Some Questions. Honest Answers and suggestion appericated.?

Question

If you were a guy would you want to be approached by a female?
Would you want that person who is kind of a stranger to tell you how she felt and get it over with? Or would you prefer her to be a freind first?

What would you do if you like someone. And was scared to death to speak to them. In fear of looking like an idiot. How would you want the girl to drop hints that she likes you?
In my case there is a 10 year age difference I'm almost 21 and he just turned 31. Both work normal jobs dont go to school. So on and so on.

Answer 1

The woman's job is to make the man want her. Smile, touch his arm, bump into him, slide past him while "innocently" sliding against him. If he is interested, he will react. If not, you can walk away knowing you stepped up AND pass it all off as "innocent."

I would like to be a friend first - with no sexual tension is guarentees that you'll get to know each other better and have a much better relationship.

BTW - The last girl that came onto me, was a prostitute and wanted a john.

Answer 2

I'm a female but I'll give it a whirl. If I was a guy, I'd want the girl to just come up and be honest about how she felt. I'd be flattered, and if I wasn't interested, I'd let her down easily. If she told me how she felt first, and was a total (or almost totally) a stranger, I'd probably opt to be friends first, with the understanding that her heart was in my hand, too. I'd let her know that we were just to be friends and be casual about it.

Guys don't generally like girls to "drop hints". They don't have a lot of time or energy to spend on dealing with the "ok she did this...what does it mean..." game. Be honest, but not freaky or "obsessive". Don't stalk him at work, outside of his apartment, or approach him in front of friends. Don't try to find out his phone number through someone else and then call him -- he'll think you're totally immature.

That's another point. You're almost 21...you definitely need to approach this in a mature manner. Walk up to him and actually start a conversation. He'll enjoy your approach and will feel more at ease that the pressure is off of him for once on making the move. If you've never been formally introduced start out by saying "Hey, how are you?" let him respond, and be like "I'm _____, I've seen you around before and just thought I'd say hi"...be sweet and don't cop a cocky attitude that your age group generally has. And do NOT, I repeat...do NOT address him as "Dude"...I know a girl that links every word out of her mouth with "Dude"...total turn off for a guy.

Ok so i'm not a guy or anything close to it...but I think I know a lil about them. lol

Good luck and remember...maturity is the key!!

Answer 3

Every guy is different, but here is my take:

Yes, I love it when women approach me. It shows they are confident and ambitious. They aren't scared to go after what they want. I have a lot of female friends and I wouldn't want to lose a friend because we tried to have a relationship that didn't work out. A lot of my female friends have said the same thing about other men in their lives as well.

I don't understand people who are scared of talking to people they like. Obviously you like them. You want to be around them. I can understand the fear of rejection, but who cares? Until you get married, you're going to have to deal with rejection until you meet that special person. I wouldn't want a girl to drop hints she likes me, I'd want her to approach me and say hey I like you, let's go out sometime. This guy is older and more mature, so he is probably looking for someone who is mature.

Answer 4

1.If you were a guy would you want to be approached by a female? SURE. BUT IT REALLY DEPENDS ON WHAT KIND OF GIRL SHE IS OF COURSE. IF SHE REEKS OF HOE I WOULDNT WANT HER COMING NEAR ME AND MIGHT FIND IT TRASHY. IT ALSO WOULD DEPEND ON THE WOMANS APPROACH.


2.Would you want that person who is kind of a stranger to tell you how she felt and get it over with? IF I BARELY KNEW THEM AND THEY STARTED POURING OUT FEELINGS I MIGHT FREAK. AND IF THEY DEVELOPED ANY KINDS REAL OPINIONS OR FEELINGS FOR ME WHEN WE JUST MET-I'D RUN

3.Or would you prefer her to be a freind first? YOU DONT WANT TO HAVE SOMEONE FALL INTO THE FRIEND ZONE IF YOU LIKE THEM , OR ARE ATTRACTED TO THEM.JUST TAKE IT EASY AND GO ON A FEW DATES

AND I WOULD JUST FIND A GOOD OPPORUNITY TO APPROACH HIM. OVER SOMETHING CASUAUL LIKE IF YOU HAPPEN TO BE IN THE SAME PLACE AT THE SAME TIME. ITS NOT THAT HARD TO STRIKE UP A CONVO. DONT BE SO NERVOUS :)

Answer 5

I would like to know. Break it gently. Don't come on needy.
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