So my boyfriend and I split this past Sunday, because he doesn't enough time to spend with me and he said it wasn't fair to me. Our relationship was only a month long, and I felt that this wasn't a great reason to split. Any advice on how to convince him to come back?
2007-04-23 18:51:22 · 16 answers · asked by sweetdazzleberry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sit down and have a talk with him explain to him that you are willing to make the effort alongside him. Tell him that you should decide what is fair to you.
2007-04-23 19:38:38 · answer #1 · answered by John N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he made the decision on his own, then there's really probably no changing it. But, you may just try talking to him anyway about it. He may have other reasons, too, and just told you that one because it was the best one he could come up with. Whatever the case may be, sit down and talk to him, tell him how you feel, ask him what the chances are that he would like to try again, with the understanding that you won't demand a lot of time out of him because, afterall, you've been forewarned, obviously. If he agrees, great! if not, then the guy's mind is made up and you're going to have to come to terms with that sooner or later. The good thing is, a month isn't :::generally::: long enough to get too attached, I'm sure the detachment will not be overbearing. You'll probably need a shoulder to cry on a couple times (that's where good friends come in) and you'll probably need a pint of Ben&Jerry's for a weekend, but after that, you'll bounce back into the scene and find someone who thinks that you're worth all the time in the world for them!!
Good luck, hunny!
2007-04-24 02:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by no_name_jane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People go into and out of relationships for their own reasons. They may state another reason to their ex-partner but they always have their own reasons. If you want to "get someone back" it's pretty tough to do. The best approach is to keep them when the relationship is going. I know this isn't much help now, but when you get into a relationship you really like, work at it. If a relationship breaks up, it usually stays broken. Good relationships are hard to find...just like good marriages are hard to find. The ration is about the same, that is, over 60% of relationships break up...just as over 60% of marriages break up. It takes work to make a relationship last.
2007-04-24 01:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's wanting a closer relationship than he's able to participate in right now. While it might work for you, he wants to give more. Until he can, the best thing is to respect his decision, but ask if you can keep in contact as friends. That way, if he's only got time for a quick phone call, it's less pressure on him. By compromising this way, he'll see that you really aren't expecting as much as he feels he needs to give, and it might help him relax and be willing to try again. Good luck!
2007-04-24 01:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by personal.pastor 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He either was lying to you because he found someone better or he was really telling the truth and didn't have much time to spend with you. You know him we don't so what do you think? Did he spend barely any time with you? Either way move on for now because you can't just make him come back to you.
2007-04-24 03:07:58 · answer #5 · answered by Momof1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go and find someone else. Him wasn't interested in the first place. Some guys are f*&$*&g shallow and needs to grow up. I too used to do that i was shallow as well, i have a great relationship now. She sat me to place. He maybe discovered someone else, or something he didn't like about your personallity don't dwell on this. Sometimes girls don't realize maybe you are not the right one for him as well. good luck
2007-04-24 02:01:54 · answer #6 · answered by zedbra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way will be to talk to him and tell him that you really like him and eventho theres not too much time to be with each other you still want to keep trying, I mean its only been a month, maybe if it was longer u could work something out, find ways to have times for each other....tell him that and see what he says
2007-04-24 01:55:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont mind the idea of not having that much time to spend with him, tell him.
If he still makes up excuses, maybe he just doesnt have the balls to say hes not interested anymore. At that point id suggest finding someone wholl treat you like a princess.
2007-04-24 01:54:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. It was a great reason to split. You'll come across as a nag or despearte woman if you try to get him to come back.
2007-04-24 01:55:43 · answer #9 · answered by kttmfr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was probably trying to get out of the relationship without hurting your feelings. Just move on, before you let him make a fool of you.
2007-04-24 01:54:47 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋