50 live alone having trouble wiyh dauther thinking about going to a group home i have no friends im very sad?

Question

i m a disable vet and im having a hard time living alone but dont want to move to a vet home im also having trouble with dauther and son who is also in the navy all my friends are dead or moved im very sad tonight could use some help

Answer 1

The group home is different from the Vet home? I am sorry you feeling like this, there are many ways on line not to feel by your self chat rooms and i always am in the forums of our local paper.
Have you watched a good movie lately? If you have a hard time getting around, I would suggest netfilx.com it is easy and the movies come right to your mail box when your done you just put it in the mail they have old ones 1920's and new releases too, I don't work for them LOL! But it is something that takes me away when I am feeling depressed. I don't know all your going through, but at 50 you still gotta lot a life ahead of you!!! So try and look forward to some future! My grandpa 86 is the last of his brothers+ sisters and his wife and 1 son, still has kids but he said I can't believe I out lasted them, and he gets sad to, but then we talk about the remember whens and time passes on. You got a church group? It is good to have people, especially ones that care. It you want to email me feel free just click on the picture and send...tomorrow is another day, fresh start, you just have to plan what your going to do to enjoy it!....::::::Smile:::::.....

Answer 2

Hey Patrick, life hasn't passed you bye. Read a book, watch the tube, write the great American novel, call a friend, learn to mediate. I'll bet if you began right now you'd learn how to speak a foreign language by this time next year. You've got a computer, take a computer course from some school. Learn to be a neighborhood counselor (no schooling required) and help the VA with counseling vets who are returning from Iraq. Pat, you know there's a whole world out there with opportunities. If you're feeling in a rut, you'll have to pull yourself out of it. You have the strength and power to do it. Go for it. Good luck.

Answer 3

Patric
Sorry to hear that.
Whats the problems ur having?
Do u live with her?If yes try to make the best of it.
I am 35 and four weeks ago i made a dession to help my dad.
He and mom live two hours from me my little brother moved back in with them long time ago.
I come down Monday thru friday to take care of him i was at a place in my life well lets say i havent always been there for my family.
So i made a dession to take care of him.I didnt know there was a DADDY DO LIST but i found one.Hes 73 and dieing of conjested heart failure some days are good and others arnt.
Last week was one of those days i really thought he would be dieing shortly.Yesterday he was as stong as i have ever seen him.Last week i started giveing him showers he could barley move i dont think i have to tell u how hard it was to do that.
All i really wanted to tell u is that when im takeing him in the van anywhere he tells me evey turn to take every bump in the road,every place i should slow down.
And everytime i say yes sir ,ok dad thanks,you see i know its not going to be long and i wont have my dad to take care of me.Gotta go hope this helps

Answer 4

I'm sorry to hear that Patrick. I don't blame you for not wanting to go to a home. Perhaps you join some interest groups, think of what your interested in and see if there is a club or something that offers it example - a darts competition or cards, etc. That way you could meet people your own age and make some friends/support.

I hope you can re-connect with your daughter. Just for tonight why not trying to log into some chat rooms and start chatting with people, just as as a way of communication.

I really hope things work out for you,

Good Luck - Chin Up

Answer 5

Don't be sad you have a son and daughter that love you and I'm sure want the best for you. I think living in a group home would be the best for all of you. You are still so young and at a group home you would make many friends that are in the same situation as yourself, PLUS you son and daughter could visit you there! I will pray that God will help you in your decision.

Answer 6

I know a guy in one of those assisted living homes that has 4 girlfriends, plays bingo, goes to the dances, etc. He is having a great time!!

I know a lady that takes the bus to the recreation center for the elderly. She can't wait until the bus gets there every Tuesday and Thursday. You might want to check into whether they have a center like that in your community.

Answer 7

Maybe a vetrans group home would be a good choice for a while. You could meet people with your same interests and actually enjoy being there. You never know untill you try. No one says you have to stay forever right? Maybe they could even help you sort things out with your kids.

Answer 8

i honestly think you need to make friends. try myspace or some chat rooms. chatrooms these days arnt meetin gpeople to have relationships or anythin- you can also make friends with people and talk to them.

have you thought about getting a woman in your life sawel? why not go out and meet new people, i know its hard as im lso finding it hard to meet people but you can go for a drink in a local pub and get chatting to people. ok its more of drinking buddies but you can make it more than that

Answer 9

Try to enjoy your loneliness. Too often there are too many people trying to deprive us from it. No need to be sad. Trouble with daughter? Depends on what it is, but most people have had issues with their kids at one time or another.

Answer 10

Oh my heart goes out to you....... there is nothing worse than being alone. try chat rooms if you havent already.......i met a guy on here who live is america he is the same as u.... mno reall family and very lonely.. but since we started chatting from a bout a year ago we chat everyday.. and we consider eachother good friends. it makes him happy to have someone even if its by computer to chat to everyday......... and to know that some one cares for him makes him smile.