this is my broters account,
2007-04-23 11:18:09 · 32 answers · asked by Robert J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your husband doesn't already know i think u should (as painlessly as possible) tell him. if he hears it from someone else then the relationship is most likely over but if u sit and talk about it u might get through it. tell him ur sorry over and over again. but if u don't tell him it will haunt ur mind 4 ever and u'll always worry about it, then when u think its gone it will pop back up again. so i think u should just get the telling him over with now.
2007-04-23 11:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG!!!
uh that's quite a predicament...
I think that you should have a meeting between you and your husband first to discuss what happened be truthfull and explain to him that you weren't in the right state of mind and you are so sorry and you never would do anything to hurt him on purpose and ask for forgiveness...next all three of you need to talk about it and discuss how it happened to make sure there are no repeats, then the brothers need to talk brother to brother because this can cause some serious issues not just in your marriage, but also in their relationship as brothers...MOST important...this is why drug and alcohol free is the way to be.
I hope this helps,
good luck. I am praying for you. : (
~*NICOLE*~
John 8:32
And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.
Just tell the truth.
2007-04-23 11:40:31 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Jelly [20080806] 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that you once had sex with someone he knows at some point in the past. Explain that it was the hugest mistake you ever made, it was made under the influence & that you will never do it again. Getting this off your chest may make you feel better but it will crush him. He will need to think about what he wants to do and he will need time. Tell him you will do anything you can to make things right including quitting drinking or promising to drink only when he is around.
2007-04-23 11:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you. Being drunk is not an excuse. If you enjoyed sex with your brother (in law), means you don't love your husband at all. So, there is no reason to keep married. Both of you will suffer. Get divorced. And if you ever get married again, make sure you love him first. If you love wild sex, as I suppose you do, don't get married. Enjoy your sex life. Take care about aids and drugs. It could make your life to short.
2007-04-23 11:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well your right its no excuse and if your husband doesn't know about it then I think you need to be telling him.
A marriage is built on trust and honesty.
Your husband can only do two things work it out with you or not forgive you and move on with his life.
I mean you can't blame him if he wanted to move on cause that was his flesh and blood you were with. What in Gods name was you thinking? First of all people that drink and use drugs are some what stupid anyways " not saying your a stupid person" but I think I would be working this out with my husband. hope this helps Good luck your going to need it .
2007-04-23 11:26:41 · answer #5 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you should do is tell your husband and let the chips fall where they may. He will find out sooner or later, better sooner and from you. That way you are only a cheater and not a liar too. Well at least that will be something to hold your head up too.
2007-04-23 11:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Accept responsibility for the crappy thing you did to your husband and tell him ASAP. If he leaves you, remember that this is your fault and you did the best you could by being honest. Maybe you should go to a detox if you want to be a better person and show your husband that you are working on getting better.
2007-04-23 11:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by momfirst101 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go on Jerry Springer or The Maury Show. Anyone that would do that sorta thing belong in those crowds.
2007-04-23 11:21:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you're lying.
If not, you've got some very big issues regarding family and sexuality.
The easy answer: get divorced, join a nunnery, and say good-bye to your old life. Maybe ten years later you can re-emerge into the rest of society.
2007-04-23 11:23:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
call a divorce attorney and get out you slept with your brother in law because you were unhappy...there is no way to fix this..dont waste your time it will drag out...get ahold of the attorney and then tell him...sorry for the bad news.
you'll be in a better place after wards
2007-04-23 11:21:29 · answer #10 · answered by naughtywithtattoos 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋