i just want a simple ceremony, and only for 50 guests, and simple food. But the problem is, i'm worried about what other people might think. My friends had grand weddings thats why.
2007-04-24 01:41:15 · 33 answers · asked by OnionSkin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is a great idea. The purpose of wedding ceremony is to let you near and dear ones now that you are wedded. Make it a registered marriage if feasible. Followed by a reception party.
Most difficult thing in life is doing simple things.
Key to happy married life.
Married life needs lot of adjustments. Before marriage both of you are more than eager to accommodate but it is not possible forever. Remember blood group compatibility is a must for having healthy babies. Find out about interests in various activities. Best way is to ask him/she to make a list and you can do the same and match them. If more than 50% match is not there life becomes boring soon. Most important is what You don’t like and tolerance level.
The best way to handle burden in married life and make it happy is to learn how to balance the needs of sharing caring and recognition.
Good luck. Heat to heart discussion is the key.
Read “what is that you want” given in know your source
Good luck.
2007-04-24 02:37:30 · answer #1 · answered by righteducation 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. If you are inviting 50 guests you will be paying for a location and food/drinks for 50. Simple and cheap are too different things. So make a list of the top 5 things about your wedding and stay focused on those. Keep it simple. What is it that you want to wear for your wedding? The more formal your dress, the more formal the place and the meal. Keep in mind, that you dont want to be all dressed up with no place to go (lol). Get on the phone, call local catering places and restaurants, you will be amazed at what you can get for $30 a plate--all inclusive. At the end of the day, its not about what other people think---its about how you handle the invite---your guests need to know that its less formal or more formal. Keep in mind too that your guests want to see you HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY and they want to eat a good meal, beyond that its all for the bride---a week later no one but you and y our closest friend will remember the details....
2007-04-24 02:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If people have anything negative to say about a simple wedding then they are not true friends, the party and all the trimmings are frills, that's all, the actual marriage ceremony is the whole point of the day, not the party afterwards and too many people forget that. A simple wedding with simple food can be done elegantly. My wedding this year is for 35 guests, we're having a funky BBQ party afterwards and drinks and cakes for all, I don't care what other people think of that, it's what we want to do, and what my friends and family will enjoy.
2007-04-24 02:03:57 · answer #3 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are happy with how things will go, do not mind the others or what they would think. What is more important is what will happen to the relationship after saying the marriage vows. A grand wedding does not mean that the couple will live happily ever after, and that a simple one will not. Just make it as memorable as you can. The few invited guests will feel even more special, I'm sure. Go on, have fun and best wishes!
2007-04-24 01:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by May P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your friends were more concerned about a wedding and not a marriage. I think the amount of money you spend on a wedding has no effect on how long you stay married. If you and your future spouse agree on your wedding plans that is all that matters. Don't worry about what other people think. Some of the best weddings I have ever been to were small intimate weddings. They brought the most tears to my eyes!! I knew those couples were in love and not just trying to impress there friends with a nice show.
2007-04-24 01:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by ♥itsme♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds completely fine with me, provided your wife goes with that. Although I have the means, I also prefer a small, intimate wedding ceremony and a simple, inexpensive celebration. Invite only individuals who mean that much to you and your wife.
Let's approach it with this new thinking: your wedding ceremony is EXCLUSIVE, and therefore if anyone gets invited to it it's because they are special people. Then talk to your wife... agree about the budget with her, and ask her for ideas as to how you can make it as special as possible for the people you have invited. However, don't put the pressure on making other people happy--after all it's YOUR wedding, it's a once and a lifetime thing, YOU're the ones celebrating and all you're doing is extending your happiness to your loved ones.
Then again, even if you make a grand wedding, chances are by the time you have your 10-year anniversary you'd have to reintroduce yourselves to those who came to your wedding... except for your immediate families and one or two lifelong friends if you have any. So might as well go with a small simple wedding, but one where everybody who comes matters, and one that you and your wife will continue to cherish throughout the years.
CONGRATULATIONS and I wish you a long-lasting and happy marriage.
2007-04-24 01:56:16 · answer #6 · answered by Mizz G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The pressure to do lavish weddings is simply a cultural thing. If you have a simple wedding that fits your budget and makes you happy, that is the important thing. Your love for each other should be the focus of your wedding.
Do a simple and inexpensive wedding and spend all the real money on the honeymoon. You won't regret it.
The people who really love you and want to celebrate your happiness won't care if the celebration is simple. Just make it very personal to make it unforgettable, rather than real expensive.
I once got married in a civil ceremoney in rural Nicaragua. I could only find one dress in the whole town and it was black and too flashy for a wedding. My husband said "Ÿou should be grateful that you can afford a wedding at all, and that you can buy a new dress, most people here can't afford to get married because they can't even afford a new dress". He was right.
2007-04-24 01:48:41 · answer #7 · answered by rfelix 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess you're missing the point that its your wedding...
you and your spouse-to-be define how you guys want it to be...
spending less money doesn't mean that the wedding would be less enjoyable to others... you can make it a more personalized experience for those 50 select guests that you would invite...
for example: when the tables are setup tables for your guests... you can have different kinds of flowers on each table... which could match the liking of the people sitting there... you could have little notes written down for them, thanking them for all the good things that they've done for you....
enjoyment and fun is what it should be and not a grand show-off... :)
2007-04-24 01:53:23 · answer #8 · answered by the_answer_man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey don't be worried about what people will say,if they had grand weddings good and fine for them,all the hands are the same remember,you can as well make a very grand wedding with what you got at the moment it doesn't really matter to be grand or not to be at all. What matters presently is you to prepared yourself to receive your guest and get started okay is gonna be fine
2007-04-24 01:50:45 · answer #9 · answered by wallace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it would show you are smart. So many people pay for extravagant weddings these days, and it's usually just a case of keeping up with the jones's. Weddings are not about the hoopla. I didn't spend a lot of money on my wedding either, i went as cheap as i could, everyone had a blast, and after it was over it still seemed like a lot of headache and agony in planning for very little. I'm widowed, but the next time around, Vegas it is!! :)
2007-04-24 01:45:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋