She's a very nice lady, but she comes from the church we used to go to, we are no longer "christians", and aren't really interested in meeting up with these people but she's really keen on it...I know they are "praying for us" too, and trying not to be offended by it...
how do I deal with this situation nicely?
Thanks!
2007-04-23 15:27:23 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
How about..."Thank you so much for keeping us in your thoughts and prayers, but we are not interested in going to church at this time"....or...."we are looking at other churches for a church home". Honest. Straightforward. I used to go to church and was taught evangelism and all the "christian-ese" language to use. Unless you are straightforward, they will just keep pressing in on you.
2007-04-23 15:35:38 · answer #1 · answered by susantpa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm one of those ladies. But just thank her for her interest and her prayers. Tell her you'll give her a call when you're ready to go again. That's the truth, whether or not you go later. If you 'have other plans' enough, she'll get the hint.
Once a Christian, always a Christian. Just going to a Protestant church doesn't make a person a Christian.
2007-04-23 15:33:40 · answer #2 · answered by ohio gal 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just say thank you for your prayers, and that you are currently happy with your place of worship after you had done so much soul searching to find it and feel that you had been blessed beyond your dreams by finding where you feel you truly fit in. And excuse yourself and go back to whatever it was you are doing. If she press on change the subject to other things and leave the area.
2007-04-23 15:37:30 · answer #3 · answered by calmlikeatimebomb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's a polite way To stop a religious fanatic from pressuring you to go to their church. You're going to have to point blank say, "thank you, but we don't share your beliefs." If she is offended there is nothing you can do. I find that people just keep pressuring me about church until I have to make it very clear that I do not subscribe to their religion.
2007-04-23 15:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by Cherokee Billie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could tell her nicely like this:
Thank you for your concern. However, we have made a conscious decision to move on with our lives, and that does not include the church. Please remain the very nice lady we know, respect our wishes and not bring the subject up again, for we have made up our minds.
2007-04-23 15:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by CC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to be honest, politely. Tell her you really don't want to start back there again but you appreciate her invitation. And I hope you can truthfully add that you have nothing against anyone there and hope they feel the same about you. Speak the truth in love and you'll be ok.
2007-04-23 15:32:26 · answer #6 · answered by Joyful Noise 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would thank her for her concern and her prayers and then go on to explain that you are not interested in rejoining the church but will call her if things change.
2007-04-23 15:31:29 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. E 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you no longer share the beliefs of that church. If she says they will pray for you be gracious. Thank her.
2007-04-23 15:30:51 · answer #8 · answered by Shirley T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you could tell them that you have your own beliefs now, and that you would like her to show as much respect for them as she would like you to show for her beliefs.
If that does not work, you may have to tell her that she is offending you, and you will have to put "limits" on your relationship with her if she does not stop.
2007-04-23 15:31:59 · answer #9 · answered by dave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only be as nice as she will allow you to be.
If she is rude enough to keep pushing the situation, then she's taking the choice to be nice out of your hands.
When you've had enough, tell her so.
2007-04-23 15:30:01 · answer #10 · answered by Handsome Boy Modeling School 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋