This girl at my work is running hot one minute and cold the next! One day I'm this girl's new best friend -- and then the next day she isn't quite sure what my name is! It's no wonder I'm feeling confused. I need to remove myself from this bizarre situation. Let go of the desire to figure this girl out.
I mean, i do like her, but she's too confusing. and I'm giving up, loosing interest in her.
I tried to go around her less, avoided unnecessary glances at her. etc. only little conversation like "hi, how are you? bye.." and she seem to notice it. and i notice little sadness in her eyes. she seems hurt. b/c of the "new me".
and it left me thinking again... what do i do? i mean I don't want to hurt her like this and on the other hand i don't want her to play me like this.
2007-04-24 01:28:04 · 7 answers · asked by S. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This isn't always possible but your best bet is to try to detach yourself, stop trying to figure her out and trying to get with her. If you can do that then you can be friendly with her, enjoy her hot minutes without being so put out by her cold ones. If you didn't care so much about what she thought of you and just what she thought in general, you might find yourself in a better situation.
You describe yourself as giving up and losing interest in her, but I think a better assessment is you are giving up and losing interest in having your emotions played by her, because your description of trying to ignore her is one of avoidance more than loss of interest.
If you can't be around her without your emotions going all crazy then avoid her for your own self preservation, but if avoidance isn't doing it for you try being a normal friend and coworker with her and not getting so caught up in everything she says and does. Just enjoy being yourself around her, have some fun and don't worry if she's acting weird, because she's weird...
2007-04-24 03:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by fanodabuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right. I think u should just try and talk her a bit.. with out bringing yourself down. or giving in too much attention. If she really likes you she will open up to you . If not drop her she is not worth it. Good Luck
2007-04-24 01:34:26 · answer #2 · answered by julia1975 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you are doing is just self preservation, protecting your feelings, I suggest you stay in that mode, if she should approach you about it gently but firmly explain why you changed and her type of behavior is just too much drama for you to cope with, she'll either change and you'll have your friend back or she'll won't, then you're better off without her.
Good Luck!
2007-04-24 01:41:20 · answer #3 · answered by GrandmaW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well try to do your own thing she might like that and come back to you than say something to her about it. If she is just playing games than you aren't going to fall into hers.... If she understands you and won't play games anymore than I say go for it :)
2007-04-24 01:32:36 · answer #4 · answered by css22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let go, move on and don't try to figure out what makes her tick.
2007-04-24 01:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big mess! Move on.
2007-04-24 01:31:29 · answer #6 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to move on
2007-04-24 01:42:12 · answer #7 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋