. my one and only son, is a marine., and my other 2 (gifts from God), are 9 and 10.....(i feel that these 2 would agree with your feelings...), 'cause I expect my 2 youngest to do chores, homework, etc........also. i do this , so they do not become "couch potatoes", or lost in this crazy world of technology, and last but not least, to hopfully raise my 2 youngest with the same manners, and "healthy" out looks on life as their older brother was raised with......your parents are not being hard on you, yes, you may feel as tho they are, but know they are simply looking out for your best interests....really......@ 14 it is hard to see this.......and you have a boyfriend......why?.....as far as looking for a job: have you tried babysitting?.......good luck to you, dear.....all that you are worrying yourself is all thru "love" from your folks...ok...don't swet it.....enjoy it.....the best to you and yours.
2007-04-24 08:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by suzy3 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
your parents think there dealing with a difficult teen when dealing with difficult parents. they are way to hard on you i think you should talk to them the way they treat you .just thinking about your parents make me sweat its probably another problem their trying to cover up by mistreating you.
2007-04-24 08:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by SPONTANEOUS SYDNEY 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey..E-mail or Im me and give me all the datails so i can give you advice..I am a mother of 3 daughters..
2007-04-24 08:50:40 · answer #6 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, they are over doing it. Unfortunately you're they're kid.
2007-04-24 08:49:58 · answer #7 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋