My boyfriend and i have been together for 6 years, im 26 he is 36, hes been married twice, ive never been married....
2007-04-23 14:58:23 · 17 answers · asked by angie w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I've actually been toying with the same question lately; I will have been with this guy 10 years on August 3rd. He is constantly saying that he wants to marry me but he wants to build his house first (with cash only-which means it will take some time,) I feel like he's just using it as an excuse. He's a hard working and I know he's been through a lot since the death of his first fiance about 10 1/2 years ago, and raising his daughter, but I have practically helped raise her and our son as well . She is 11 and our son is 5. I have a M.S. degree, but I have stayed her in MS to see what the outcome of our relationship will be and to keep my soon close to him, but I am to the point were I can't keep doing this only to be told after 10 or 11 years " I don't think your the one." The constant pressure from friends and family can be a problem too. It's also quite embarassing to tell someone "we been dating for 10 years." I do agree that you need a least 2-3 years before you marry though. Can i get some feedback? This is something I am ashamed to talk to my friends and family about.
2007-04-26 03:44:20 · answer #1 · answered by D W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married almost a year now and happy as ever. I only knew my wife for 3 months before we got married. We just knew we were made for each other . Personally, I think it is all up to the individuals and what they think a good time line is, however you say you have been together for 6 years !! Question, have you both ever discussed marriage. I have been engaged before but not married. I was with that girl for almost 7 years. I thought I would never want to get married again after our breakup, it was hard. The fact that he has been married twice before he might be gun shy about getting married again. As far as the age difference of 10 years, to me that doesn't matter. I'm almost 8 years older than my wife. I think you should just sit down and talk with him about it. That's one of the most important things about marriage is communication. If you can't communicate then your in trouble. This is all my personal opinions, but I think everyone would agree with the communication part. I wish you both luck in whatever you do...
2007-04-23 15:11:59 · answer #2 · answered by tigers2424 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you two have been dating long enough if your ready to get married most couples date any where from 2 years to 8 years before they get married. Some date longer than that.
2007-04-23 15:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Six year is definetly long enough! I've been with my fiance for 5 years and if we weren't getting married this year I would be frustrated! I really think even after 2 years you have a pretty good idea whether or not you would want to marry someone.
Good Luck!
2007-04-23 16:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by prettylukci 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm getting married in 8 weeks to my boyfriend of 7 years. He is 40 & I'm 28. This is our first marriage but he has children from previous relationships. Just be sure it's something you both want to do. Are there reasons why his previous marriages broke down - was he like alot of younger guys who just got married because their girlfriend wants to - and are those issues inyour relationship.
Just be happy together - if the time is right for both of you DO IT!!! If not wait abit.
2007-04-23 15:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by Lise Wisey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tigers2424....I love your answer!!!
I think if you were both ready you would know it by now. But it does make me wonder why he's been divorced 2 times already!!
I knew my husband 2 years before we got married. I was only 19 and he is 7 years older than me. We've almost been married for 8 years now and happier than ever!
2007-04-23 15:22:52 · answer #6 · answered by Liz B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly my husband and I knew after a week. However, we saw the inasanity in it and waited a year before becoming engaged and over 3 years to get married (until I graduated college).
At this point, if you think you are ready, I dont see any reason to second guess yourselves, you are old enough and have enough experence to know ifits right or wrong.
2007-04-23 17:31:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that you should date at least 1.5-2 years before getting engaged. I also think engagements should be at least 1 year long. Six years is a long time to be with someone and not married or engaged. I'd say wait 5 years at most, if it surpasses that amount of time, get rid of him and move on.
2007-04-23 16:03:51 · answer #8 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Six years is long enough, But Why as he been married twice and it has't work..May be you have some thing they don't.. or he's crazy.. lol Go a head and get married.. you only live once..And you know if he's right for you..
2007-04-23 15:29:17 · answer #9 · answered by tiajuana b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dame thats along time I would do it an you know they say the third time is a charm but time means nothing its the love I was in a relationship for 8 yrs and it ended badly I am glad we didnt get married
2007-04-23 16:04:02 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋