This really hot guy who I've known for about a year (we're pretty good friends as it is now) admitted to liking me, and I admitted to having the same feelings towards him. We're talking about going to the movies this weekend, but nothing is official yet, so if I need to I can back out. My best friend went out with him but is now over him, and she says that he was a good boyfriend and very caring, but also had some jerky phases. My other friend also dated him, but said that he was a man whore and thought he could get any girl he wants. She said that he would just make out with you and then get out of the "relationship." He's been a great friend as it is, so I'm wondering if the same behavior would carry over into the relationship. Should I give this friend a chance or listen to his two ex-girlfriends? <3
2007-04-23 11:37:58 · 10 answers · asked by The Prep 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds like a player-----------play with fire and you will get burned.
2007-04-30 20:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by EZMZ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Giving him a chance is totally up to you and doesn't sound like a bad idea. You are already armed with some information about his dating habits and have the benefit of knowing him as a friend. I would simply keep an eye out for any signs that say the relationship is going places that might not be in your best interest or what you want, and take things slow. Good luck.
2007-05-01 16:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What gets me is that you say he has been a great friends yet he never related anything to you about his past relationships. On top of that your showing classic signs of just plain not trusting him, or else you wouldn't be on here. These two things say this guy really is more of a stranger too you then your willing to admit or else there wouldn't be no issue at all. With that being the case, what do you think about your other "best" friend, do you think she is hiding more? And the other friend that said some bad things about him, what do you think about her opioins? The fact is I'd say heck no! Just because I see to much hot guy and I like him, which shows me that you've been pretty much an observer in his life, trust me its different to be part of a persons life as oppose to being someone looking in on it. Black and white really, but its your life, maybe you'll learn who more to trust after a outting with this guy. Just be careful your t'd up to make some classic mistakes..... namly you have a crush on someone who really must be a stranger, so anything can go... let me restate it this way, assoicates tolerate each other and never get too deep with each other, friends are the type of people that slap one another when they do something stupid and congratulate each other when they've done something smart.... were do you stand with him? Think about that before you go...
2007-04-24 09:20:42 · answer #3 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything changes once you become 'more than friends'. He will start to treat you just like he treats the others, no matter how good of friends you were. Also, he was with your 2 girlfriends... Why would you want sloppy seconds? He just wants to get with as many cute girls as he can. Find another guy that hasn't dated all of your friends.
2007-05-01 15:39:45 · answer #4 · answered by LJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say give him a chance. Maybe he grew up more or he just wasn't really interested in your friends and that's why he acted the way he did.
2007-05-01 11:19:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find the closest door to you, open it, and exit...this guy is just looking for a nother victim...don't let it be you. Sounds so harsh, but sometimes lessons hurt in a harsh word.
2007-04-30 22:02:18 · answer #6 · answered by maestra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HONESTLY, GIVE HIM A CHANCE BUT BE VERY CAREFUL. I CHEATED ON ALL MY BOYFRINDS BECAUSE I DIDNT LOVE THEM. THE ONE IM WITH NOW I DO LOVE SO I NEVER CHEATED. MAYBE HE WAS LIKE THAT BECAUSE HE DIDNT CARE FOR HIM. IF YOU GUYS HAVE BEEN FRIENDS THEN HE MUST CARE FOR YOU. GOOD LUCK
2007-05-01 17:10:32 · answer #7 · answered by T Rom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it at friends! UR friends have already bein wit him, it would be unhealthy for "girl-friends" to share the same man. anyway jus my opion, hope u make the rite choice.
2007-05-01 18:14:11 · answer #8 · answered by Alexander 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont and i mean dont ever go out wit yo bff xboyfriend even if she says its ok why would u want sloopy 2 any way somethin she aready had and it wont be much fun talkin bout him to her
2007-05-01 15:59:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give him a chance...you cant rely on what ppl say these days....no one can tell you how you feel....so just go with what your feeling
2007-05-01 18:36:28 · answer #10 · answered by mariah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋