in person,we have been friends nothing more,a call here or a call there,from time to time, he is in the military, and he stays busy,so we both decided a long distance relationship is out of the question,but time has passed he moved 3 states from me due to his job,an now we have the chance to meet,but im not sure now,i mean i enjoy chatting with him, and i know i like him, and i know if we meet ,there could be something there to start a relationship.but...i had not heard from him in 6 weeks and he calls me and says his job is sending him to my town for 3 nites and wanted to know if i finally wanted to meet the him in person,an to be honest,i want to but,i want more from this,than i think he wants,or im not sure what to think or do,he is a nice person ,but has not had the best luck in relationships,he has been married 3 times and 4 kids he is 46 im 40 and i decided to not be with a man untill i knew it was for real next time,so how do i know ,what do the men think is this a booty call ?
2007-04-23 18:53:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the guy might hope for that. dont they all? but, dont put yourself in that situation. meet the same way you would if he lived near. where you feel safe, maybe bring a friend to wait with you. peace
2007-04-23 18:58:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM STRAIGHT THAT IT'S NOT A BOOTY CALL.
If he can handle that, then tell him that you would like to meet him. Don't jump the gun and say you want more out of the relationship. Just wait and see what happens. Go with the flow of things. You will both know if it's right. Don't rush into the relationship because your lonely or just because you want to be with someone. Remember that he has a lot of baggage and even though he seems nice, it's totally different when you have a life with this person. Also remember that if it is nice when you are with him, everyone is on their best behaviour for the first two or so months.
I just feel like your rushing for a particular reason. Maybe your lonely. Maybe you really think there is something with this man. I don't know, but really think out your decisions and actions carefully.
2007-04-24 02:00:42 · answer #2 · answered by jen7281 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a man but thought that I would respond to this anyway. I don't think that based upon what you have written that someone can determine whether or not this is a booty call. I think that you will have to use your gut feeling to figure this one out. Let him know that you have decided not to be with a man until you know its for real. See how he reacts to this. Let him know that you would like to meet him face to face but that you are being careful with your heart. If he tells you that he understands then I think if you really care about him that you shouldn't pass up the opportunity to meet in person. While you can get to know a person through correspondence, I think that until you really hang out with that person you will never know if there is something more there between the two of you.
2007-04-24 02:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by Donna A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i'm not a man, but he is only going to be there for 3 days and he is in the millitary and prob hasn't had any so it will be a 3 day booty call... He has been married 3 times so that is a big red flag that you prob don't want anything as far as relationship wise to go anyways... So if you wanna be his booty call go for it, but i wouldn't let go into something serious... Meet another man who doesn't live so far away and that doesn't just want sex...
2007-04-24 01:58:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be. If he had the same or almost the same sentiments as you, he would not let six weeks go by without contacting you. Are you sure he is not married now or that he is not in a relationship?
It will not hurt to see him in person in a public place so you can have all your options available to you. Perhaps you will be able to get some vibes at least out of the tet-a-tet.
2007-04-24 01:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by emiliosailez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be friends with someone without being physical. It appears as if you want to keep things at an arms-length. That's a smart thing to do, since the two of you have never met face-to-face. If he tells you he wants more, make sure he proves it by making efforts to spend time with you to get to know you in person. Don't apologize or make excuses to anyone because you don't want to sleep with him upon the first meeting. You have the right to say "No".
2007-04-24 02:00:32 · answer #6 · answered by feefee2u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to meet you for lunch one day while he is in town. You don't have to make it an intimate thing, just some good conversation. If he doesn't understand that you really don't know him, and are not really to jump into the sack, then he is worthless anyway. For all that you know, he could have been lying to you for 2 years. Don't let him rush you into anything, until you feel it is right. If he is really the nice guy you think he is, he will understand.
2007-04-24 02:02:04 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun if i were you, if you wanted to meet him just go somewhere friends would go. i dont think it would work. not to be mean or rude, but dont you think he felt the same for the other 3 chicks?? for real find someone close to where you live so you can spend forever with them , unless he retires soon and moves to where you live, that might work. but just think if he never contacted you for a long while, wouldnt you eventually let go, you know move on??maybe not, just follow your heart
2007-04-24 01:59:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
married 3 times would be a red flag for me. take it slow and follow your heart. you won't go wrong. best of luck
2007-04-24 02:28:13 · answer #9 · answered by rocketman225 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think god send you best friend in your life... he suggest you very carefully in your need wht u do.....
i belive in god ...thats why i thought
" friendship is a best gift from god.. friendship means a lamp, these r burns with aoil of love"
take care ....
2007-04-24 02:41:23 · answer #10 · answered by lav k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋