i suspect that i may have anger issues.?

Question

i have noticed, and so have many others that im easily triggered and that i have the tendency to blow up if things do not turn out as i intend them to. i get defensive really easily and many times, i get so worked up that i get somewhat aggressive (shoving, giving out threats, using harsh and rude words, to name a few) to the other party.

only today, i emptied a glass of water onto my sister because she annoyed me. i really hate it when im this way. i feel remorse and regret almost immediately after such occurences.

any suggestions on how i might be able to overcome this problem? thanks folks.

im 20 yrs old. even my mom commented that i can be quite the ***** when i get annoyed.

Answer 1

I do the same thing. First I have to realize that I'm about to do it. Then I have to think real quick about the cost of those actions and about how I would feel about myself if I did it. It takes knowing yourself and patiance. I know it sounds easier said than done, and thats because it is.
I still slip, but I'm doing better and better.

You do look young though, so I think its normal for you to test yourself and others only to learn about both parties from it.

I hope you understand thought that in the future when your older, the law likes to step in.


oh and I find theripsts more angering than my own temper. They're usually so stuck in their books and idealogical believes, not to mention their egos, to realize that the real world is much much more complicated than they'd like to think.

Answer 2

You're probably right. There's a book out called "Angry All the Time: An Emergency Guide to Anger Management" - pretty sure that's the title. It's fantastic and you should be able to find it on Amazon.

Additionally I strongly recommend a good therapist. There's often an underlying basis for the anger and he or she can help you figure out what it is and how to deal with it.

Given that you're only twenty and you've recognized this as something to you need to deal with, I suspect you'll work through it.

Answer 3

Start with a change in your diet. A simple vitamin deficiency may be causing an unbalance. Then, step outside your self in these situations. Look from somebody elses eyes, and see your self during these moments. This is what I had to do. I had to first decide that I was tired of being angry, not to mention it was embarrassing. You have to decide that the petty things that bother you are just that, petty things. And they are not worth getting worked up over. Defuse an angry moment before they get to you, by recognizing triggers. When it comes down to it, YOU HAVE TO WANT To CHANGE! See, that the fits of anger are killing you, and hurting everyone around you.

Answer 4

Anger management. Think before you act and think about the fact that they might not be trying to insult you or annoy you. Really look at the question they are asking or what they are telling you and Analise if it was meant to offend you or not. Always try to be nice no matter what unless they are totally rude and purposely trying to anger you

Answer 5

Therapy

Answer 6

This sounds like me. Under stress, tired of being used by everyone, very tired.

I'm have starting taking vitamin b, again. It's actually called executive B, for stress and fatigue. I was on them a while ago, and they did seem to calm me down. Everything was going ok so I stopped taking them. But things have started to build up again. So the slightest thing, pisses me off.

Answer 7

There is no magic cure. Just be aware that if you can't control yourself, you won't be able to control anything, much less the situation, because it controls you. Just make more of an effort to not get mad. It works. Good luck.

Answer 8

Think first in how would it be if you do the things on the wrong way, before , and when you realize the consequences on your soul and in your heart and to your life and others lives you are going to do all your decisions on the right and good way to your soul. Please be patient with you and with the others so you life can be more better everyday .

Answer 9

99% of women are exactly like you lol. Men who have become enlightened about this are reserved when talking to women because men have a need to argue logically to come to a compromise, while women just argue out of anger and make illogical points.

Hey it sucks for us, but you girls have an excuse to do it so whatever.

If you want to cure yourself, watch Anger Management. That movies hilarious lol.

Answer 10

It sounds like you may be right.

You don't say how old you are, so I can't really steer you in the right direction, but you'll certainly want to see a therapist about anger management therapy.

Sandy