I am a college educated young black female and I have never had a serious relationship of any kind. Not only have I never had a boyfreind, I never had anyone that I would consider to be a close freind. I think that I am somewhat attractive and likable. I try to treat everyone with dignity and respect. So whats the deal. Just wondering what everyone else thinks. Are some people just destine to be alone?
2007-04-23 19:56:04 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Quick answer. No. We are social animals and we are designed to be with each other. The real question is, can someone be comfortable being alone? The answer to that is "yes". But, having said that, it takes a special person to feel comfortable with himself/herself. Begin by learning to accept yourself as you are, without judgment. If you can learn to love yourself, accept yourself without judgment, you will find that others will be attracted to you because you are such a complete and whole person. You will also choose as friends only those who are comfortable with themselves. How can you expect others to be attracted to you if you're not attracted to yourself? Love yourself and others will love you. And you will find others who you can love. Or, learn to be comfortable with yourself the way you are. these situations are not mutually exclusive.
2007-04-23 20:04:15 · answer #1 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes if you've never been in a relationship or if you treat everyone with the same dignity and respect then you might not know how to behave when you do meet someone you feel chemistry for.
It's perfectly okay to not have your hormones rushing over the opposite gender for a long time. It may be that you might not be attracted to the opposite gender which is discovery in itself.
For now, just as long as you're happy then be so :o)
You might just be the independent type. But if you do crave for a romance like some people then dont hesitate to go out and meet someone~I'm sure you have girlfriends at college whom you could go out with for some icecream and boy hunting.
2007-04-24 03:06:39 · answer #2 · answered by essence_05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, there probably has not been an exceptional man for you, yet. You seem to be a strong and independent woman. If I were you, I would take into consideration that I am my own woman and I truly have something to contribute to another that I love. I have always coveted a woman in your likeness. I honestly do not believe that anyone is ALONE. You always have religion to turn to and make you more of the person you aspire to be. Good luck. P.S. Keep on doing what makes you happy, and then God will bless you with someone that will do the same.
2007-04-24 03:25:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Destiny is hocus pocus. There's a reason you made it through college while some of your more social friends never will. Just as you've mastered material and skills to get to where you're at, as soon as you decide that you're interested in a more active social life you'll turn your focus in that direction. Part of building a full life is weaving your own social fabric, and your life will be richer and warmer for it. Most of us are alone by choice, not rejection. When you're ready, that openness will be apparent and your spare time will grow sparer.
2007-04-24 03:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by Jimbalaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be destined to be alone if you dont get out and start looking for men. You can change that by going out to clubs or partys or going out with your friends to chill somewhere. You can also go online and look for somebody. Dont expect for men to just come to you... you also need to look for them. Also, you might think your attractive and sexy, but some others might not by the way you dress and look. So you might want to look sexier by maybe showing some skin and alot of other things that make men go crazy and just wanna eat you up!
-Mike.
2007-04-24 03:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by Mike33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, I feel ya..I've never been in a serious relationship with anybody either, but would like to be in one, just met alot of guys all my life who were just interested in getting in my pants. I am tired of meeting the same guys and would like to meet a college educated man for a change.
2007-04-24 03:05:59 · answer #6 · answered by Dreamyeyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"No man/woman is an island"... I think you just need to wait for the right time... do you have any expectations at all? if so, it might be a little too high... I used to be in your situation... untill I realized, I was trying too hard to fit in or get any friends to consider as really "close friends"... that made it harder for me...
Just let it go, and go with the flow... things will come/happen when their ought to come/happen...
2007-04-24 03:04:17 · answer #7 · answered by truecolours 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider participating in some social activities which you have not participated in before. You will meet new people and who knows - you may make new friends, or even meet someone ...
2007-04-24 03:02:06 · answer #8 · answered by explorer_dv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God created the angels, and also the men and women
Old testament says something about stoning nonvirgins but not sure if that's valid if you never heard of that
2007-04-24 03:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by isis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is destined to be alone, there is someone out there for everyone.
2007-04-24 02:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋