what do you like in a girl?

Question

what do you like in a girl? i mean... i have a bunch of boyfriends lately but they usually only use me. One told me that the only reason he dated me was cause he heard i was a whore. another said the only reason i dated you was cause u were hot. and idk whats so wrong with my personality! I mean, I'm nice to people and iwould not be mean to anyone. I do alot of sports, and love boats. I wear makeup but just light makeup and im not afraid of jellyfish or anything because im always around them. Im not much of a girly girl but im not a manly girl. Is it so wrong that I don't scream when I see fish and stuff? Could it be something else? I love video games and to run and get dirty. But i love showers and spa days too. What is wrong with my personality? I only dump guys based on their personalitys! Am i conceided or something? How can I find out whats wrong with my personality? Maybe im not original enough?

Answer 1

Honey, there's nothing wrong with you except for your low self-esteem! Just stop worrying about boys for a while - cool down, spend time doing things you like, and ignore them! They're not worth your time until they're at least 24 anyway. ;o)

Answer 2

No its your perception of relationships thats hurting you. Understand that society has the horse before the carriage. Love is not the horse!!!! The horse is the friendship and the love is what you carry with you. Learn to find someone you can see as a friend and develop the relationship into something deeper. People get this wrong ideal that there partner most just be sexually attractive... not a good way to find that friend. But a good way to find a lay! Which isn't what we just look for in a relationship. Get someone who sees this to be true, your fine, I'd love to give you a shot, but I know that unless I go thru the steps to understand your story, your present situation, and your aspirations for the future, in the contense of your own charater, I really don't know who you are. And therefor I'm in love with a stranger. This is what leds to most relationships being dead-end, because sex doesn't kill relationships, its the lack of the individuals growing together that kills relationships. Find someone who knows this and sees the fact is you are original! And don't let the cute, sweet-hearts hurt your ego, they never got close enough to you to understand the why you do it, so they have no right to say anything about what you do. O yea and love is just a word used to sum up all the feelings we feel for an individual. So look at the actions to know what those feelings are, not just want they say, love isn't simply one feeling. Its the act of feeling for someone, its intensity grows as we learn to associate what we feel for(the individual in question) with what we feel with, (our hearts!) but that brains smart so if it tells you something isn't right listen, and good luck!