She is going to have it moved here - three hours from where she lives...I know they are expensive, but they are also HUGE, and we don't have room for it. What shall I tell her?
2007-04-23 13:17:27 · 9 answers · asked by applebetty34 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
She's already been here...we talked about getting a piano - an upright one when our kids get a little bigger... It is a sticky situation...
2007-04-23 13:23:09 · update #1
Tell her that although you absolutely love it, your current home is just too small for it. However, once you are in a larger place (whether or not you plan on it...), you would love to take her up on her offer, and will even pay the shipping at that point in time.
2007-04-23 13:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by Esma 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I had the same problem, but worse!
Last year, my mother-in-law arrived from Southern California (we're in Northern CA) with a piano in tow. She'd actually rented a U-haul, and drove it 450 miles to our home (without asking whether we wanted it beforehand.) Imagine my surprise when she pulled up into my driveway at 10:00 p.m. needing my husband and me to unload it! And THEN she was put-out that I didn't want to put it in the middle of my formal living room. (We ended up putting it in our guest room.) Yeesh.
Unless you want this to happen to you, I suggest you tell your relative that you are so very blessed, touched, and loved that she would want to give you such a beautiful gift, but you have absolutely no place to put it - certainly no place that would dignify the presence of such a "grand" instrument. Is she down-sizing, and needs to get rid of it, or she just wants to ensure you get it in her lifetime? If the former, is there another relative that might love to have it? If the latter, perhaps you could ask her to hold on to it for awhile longer, until you have a larger home that could handle it.
Good luck!
2007-04-23 14:12:20 · answer #2 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not too tough, really...
"Wow, Aunt Martha, that is such a generous offer! I can hardly tell you how sad it makes me to have to decline. There just really isn't room for a grand piano at our house. If you really need to get rid of it, maybe one of the schools in your area would be able to use this in their music programs - you know the funding for these programs is dwindling on a daily basis."
2007-04-23 13:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell her the truth, I am surprised she did not notice that it wouldn't fit when she was there.
but she may think that pianos are expensive and since she no longer needs hers you probobly would love to take it. and could find a place by getting rid of another piece of furniture.
I am like this with my daughter, I force things on her cause I know she can use them but sometimes she has to hit me over the head (not really) and say mom, thanks, I love you but I really can't take it. and I move on to the next thing I can do for her.
don't worry, she will get over it, ask her to donate it to a church or home for abused or something like that.
2007-04-27 04:20:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has your relative been to your home? Why not invite her, and discuss the problem in situ, so she can see for herself that much as you would love to have it, you simply don't have room. As she lives three hours away, ask her to come on a weekend, stay for dinner and spend the evening with you, and stay overnight.
2007-04-23 13:21:38 · answer #5 · answered by old lady 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, oh! I know a great way to work this out. Give the piano to me! That will be perfect for everybody!
2007-04-23 17:20:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her " thank you for thinking of us and we would love to have the piano but we just don't have a place for it that would show it off" good luck
2007-04-23 13:21:56 · answer #7 · answered by tinkerbell3648 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Exactly like this. "We don't have room for the baby grand piano you want to give us."
2007-04-23 13:22:19 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Niceguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth, that you are honored that she wants to give you this, but you do not have the room.
2007-04-23 13:20:44 · answer #9 · answered by iga k 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋