Am i missing somthing???please help!!!?

Question

Im going to be 19 soon and I can't seem to get a girl, It's sad I know. I went to the mall 2day and it amazed me to see all these beautiful girls with.....well I don't wanna say ugly guys, well I guess scrubby is the word. I don't get it, am i missing out on a secret to getting girls or somthin. I mean I have girls tell me that I'm really cute n all, I mean I guess so. I have a job that pays well,I go to school, I'm nice and a real down to earth guy, I'm in good shape, I work out at the gym often and I still can't get a girl.why :( ? I'm respectful and yet I know so much on how to treat girls. I don't know where meet girls or how to approach them. i mean how weird would it be for some stranger to come up to you and start talkin to you and plus i would never have the guts to just go up to a girl like that. It's so weird,when i go to the mall I feel like I catch most girls lookin at me but as soon as i look back they look away. It sux cuz my self-esteem lowers as each day passes.

Answer 1

maybe u lack something in u
maybe ur not tht sportive or something
i think u will soon figure it out about wht ur lacking
then i think u will not miss anything....
just trust urself and have faith
dont lower ur esteem
always be positive

Answer 2

I'd say you are looking in the wrong place. Also, if you are trying to snag a chick with your job, you are going to snag the wrong kind. Girls that look at that part of your resume are more of a problem than they are worth. I'd say you start looking at other places to hang out, don't know how old you are, but pick a different scene for your age group. Don't get down on yourself either, we've all been there and it gets better. Girls can sense fear to, all you need to do is act like you don't care, and magically, they get interested! Women are strange animals and reverse psychology seems to be a pretty stable method. (Example: Have you ever seen girls with guys that act like they don't care, yet the girls are attached at their hips? They want a project guy, so givem one. Pretend you don't care and then slowly warm up to, what they think, is them training you. Really though, you've been a good guy all along and you just let them think they did it. You win, they win, good game!)

Answer 3

So what if you do not have a girlfriend? It is not the end of the world. Try to befriend a girl whom you fancy before confessing your feelings for her. Do not be to hasty or appear that you are desperate for a girlfriend. Girls are highly sensitive creatures and they can sound you out before you even talk to them. So make sure you are just what you are when you approach the girls. Do not try to act cool.

Girls are shy. They often expect men to make the first approach. That explains why they look away when you catch them looking at you.

Next time when you are at the shopping mall, try asking the girl where she bought her dress or watch because u want to get one for your sister. Or if you see her reading newspapers, discuss with her the headlines. These are not extremely creative pickup lines. But they work very effectively.

Answer 4

It could be that you are accomplished and take care of yourself.(Which is wonderful don't change it!!) I know that I stayed away from the nicer looking guys too. Most of them are too into themselves and controlling. Try this next time you're at the mall see a girl checking you out, walk by and stop go back to her and say something like" I was invited to a party for a friend that bracelet is nice where did you get it? I'm at a loss for gift ideas." Compliment her and let her "help" you. Get to know her and it could turn into something fabulous!!Girls these days are still the "girl next door " types. Most of us like the guy to approach makes it easier on us too.Best of luck!!

Answer 5

When you see someone doing something, either start a conversation about it or ask about it.(such as--someone shopping at the same store- - "I hate to bother you, but how do you think this would look on me? or "I'm buying a birthday gift for my sister, what do you think that she would like?' or you see a nice looking girl at the ice cream counter " Would you mind if I bought that for you?" There must be a million ways to start a conversation in the mall. You are just afraid to approach any of the girls. Once you do it a few times, it will get easier.

Answer 6

Well, keep wussing out and crying in your beer and jerking off then, nancy boy, while some other fat scrubby loser takes out the girl you wanted.

In other words, man up and strike up a conversation with a girl at the mall and see where it gets you. You gotta start somewhere.

Do it 4 times next week. Report back with how it went.

Answer 7

Dude your going to have to walk up to one of them and introduce yourself. Just be yourself, you can tell them you noticed them looking your way and go from there.
Even if your shot down 99 times all it takes is 1 good experience to make it worth while.
You will get no where if you don't approach a girl. Look around school there might be a friend that is a female that might like you enough to talk to you and then you have a girlfriend.
Don't give up find a female and strike up a conversation. And good luck will come your way.

Answer 8

If you see a nice girl somewhere & you notice her looking at you then just try the old remedy, bump into her. Apologize then just start up a conversation with her, if that doesn't work & you're too shy to do anything like that, just have patience. And do not settle for the first one that comes along, only settle for who makes you happy. Good Luck!

Answer 9

Don't look for girls on here. If you say you are going to school, you should be looking there. I know my daughter works for the media and when she's not doing that she's in school, so the real go getters are usually very busy making something of themselves. They can't depend on the guys like women use to many years ago. Look at school or work.

Answer 10

Look this is what your going to do ! Your going to go to school tommorow and pick out the most sexy girl that you can find and your going to do the unthinkable ! Your going to ask her out . Yeah thats what I said ! You are going to do somthing you never dreamed of doing and your going to get her . Now get a good nights sleep because tommorow is your day !