Our sex life is good. Neither has any complaints. What prompts someone to do this. I feel disrespected & betrayed. What should I do about this situation. I have very deep feelings form my boyfriend.
2007-04-23 14:03:09 · 31 answers · asked by Patricia B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It would be great to get some males points of view please
2007-04-23 14:43:55 · update #1
It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure this one out. You DUMP him. It doesn't matter if you have "deep feelings" for him. He obviously doesn't have RESPECT for you, or himself. Why be in a relationship with someone who has been cheating on you? Or a better question would be, how much longer before you both get infected with a really nasty STD?
******And for all the men on here saying that "men like variety".....that's bull! It takes a bigger man to commit with all his heart. It takes a punk to dip his stick in anything that moves.
2007-04-23 14:08:06 · answer #1 · answered by art_is_my_religion 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I have to say dump him! He obviously has issues that will probably get deeper with time. If you allow this, then that will only be the beginning of things to come! The only way a relationship can be strong is if it is based on truth and respect. You have every right to feel disrespected and betrayed. You have been, and it seems that he doesn't have much self-respect either. I am sorry for the pain that I know this is causing you, but the one consolation...better to find out about this now than after you are possibly married. Please don't allow yourself to accept this from him and go on...Your feelings of self-worth will be on the line, and this probably won't stop his behavior, it is a sign of deeper problems.
2007-04-23 21:12:46 · answer #2 · answered by wannaknow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the doctor and get tested for various STD's. If you stay with him, he must get tested also. I hope you don't have a disease. Next, men dont associate love with sex so it doesnt mean he doesnt love you. It was/is very wrong to do it, but he still probably loves you just the same. Men like variety and having sex with various women no matter how pretty or good in bed you are. If I wasnt a faithful man, I would still be chasing women. I know it is wrong so I don't. I hope you feel better soon. You should not overlook this or accept it as ok. He may be a sex addict or the like. Do get to the doctor.
2007-04-23 21:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
even if u have strong feelings he dosent have the right to be seing prostituted becasue in the mits of all that he can contract and std or wors HIV.. he is only thinking about his needs, may be he is addicted to sex and cannot help it but to cheat on u.. the best option will be to let him go because no girl deserves to treat a girl like that.. let him know he choose what he wanted n let him stay with the prostitute.. he might be sick and in the long run it will only affect u.. good luck with everything and hope u let him good for the better of ur future..
2007-04-23 21:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm shocked you even have to ask that question. GET RID OF HIM. Feelings does not matter when you get aids and die. What makes you think you cant get over him and be loved by someone who deserves you? Don't be of such low self esteem that you would lower yourself to a liar, cheat and one who has no love for anyone but himself. You should feel disrespected and betrayed. You will hurt for a while, but you will get over it. DUMP HIM NOW!!!!
2007-04-23 21:12:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its obviously a thing he has going that he really enjoys. you need to have a very serious conversation about this and find out what appeals to him about this relations he is having with unsafe strangers. you need to both go and get yourself tested for STD's and STI's as well. he could of contracted anything.
if you are willing to stay with him you need to know what your willing to put up with...what if his sex romps dont stop? and he isn't willing to stop? if he says he is going to are you able to trust him?
there are so many things you need to consider and its only going to work if you have a honest and trustworthy relationship. it doesn't seem this way right now seeing he has sex with other females.
maybe though you can be included in these fantasies, that might then keep things more visible to you and you can control more of whats happening.
this must be a very tough situation for you. i wish you luck xo
2007-04-23 21:10:24 · answer #6 · answered by SubbYMonKeY 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
His deep feelings for prostitutes could cost you your life. Get rid of him, get past the pain of the breakup, get tested for AIDS and move on.
2007-04-23 21:07:35 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drop him like a rock. And get tested immediately for STDs.
2007-04-23 21:06:17 · answer #8 · answered by John R 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He probably has some kind of psychological issue with sex, probably addiction.
PS have you had yourself tested for STD's.
2007-04-23 21:12:49 · answer #9 · answered by anon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Prostitutes. That is hard core. I'd think about dumping him. If you believe you deserve better that is.
2007-04-23 21:06:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋