I am having 6yo triplets (all girls) as my flower girls. I love these girls and they were always part of the wedding plans. They are triplets, the cutest things, and they are just perfect.
We had decided that one of them would bring the rings, and other two would come with basket of petals.
Anyway... My fiancee called me because his 11yo nephew has been a little depressed lately and he thinks that if we invited Him to be in our wedding as ring bearer he would feel special and that would help him.
I like the kid, and have no problem of him being part of the ceremony, but can't visualize it. He is SOOOO taller than the girls... Seems strange... Doesn't seems harmonic... who enter first? him or the girls? should he pairs up with one of the girls? he is sooo tall for them...
Does anyone have any suggestion?
Is there anyway we can have him active part of the ceremony without being a ring bearer?
Help me think of a way to make it harmonic!!!
Thank you :)
Sandy
I lo
2007-04-23 15:38:37 · 14 answers · asked by sherazade_1980 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Keep the triplets as planned!!! Find a 10 or 11 year old girl and add them to your wedding party. Jr bridesmaid and Jr groomsman, He can walk her up just like the grown ups and it will be work out great. Ringbearers and flower girls are suppost to be kids, they are so cute. I'll bet he would feel like a baby if ya'll asked him to be a ringbearer, He'll feel like a grown up with a cute little hottie at his side...
2007-04-23 15:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by Flying w/ scissors 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if you had one flower girl two girls then the ringbearer???I kinda see how the boy (even at 11) could feel a little depressed it's kinda hard to compete withe triplets i'm sure they get most of the attention. I mean especially how you talk about them it's easy to see who gets to be favorite all the time " I love these girls and they were always part of the wedding plans. They are triplets, the cutest things, and they are just perfect" and then
"I like the kid, and have no problem of him being part of the ceremony, but can't visualize it. He is SOOOO taller than the girls... Seems strange... Doesn't seems harmonic... who enter first? him or the girls? should he pairs up with one of the girls? he is sooo tall for the" you love the girls you like the kid....not "boy" or "his nephew"
2007-04-23 15:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him be the ring bearer, but I would have him walk alone.
I think it is fairer anyway. Which of the triplets would you have chosen to carry the ring anyways and they would of been jealous and fought.
I think a boy ring bearer looks nicer.
Let the girls walk first, maybe one first then the other two holding hands, then the ring bearer between the flowergirls and the bridesmaids.
Or he could come in first, then he would not break the traditional flowergirl, bridesmaid, bride procession.
Or maybe he could just be standing at the front with the groom and the groomsmen just holding the cusion with the rings. I always thought the rings stayed with the best man anyways so maybe the ring bearer could too.
I think it is great that you are including him in the wedding.
2007-04-27 13:06:01 · answer #3 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
11 really is far too old to be a ring bearer. I was a junior bridesmaid at 10 in my cousins wedding and the flower girl and I were both having our dresses made. My biggest fear was that my dress would look like the flower girls and not like the bridesmaids.
There are tons of ways he can be a part of the wedding. He could be an usher. We had my fiances cousins (3 of them) man the guest book and hand out programs. He could take pictures of couples at the wedding. I had a friend who used a poloroid and took pictures of every single person/couple as they signed in. He could be the runner as usually communication is needed at the wedding (before the wedding b/t the groom and the bride, at the reception to tell the dj when you are ready to enter and if you are staging an exit for the photographer he could be in charge of getting the family members that need to take part to the back of the church)
If he plays an instrument or sings, he could do a song for the ceremony. I had a friend who had 2 of his siblings play violins during the ceremony. Or do a reading of scripture. Each wedding is special and has a spot for each person. But don't be talked into it if you don't actually want him to take part in it. After all, at 11 he might not want to participate anyway. I would talk to the boy and find out. He may not be interested.
Love the idea of triplets for flower girls. So cute! and Do what seems right to you for your wedding.
2007-04-23 16:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It shouldn't be a problem having him be part of the wedding. The ring bearer walks first and the flower girls follow after. He doesn't need to be paired up with anyone in the wedding party. A ring bearer is just the ring bearer, doesn't need a dancing partner or anything else.
2007-04-24 00:40:56 · answer #5 · answered by Riss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a couple of options but I dont know much about your wedding. If you are having a sit down type wedding, then make him an usher, he can escort people to their seats. He still gets to wear a tux or a suit and you can really hype up the job to make him feel special!
Also, if you have a train on your dress, you can have him help with the train down the aisle. And the last option is...make him a groomsman!!! Brides have Jr. Bridesmaids all the time (I did), there is nothing wrong with a young groomsman. If you have a younger or shorter bridesmaid you can have him escort her.
So as you can see, there is plenty of options. Just talk it over with your fiance and see what he says but you need to be honest about how you dont really think he would be appropirate as a ring bearer.
Good luck!!
2007-04-23 15:48:44 · answer #6 · answered by Natalie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An eleven year old boy is too old to be a ring bearer, they are usually four or five.
He can be a junior groomsman, after the bridesmaids and before the groom, walking alone. He would be dressed as one of the groomsmen.
Honestly though, a young boy like that would probably rather have his teeth pulled than get dressed up like that.
But ring bearer suits don't even come larger. And they usually wear short pants.
2007-04-23 15:49:40 · answer #7 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep all of them in the wedding. If it was my wedding I would just have the girls walks out first, maybe like a triangle- 1 in front with the 2 taller ones following behind her. Then I would have the ring bearer follow behind them. When I was a flower girl, I walked out first, then the 2 ring bearers followed behind me. Don't worry! Everything will be fine & I'm sure they will look adorable!
2007-04-24 19:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Dancing_Queen♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ring bearers don't need to be under 4 feet tall! Heck, if a full grown adult wanted to do it, I would see no reason not to let him, aside from the fact that it would seem a bit immature.
Let the nephew be the ring bearer. He will either precede the flower girls down the aisle or follow them, so there is not height issue. And let all three girls be flower girls. I think its sweet that your fiance wants to help his nephew through his slump!
2007-04-23 16:04:01 · answer #9 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can he stand with the groomsmen and then be the triplets "escort" down the aisle after the ceremony. 11 is sort of too old to be a ring bearer and at that age he might not want to have that kind of embarrassment. At least with the groomsmen he is having a big guy moment hanging out with the other guys.
2007-04-23 15:44:21 · answer #10 · answered by fyrechick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋