a mother of 3 boyz 6/9/12....wanting to marry or live with an offender of more than 10 yrs involving a 15yr old when he was 26. it was consentual but parents pressed charges, no further charges or problems have come about since...including his current situation now.
2007-04-23 17:58:26 · 15 answers · asked by confused 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
I don't have the answer to your question, but I was reading the responses and I think they are being pretty harsh. It is wrong that when your fiance was 26 he had sex with a 15 yr old girl. But to defend him a little, and so that you don't feel bad about the other responses that you got, I think there is a big difference between an actual child molestor and someone who got caught up in fantasy land with someone under age. Don't get me wrong it is wrong, but at the same time I have a friend who is 17 her bf is 27 and they have been together for over a yr and a half. He really loves her too. I don't know how strict it is where you're from, but here in canada he would only be charged on sex crimes if her parents were against it and brought him to court. They are not. I find it takes some men a long time to grow up, i have a lot of guy friends who are 25 and i'm only 17. I have a friend who is 20 she is living with her 44 yr old bf he;s a really nice guy and they're getting married soon, they've been together for 2 yrs now.
These situations seem really ****** up but ppl need to open their eyes and realize 26 really isn't THAT old especially if the girl lead him on in some way...(not that it's her fault, but she did not resist). Anyway I don't know if you'll lose your children, but honestly i don't see how he can be harmful to them especially since he's grown into a more mature adult i doubt that 15 yr olds would still turn him on.
My mom was 18 when she met my dad who was 33...maybe that's why my mentality is different about this than others.
2007-04-23 21:51:17 · answer #1 · answered by rosygirly20 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Number one I am very sorry to seem so rude but do you believe a 15 year olds consent for sex with a 26 year old absolves the 26 year old of committing a crime? Do you think this is truelly someone to be trusted around your own children? Even if you give him the benefit of the doubt that he did not manipulate a young girl into a sexual relationship his lack of judgement in having a sexual relationship with a 15 year old should give you pause. Your boys will eventually bring young girls around and could you trust his judgement? Do you have the right to impose these risks to not only your children but their friends also?
He may be the greatest guy on earth but your children and their friends should be your focus. They do not deserve any known risks being brought into their home.
2007-04-23 18:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by damommyxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you think of yourself as any kind of mother at all when you are seriously considering this? Apparently, you care more for your b/f than your kids...please let them go live with their father, or a grandparent if he is not capable; you cannot be trusted to make the right decisions.
So what if the offense was consensual? The difference in age shows that he is into power and manipulation and using an innocent kid, no matter how much he may tell you she was begging him for it.
You need to get counseling for even considering this - putting your kids in danger like this. But hey, the man's all worth it, isn't he????
jeez-us.
2007-04-23 19:13:45 · answer #3 · answered by Lili Montegue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is going to be a very iffy situation as you have THREE boys all about to reach this pedophiles age of preference. More than likely the choice is going to be the children or the man. He shouldn't even be around the children and may face additional jail time for his association with them, depending on his sentencing, parole agreement and registration on the sex offenders list.
2007-04-23 18:04:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The mother has a very good chance of losing her children. Once they know that the children are living in a home with a sex offender,they will most likely be removed.
2007-04-23 18:03:36 · answer #5 · answered by Jan 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If the childrens father files for custody he will most likely win, so if someone files a complaint, most likely they will.
And you honestly want to bring your children into a home where you think it is ok for a 26 year old to have sex with a 15, and you are OK with it, and defend him, God help us all.
2007-04-23 18:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
ummm why? why would you put your children in danger? silly girl, you have only one concern your children...give your children a good father....
if at the ripe old age of 26 he was boinking a some ones baby girl......he obviously has no morals and is thinking only with his pecker....it shows an utter lack of responsibility for him to want to be w/ some one so young. why not be with some one his own age? let me tell you why...he likes the power and influence over young minds.... how old are you? do you have any care for your children.... better yet why not give up your children to adoption if you want to PLAY HOUSE with this chowder head. give your head a shake!
2007-04-23 18:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by Firemedic 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A child sex offender in Illinois cannot live with children. I worked with parolees on house arrest (especially sex offenders) for years in Illinois. She can marry him all she wants, but he can't be around her children.
2007-04-23 18:01:18 · answer #8 · answered by Mickey Mouse Spears 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Are you marrying Michael Jackson?
2007-04-23 18:04:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're confused all right.
It's a legal question, and that means you need to ask it of a lawyer.
2007-04-23 18:15:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋