ok.. here's the deal.. i have a "friend".. him and i are not officially together, but we talk on the phone every day, text each other and whenever we hang out we make out, hug, and touch... anyway.. it's been going on for over 2 months now.. when i asked him where it's goin' he said "we'll see where it goes".. nothing changed since.. i hate the fact that i dont know where is the whole thing going.. but should i bring it up again? cuz i want us either tobe official or not to be at all....
2007-04-23 11:20:32 · 26 answers · asked by Stacy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You better decide pretty quickly what YOU want in a relationship. And then make sure you stick to it and don't settle for less. "Life's too short to dance with ugly men" ;) Don't waste your time in a relationship that isn't fulfilling your needs (the security need to know where its going). Its hard to say for sure since I don't know you, I don't know him, I don't know many details of your relationship. But from what you've described it sounds like um...what's that old saying, about not buying the cow because he's getting the milk for free. I know that usually applies to sex, and you're just making out, but the same principal applies. You want a commitment, but here he's got this great friend, who is providing him with lots of action, for just the price of some phone time, so he has lots left over to feel he's rich and can go buy or rent some more cows if he wants to. If you don't mind that, then great! Keep up your current relationship and stop freaking out about where its going. If it does bother you though, then you better talk to him again, this time knowing what you want, and making sure he knows that you know what you want as well.
Good Luck.
2007-04-23 11:41:48 · answer #1 · answered by Ally J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know exactly what you want and stand firm! You do not need to keep asking the same questions because more than likely he will give you the same answer. Also..don't wait for him to call the shots. If you want to be official make it happen. Throw old traditions out the door and give him a modern approach. If he is ready to settle down with you then he'll appreciate your boldness and be with you, if not then perhaps it's time for you to move on. There is no use in waiting around for someone who isn't sure of what they want, especially when you are.
2007-04-23 18:27:15 · answer #2 · answered by Lvgrl23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably just seeing how far things can go without any type of title on things. If he wanted to be in a relationship with you, it seems that he would already have pursued that route and said something. My guess is that he likes things the way they are and will continue being the way he is...
2007-04-23 18:26:59 · answer #3 · answered by benz s55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to be clear what he wants out of your companionship. Bring it up and be ready to listen to either a positive or negative answer. It's bad if someone in the relationship is blind-sided and feel pressured or confused of where it is going, make this clear to him. Good luck!
2007-04-23 18:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by parvastella22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you push it you run the risk of pushing him away. It's only been two months that isn't very long. He should be applauded for wanting to take it slow. That you don't want to is not a good sign. You seem needy and immature, it's probably a good thing he wants to see the real you first.
2007-04-23 18:24:57 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to consider not giving him what he needs or wants (touching etc..) until you get what you need. (an explanation or clarification of where this is going) Next time make sure that you are clear with where the relationship is going before you allowe people to feel you up
2007-04-23 18:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by upfromnutin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is there to be confused about? If he wanted to be "official" he would have told you. He wants what he has: someone to hang out with and make out with but with no strings attached. You're being played.....
2007-04-23 18:23:57 · answer #7 · answered by Dena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he keep sayin dat he just want a friend wit benefit, bring it up again n if he say de same thing, he dont want it 2 go any1 he just want some1 2 make out wit. tell him either u guys go out officially or stop makin out.
2007-04-23 18:25:22 · answer #8 · answered by Babygurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe. Stay chill about it. This happened to my friend. She was doing that stuff with a guy she really likes. She used to ask me if he liked her or not. I thought so. Then three months abo something amazing happened. She wounld make out with him if he didnt want to be with her. He said he loved her and Now they have benn going out for 3 plus months. Still going strong. He likes you. and....stay chill :)
2007-04-23 18:27:19 · answer #9 · answered by Severus Snape 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him what YOU want. If you tell him you want to be exclusive, and he says no, then you should do what makes you feel best. Sometimes, the right decisions aren't always the easiest ones to make at the time. Good luck!
2007-04-23 18:23:54 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋