my bf has his friend over helpin my mom fix the fence and i brought him the tools and i was jokin around and said " well why couldnt u guys work closer, makin me walk all the way over here" and he said " i didnt put a gun to anyones head and make them do anything" and waited untill his friend turned away and then blew me a kiss and mouthed " sorry baby" why are they like taht!
2007-04-23 11:39:33 · 30 answers · asked by Angelique 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
all i did was walk away and talk to my brother and his friend [ i heard him loud and clear] said " that was harsh man" and my bf said " well sorry sometimes i cant tell when shes jokin or not ne more she acts the same" which i dont. when i joke i smile and when i dont im always not smiling. His friend likes me though so i guess my bf was just tryinto to get him to know that im not who he thinks i am.
2007-04-23 11:53:05 · update #1
*It's a manhood thing, they have to be arrogant assholes in order to get respect from each other.
.So if your guy was all nice to you around his boys, then they would automatically think he was a softy and give him a whole bunch of **** for it. Whereas when he makes jokes at your expense around you, if his guys are around...well it's "cool" and he gets props for it. Because it's "tough" and they think for whatever reason that it's funny. Maturity has a lot do with it also. Then again even grown men still act that way...so who knows really.
*Anyways you can let him know it bothers you, but he'll probably still do it anyways just b/c he's a guy...and that's how they are.
2007-04-23 11:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by Shut your mouth when u tlk to me 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since I grew up around boys I can actually answer this!
They are showing off!
I don't know why they always have to prove that they can do something, but trust me, guys like to show off in front of their friends when girls are around...it's like a must for males.
They all do it, and will probably continue to do it...like one time, my boyfriend and I were hanging out with some of his friends (well my friends too, but at the time I didn't know them very well...) and they decided who could jump off the roof into the pool. It's not a very deep pool, but they all did it, and they tried to see who could do the most, and best tricks...I'm surprised no on got killed, and the strange thing is...my parents just laughed, while I was standing there gawking and yelling...I feel like a fool for doing it, but they were having fun, and it wasn't so dangerous, because both my parents were there.
So yeah, basically they're just showing off, and being guys! Just let them do it, unless its like a life or death situation, then you can intervene, and try to stop them.
2007-04-23 11:48:05 · answer #2 · answered by Caiti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hah...you know why....cause there only trying to show off. I know it sucks but there just trying to look cool around there friends thats all. If hes a real a** and dose it all the time then tell him how you feel. Hey at least he appoligized right?? My bf does the same thing. So keep your head up and Good Luck I hope this helped.
2007-04-23 11:52:15 · answer #3 · answered by Barrelracergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ninth grade... that takes me back an prolonged way. 40 years or so. yet I remember it nicely. Puberty had kicked in. Hormones have been raging out of control. It wasn't see you later in the past that girls had cooties and if to procure too friendly with one, you have been teased mercilessly via your male friends. i assume the extra serious factor replaced into the lack of self assurance. each and everything between the adult males developed right into a contest. To coach you have been able to stand your individual, it replaced into elementary to placed on a front. to coach emotion replaced right into a weak point. there have been so few roll fashions. regularly cases, it replaced into our fathers who we mimicked. We practiced treating the ladies individuals in our lives the way we observed our father cope with our mothers. i replaced into very fortunate to have a father that dealt with my mom like a queen. no longer each and every of the lads have been so fortunate and regularly cases, the ladies individuals of their lives paid a heavy cost for having the misfortune of being concerned. My advice is this. turn around and walk away in the previous you start to have faith it is your subject... that something is incorrect with you. that according to risk you need to be dealt with this way. there's a youthful guy obtainable who will cope with you like the lady you're and are becoming. do no longer settle for abuse from anybody and don't be in too lots of a hurry to advance up. you will no longer have the possibility to relive those years so which you will possibly be able to desire to get it as astonishing as achieveable the 1st time. you may't restoration anybody yet your self or perhaps then, lots relies upon on how broken you're. reliable good fortune
2016-10-28 19:14:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have experienced the same problem!!! Okay, i think it is because it is the testosterone taking over and they have to still "appear" to be the boss in the relationship! They do not want their boys thinking they are "whipped or in check" in the relationship so they portray a man who is in charge. It is an act and they need to out grow it. Try acting different around him and see how he likes it. He probably will not like it at all and see where you are coming from.
2007-04-23 11:43:50 · answer #5 · answered by Chanel707 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They're trying not to look like a whimp in front of their friends. They think if they act soft around their friends that it hurts their ego. I'm a guy, and I act completely normal when I'm around my g/f and my friends at the same time. Some guys are just weird like that.
2007-04-23 11:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They do this because they don't want to be thought of as "soft" in front of their male buddies. A lot of guys have that unwritten guide of how men are supposed to act whenever they are in a social setting. A man is supposed to be strong and in control. I'm not in any way defending him; I can't stand it just as much as you can't. But here's just one thing to think about as well: He acts like that towards you around his buddies because he feels the need to be accepted and liked by them. Do you ever act a certain way, dress a certain way or even change how you feel sometimes in order to be liked by certain people or feel like you belong? Be honest with yourself; and if you answered yes to that question, think again about what he did. The issue with him acting that way definitely needs to stop, but you need to first realize the reason behind it. If you want to talk about things with me, I'm more than willing to work with you. There's a lot of things we do that hurt us and other people; we just fail to understand why.
Heath
My e-mail address is eckm0032@umn.edu
2007-04-23 11:48:10 · answer #7 · answered by heath e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all has to do with testosterone. They feel like they need to show off for their male counterparts because of the "ancient days" where man was in charge and we women were stuck in the cave cookin, cleanin, and makin babies. We sure have come along way......
2007-04-23 11:43:03 · answer #8 · answered by Deede 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can you handle the truth? It's because when our friends are around, they are the priority, not our girlfriends. It's not meant to hurt or disrespect you. You just don't understand and we apologize.
Why does the girlfriend have to ALWAYS be the priority? Do you want to take over his entire life?
2007-04-23 11:43:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's just showing off to his buddy. Ignore him when he does that crap. He doesn't mean it. He's just trying to look like a big shot in front of his friend.
2007-04-23 11:45:01 · answer #10 · answered by golden rider 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋