my boyfriend of two years is emotionally killing me,i love him a lot and the way things used to be but for the last year he has been mean, we never go anywhere together, if we do its me tagging along to help him at work, any time i ask if we can go for dinner or anything he gets mad at me and says he has no time and that i dont respect him and his business, i am so frustrated cause its only me that he does this to , if anyone, i mean anyone else comes around he'll drop anything just to please them, it has caused a lot of fights latly, and he just acts so cold and heartless to me, he lies to me about small things, then tells me that its cause id just get mad, i tell him that id rather be mad than to find out later and have to wonder the truth. i dont know what to do he makes me feel so hated, unloved, and he never shows me a bit of emotion, if i cry he says i just feel sorry for myself, and he says things like "no wonder everyone hates you"even when they dont,why cant i leave him????
2007-04-23 23:45:40 · 10 answers · asked by dunseithbc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is unhappy in the relationship. What he is doing to you is unfair. You deserve respect, and he is not giving it to you. Tell him that if he does not start treating you better, you are going to leave him. If he doesn't change, you will need to leave. It is not going to get any better, usually it escalates.
2007-04-23 23:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are allowing yourself to be emotionally abused. You've lost your self-esteem, pride, dignity and worth. You don't even respect yourself so how do you expect him to respect you? There is no excuse or reason for him to justify why he's treating you this way.
Why do you want to be with someone who is tearing you up emotionally, makes you feel unloved, lies to you, berates and belittles you? He treats you this way because you allow it. He has no fear at all that you will leave him.
You are sticking around because you need the reassurance that he cares about you. You are probably blaming yourself for why he's acting this way and feel that if you just show that you care a little more and love a little more then it can fix things.
The best advice I can give you is to get out of that situation. It's going to be hard and you are going to hit rock bottom but things will slowly get better. You need to work on yourself and love yourself before you can expect anyone else to love and respect you.
2007-04-24 01:45:37 · answer #2 · answered by teacher101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wanted to end this relationship a long time ago. And sounds like you did too. The thing is no one is willing to say the words. You sound so miserable together. Both of you are dependant on each other and the only reason you're there is cuz you're both scared to leave. Tell him in a note if you have to. This is not good for you. You have been together for 2 years and for the past year it hasn't been good. Do you want to spend another 2 years of bad and only remember that 1 year of good? You already know what to do, you just need to form the words. Good luck!
2007-04-23 23:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by Amy L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do something that will shock him back down to earth and make him realise that if he carries on like this he could lose you. He needs to realise that you have a life too and the world doesn't evolve around him. Maybe if you had a weekend away with the girls? You'd have a little time apart which would let you both reflect on your relationship. The outcome could be bad or good but it would be the right one. Having said that, might he have something playing on his mind? Something that is worrying him so he throws himself into his work. You could let him know that you'tre there for him and if he doesn't respond in a positive way, he's just self-centered. Good luck gal!
2007-04-24 00:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are loved and you are wanted and thre are people who can help you.He is useing verbal abuse my son in law did that to my daighter before she divorced him she was 22 .On the outside to his parents and to us he was perfect To the world perfect,He would tell her she was fat she was and still is a size 5 He called her ugly she is pretty as can be and many more You do not have to take it words hurt more than bruises because they last foever If your parents are still around ask them for help I am so sorry he hurt you that way Know you are truly loved by your family and friends
2007-04-23 23:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by chameleon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i undertsand that the last thing you would want to hear is us telling you to leave him...
but honey, sometimes the best thing to do is the thing you want to do least.
im sorry but there is no reason for you to stay in this relationship...
just draw all your strenghth together and move on sweety...
the wisest thing you will ever do(",)
2007-04-24 00:05:52 · answer #6 · answered by P_GGG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give respect to the sentiment of your boyfriend too ; try to read whether he really loves you as much as you love him.
2007-04-23 23:56:53 · answer #7 · answered by thinkpose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT DOESN'T SOUND TO GOOD WITH YOUR BF.YOU SHOULD TALK TO HIM TO SEE WHATS GOING ON AND TO TELL HIM HOW HES MAKING YOU FEEL.THEN WHEN YOU DONT SEE ANY CHANGES THAN YOU KNOW THAT HES TRYING TO BREAK IT OFF WITH YOU.GOOD LUCK.
2007-04-23 23:54:13 · answer #8 · answered by heavenlylovin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is called blind love. you deserve better. so make an effort and leave him.
2007-04-23 23:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by sonia p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow leave its over he is a ******. people change move on.
2007-04-23 23:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋