I've been having sex with this guy for over a year - but that's all it is - basically booty call. He texts / calls me, we have sex and then that's it. At first I thought it would be over like the first time we did it, but he kept calling. Then I asked him whats up and he was like, I don't want a relationship... so then I thought I didn't have anything to lose, so I asked him if I was good in the sack and he said I was the best he ever had. We're still gettin it on. What the hell?? Seriously, it's been over a year...
2007-04-23 11:06:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes - of course we are having "safer" sex and I get tested all the time. I insist on it!
I don't know how I feel about it. The sex is REALLY good, but I'm a girl and I know that girls don't f**k without feelings - but I guess I'd rather have a small part of him than nothing at all... I think at some point I will want more and I just need to remember that this is a temporary situation.
2007-04-23 11:18:40 · update #1
I guess the question is how do you feel about this? Do you want more than just sex with this guy? If you do have relationship feelings for him and he doesn't want anything on that level then the best thing for you to do is to stop being his booty call. You don't need to explain why other than you want to move on with your life and what you guys have or don't have is preventing you from doing so.
2007-04-23 11:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by Lwood 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been where you are.. but it didn't last a year, it lasted 3 mnths and I was having the same thoughts as you. I think that if he's prepared to just sleep with you and not put anything else into the relationship, then you need to kiss him goodbye!! Do it for your own dignity and self respect.. most men couldn't give a **** whether your emotions are involved or not and that's how you know that they're not worth it.. 3 mnths is way to long, but a year is ridiculous!!! Obviously your just a F##K Buddy and obviously he's just a disrespecting useless PRICK!! Tell yourself that you are better than that and update yourself with the new trend of having long term FB partners.. because it's happening to people everywhere.. If he liked you enough.. then he would want something more from you.. Get rid of him, he's just using you!!!
2007-04-23 18:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by Gavin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might not be the only girl he's sleeping with so all I can say is, obviously he's not interested in commitment, but watch out for STDs. However long it lasts depends ont he guy's interest in you as a sex object, once he gets bored he'll likely move on. Since he's been with you for a whole year he may feel comfortable having you as a sex partner and you may truly be "the best he's had," that being the case this can go on indefinitely.
2007-04-23 18:10:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im surprised you havent developed any real feelings for him yet!!
A year, cor blimey! None of my real relationships havent even lasted that long.
I would end it now, find someone else. Whats the point in having a year long relationship with someone, where all your getting is sex?
You could have got a real boyfriend that would give u sex and so much more in that space of time!!!
You've probably given each other enough sexual wisdom to last you a lifetime. About time you practiced it on someone else. Dont ya think??
2007-04-23 18:15:22 · answer #4 · answered by NatNat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens...sometimes those situations last a while, sometimes not...if you are both still content with it, then continue...if not, then part ways.
For someone who doesn't desire a relationship, it's a good situation...sexual desires are fulfilled, without the "stuff" that goes with being in a romantic relationship...nothing wrong with it at all, as long as everyone is aware of the situation and accepts it for what it is.
2007-04-23 18:11:22 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a booty call that lasted two years, and it would of kept going if I didn't push to want more. If you are happy with the way things are going then leave it alone, and if not get out.
2007-04-23 18:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really aren't any set rules when it comes to sex only relationships. A year isn't really that unusual. 10 years would be.
I would suggest just enjoying it (I assume you do enjoy it, since you continue the relationship) and be as safe as possible about it.
2007-04-23 18:13:29 · answer #7 · answered by WatersMoon110 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm surprised it has been going on this long actually. Most people finally wake up and realize they want more than just sex. But it seems to be working for you guys.
2007-04-23 18:10:43 · answer #8 · answered by ciberpunk1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal, if a guy has nothing tying him down of course he is gonna enjoy it. Thats the fun for them, and you of course if you're enjoying it. Just don't get your hopes up of getting into a relationship with him. Good luck....
2007-04-23 18:14:52 · answer #9 · answered by Momof2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-04-23 18:12:30 · answer #10 · answered by amberharris20022000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋