alright, let me start my gf who i love more then anything in this whole world wasn't getting back on my calls. i been calling her the past 5 days i guess, she hasn't responded until now and she said her best friend was killed, in a car crash. i don't know what to do, i told her i would be there for her during these hard times, but what can i do? i feel like a big loser, i can't do anything to cheer her up. she's sad, and all i can do is support her. i wish i could do more, my question is, what else can i do? please give me serious advice.
2007-04-23 17:49:17 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not your job or responsibility to cheer her up. Let her mourn and let her do it her own way. She just lost someone, and your worried about yourself feeling bad...get over yourself. She's supposed to feel sad.
2007-04-23 17:58:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is be there for her. Give her a shoulder to cry on, be all ears when she's talking to you. try to get her to talk about the good times she had with her friend to get her mind off the sadness. I know it doesn't seem like you're doing much, but from her point of view you are being her rock! My fiance did just what I told you to do, for me when my Nanny(my mom's mom) passed away a little over a year ago. He kept asking what else he could do, but he did what I needed him to do. He was there for me, tried to get my to think happy thoughts. He supported me, he listened to me when I talked, he let me cry to him, and it was the biggest help in the world!! She doesn't need you to cheer her up, something horrible just happened. She needs you to just be there for her and be her rock. You're a good man for wanting to be there for her in her time of need! I wish you both the best!
2007-04-24 00:56:54 · answer #2 · answered by laird6372 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want serious advice? Do what youre doing now. I know right now it doesnt seem like much but its the fact that you ARE here for here/there for her. Listen to her, dont advice just listen. Hold her when she cries and whenever else you think you should. Make her laugh alittle but dont force it. If she gets mad let her. but YOU should never loos e your cool. This is a big thing for her so sympathize as best you can. Good luck.
2007-04-24 00:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by pirate prince 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some times just spending time with her is all that will help. many times after a death, people will tend to feel alone, even if they really aern't. Just let her know you're there for her and that you care. If all else fails, one thing I have done in the past was call her mother, and have the mother invite the two of you to dinner or something.
2007-04-24 00:54:46 · answer #4 · answered by Max J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing all that you can by being there for her. Just let her know how much you love her and that anytime she needs you, you're just a phone call away. Just hold her when she needs to be held, listen to her when she needs to talk, and let her cry when she needs to cry. It sux feeling like you're not doing anything, but believe me, just being there is the best thing you could be doing. She's lucky to have someone like you in her life. My heart goes out to her right now, but I know you'll help her get through this.
2007-04-24 00:56:06 · answer #5 · answered by melissa_53105 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never lost someone very close to me, but know if I ever did I would not want to talk or see anyone. I would want to deal with it by myself and possibly with another friend that was also close to the one killed.
I would send her, her very favorite flowers and maybe some brownies or something you know she really likes, with a card that says that you love her, hope that just for second they bring her a smile, and you are there for her when she needs you, but for now you will give her the space she wants.
I hope this helps :)
2007-04-24 00:59:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your girlfriend'sf friend dieing in a car accident, be there for your girlfriend, be very suporrtive, a true gentleman and friend to lean on. Go to the service with her and support her as a best friend would do. Know that the loss of a frriend is going to take time to come to terms with, you could also go to a grief support group with your girlfriend as moral support! Our condolances, and May God Comfort your girlfriend and you in your time of loss. God Bless!
2007-04-24 00:59:22 · answer #7 · answered by Janice 10 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is going to be sad... her best friend was killed unexpectedly. Being her support is the best thing you can do. Let her mourn. Be someone to talk to, a shoulder to cry on. It will take some time but stay strong for her.
2007-04-24 00:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by Lily19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Death is awful and i'm so sorry for you girlfriend.
There really isn't anything you can say or do except let her know that you are there for her. Let her talk if she wants and just listen, give her a shoulder to cry on if she needs it.
Death takes time and for it being her best friend it may take quite a while!
Sorry again!
2007-04-24 00:54:33 · answer #9 · answered by T <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to her and show her you really care by being there physically. Bring her favorite food it's supposidly nice to receive food when mourning a loss. Send the best friend - flowers or something to show respect. Just understand your girlfriend she's going through a lot a lot.
2007-04-24 01:02:30 · answer #10 · answered by primandproper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋