Stuck on Second Base. Help me get to home plate?

Question

i need advice from all you relationship experts out there. I need guys and girls advice on this one. I have been dating this new girl and she is more on the sensual side than i am. I am no virgin or anything, just a little gun shy. I have a hard time going for something unless I get an apparent green light or in otherwords, the go a head. Anyway, what i need to know is how to make the transition from the make out to the bed room. The problem is i have been with the same girl for too long so things were more routine, and now with this new girl its all a guessing game again. What advice can you give me? How test the water before i jump in? How can i avoid making it awkward for either of us? We have had discussions about our sexual preferences, and their is definately some sexual tension in the air. I think she is just waiting on me to initiate. But i have this fear of rejection i need to overcome. Please give me all the advice you can, because it is much needed! I need some good coaching

Answer 1

well if you both want it.. just jump her and tell her you want it.. make the first move.. dont be to forceful.. but dont let her off easy.. make her want it.. and show you want it.. trust me it works..

Answer 2

Don't be scared or nervous or anything like that. She's just playing the same game that all women play. She's waiting for you. Make the first move, go for it. You need to be flirty, have some fun. And just one night when ya'll are just hangin out at one of your places or ya'll just came home from eating dinner, be more flirty, fun, and sexual than usual. And just slowing get on to the bedroom. And if she says something like "I'm not ready for this" or something like that, don't take it personally as a rejection or anything. Because if she really likes you, then she's not rejecting you, she's just not ready like she said. But don't push her either. Wait a while before you try something like that again. And when ever she tells you something, actually listen. Don't go against what she says. If you push her, things could get bad. Just make sure you respect her in what you both are doing.

Answer 3

OK here is what you do. first start bringing up sex in your everyday conversations with her. (when its just you and her of course) this way she can tell you about her sexual preferences. then next time the two of you are in a hot and heavy make out session start advancing. touch her in spots you normally don't and see if she pushes your hands away. first keep it over the clothes and then try to go underneath. at this point if she lets you go underneath she will most like let you go all the way so at that tI'me keep kissing her but stand her up and bring her into a bedroom (yours or hers whatever) but keep it going while you are walking this is hot for a girl to know that you want her so bad you cant stop kissing her.
then im sure you can go from there. o yea and FYI girls don't like to have bright lights on the first time the two of you have sex. try candles or a really dim light. this will make her feel a lot more comfortable.e

Answer 4

just put all your fears aside and go for it. sexual confidence, or just confidence period is sexy in a man. it'll be awkward the first time. it's something new. it's bound to be awkward! make sure the time is right and just let things flow...figuratively speaking. maybe go out of town together and let the sexual tension build up all day long doing couple-y things then at night you BOTH know what is bound to happen. so that the pressure isn't all entirely on you, ya know? at least this worked for me and my current boyfriend. good luck! ;)

Answer 5

OK baby here's what game she's playing. Shes sensual which means she knows her stuff. But any girl likes to be the one to follow at first. At First...
Play her game, go for it! If all the signs are there just casually drop hints, trust me, if you can get her to lead you to her apartment, and she follows you out...she's yours/
PLUS this will work out for you in the end. Once you initiate, girls are loose cannons...
Good Luck ;)

Answer 6

ok first start making out with her, when things start heating up slowly slid your hand up her thigh, if she is wearing a skirt you can go straight to the underwear, if she is wearing pants then slid your hand up her leg up to her stomach and under the shirt to her breasts play around there for alittle bit then slid your hand down her pants, if she has not already pushed your hand away which i'm sure she won't, then that means she is ready for some action and go from there, girls are more sexual than most guys think and they usually want it just as bad as you they just don't want you to know.

Answer 7

From previous experience, just take it easy for a while. The best place is to take her to the movies because that's when girls feel more sexual because they're with their boyfriends. Just don't go straight for it or she'll never forgive you for it.

Answer 8

Just tell her how you feel and that you would like to make love with her. Why beat around the bush?

Answer 9

look in case you somewhat like this female, you will wait till shes waiting. do not tension issues and merely have exciting, b/c in step with possibility she likes you alot and if the only element you're questioning of is getting "fortunate" then in step with possibility you ought to enable her bypass b/c she would finally end up harm. in case you somewhat like this female, you will wait till shes waiting.

Answer 10

Quit worrying about it and make your move or she is going to think something is wrong with you.