Im getting married in Oct and paying for the wedding in pretty tough. Thing is my Mom and older sister dont like my fiancee. Is it even right to ask them to help with some of the cost. My fiancee's family is chipping in with a lot of the cost. is it fair if i ask mine for help to.
2007-04-23 12:29:00 · 14 answers · asked by Kevin C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We both work full time but were just asking for help not for someone to pay everything. About 75% is coming out of our own pockets..... And were both 22
2007-04-23 12:39:05 · update #1
The male's side of the family isn't responsible for much...alcohol, tuxedos, and sometimes the flowers and rehearsal dinner (but not usually). Ask your mom if she is planning to help pay for the wedding. If not, oh well. You'll have to go it alone. I did and everything worked out beautifully!
2007-04-23 12:34:20 · answer #1 · answered by ubiquitous_mr_lovegrove 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
These days, mature couples do pay for their own weddings, because usually both are working, so they adjust the type of wedding they will have to how much they can save in a given period of time and budget.
If you are finding wedding expenses getting out of hand, perhaps its time to take a look at everything and scale back, usually on the number of guests since the reception usually costs the most. Wish you luck.
2007-04-23 15:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? And just exactly WHEN did you become an adult? And WHY is it that you expect your family to pay for the costs?
What would be the problem of having a LESS expensive wedding? Then again, you could always try and WORK to raise the money. And you COULD postpone the wedding until you can afford it yourselves.
Weddings don't cost much at all....there's only the nominal charges at the Registry Office. All the rest is negotiable.
2007-04-23 12:35:39 · answer #3 · answered by Spikey and Scruffy's Mummy 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Depends entirely on your relationship with your family. If you're comfortable asking them - then do it. If not, then don't. I tend to feel that it's tacky to ask anyone for money, even your family; if they were going to help you out, they would have offered - and there must be a reason why they haven't. It is your choice to have a wedding you can't afford, and while it would be nice of your family to help you out a bit, they certainly don't owe it to you. By asking them, you're risking to open up a can of worms.
2007-04-23 12:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you ought to take a seat which comprise your fiance and talk approximately this! you could clarify that it could be no longer common for the the two one in each of you to commence a relatives at the same time (with or and not making use of a toddler) whilst he remains helping his mom. You adult adult males stay in yet another state, you have your guy or woman lives to stress approximately, so his mom could guard her very own relatives. $800 is lots of money!! If he desires to maintain sending his relatives money, this is great, yet i could say no extra beneficial than $2 hundred at maximum. You adult adult males are approximately to commence a clean life and ought to maintain all the money you could. And as far as his mom continually citing the ex. only ignore approximately it. She is conscious your extra appropriate for her son and is only attempting to get her son back, yet this is not any longer the way it works. all and sundry is to blame for his or her very very own lives.
2016-10-03 11:25:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont thing its a good idea to ask your mom for funds, since your mom does like her, the blame will come on your wife soon... try making this a simple wedding if you r expecting a budget problem, if there's love, a simple wedding will actually look very grand itself!
Best Wishes!
2007-04-24 00:59:40 · answer #6 · answered by Matthew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you can ask but don't be upset if they refuse, especially if they don't like your fiancee. Its immature to refuse on those grounds alone but you never know. They might be happy to help if its financially possible.
2007-04-23 12:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't hurt to ask. The worst they can say is "no." Even if they don't like your fiancee, perhaps they will do it just for you.
2007-04-23 12:33:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be like mom/dad i need money for my wedding and i love my fiancee . id appreciate it if u support me.
2007-04-23 12:32:37 · answer #9 · answered by matt 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Grab your nuts and ask them. Just go up to them and speak the words. God, the universe or whatever you call it will handle the details of the transaction.
2007-04-23 12:34:13 · answer #10 · answered by Tadow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋