Women between 35-40, please answer?

Question

What do you think of girls 25-30 who are extremely picky?
I believe a lot in equality, if a girl makes a lot of money a has a very good career, then she should expect her man to have the same or more. I think the same way if a girl is really beautiful, then she should get a really handsome man as well.
But what about those girls who are not working, are not goal oriented, yet want to their "rich prince charming" to come on his own and sweep them of their feet. I'm also talking about the girl who are not pretty, yet are always trashing, and turning down very decent looking guys just because things like "he's handsome, but he's not gorgeous", I want an even taller man, he's got hairy arms, I don't like his hair.

What would you tell these girls?

Answer 1

I love this question! I am 32 and single. One of my sisters said once "maybe you should just settle" I got very offended because I do not believe that. I work very hard, am a good person and not bad looking...I would never settle for less than I deserve. I am also very realistic and do not have extremely high standards. Looks do not mean everything to me, personality and work ethic and things that count do. So eventhough I got offended I do feel that being extremely picky is a bad thing...

So, to answer your question- if a girl had incredibly high expectations from a guy and was only interested in their money or looks etc, I would tell them that they are being ridiculous. These are not important factors in dating and they will end up being unhappy and lonely.

Answer 2

I am 36 yrs old. Girls need to realize that looks and the outer cover isnt everything. My ex was good looking, fit and all. I was also abused by him emotionally, verbally and it was going down the road to physical abuse. I know am dating a guy going on a year now. He treats me as a woman should be treated. We laugh with each other. Tell each other everything. He treats me with respect and I do with him too. He isnt the typical "hottie" either. He is overweight but I dont see it. He is beautiful to me in every way. If I didnt look past the outer cover I would have missed out being with the man of my dreams.

Answer 3

while I hate to call it settling I believe that as we get older and learn from experience that we are able to accept a potential mates "faults". It is just when you are younger you have an idea in your head of everything your man should be. Maybe you get lucky and find him...maybe not. I will admit that I date men now that I would not have dated back when I was 25-30. I am 37 now and have only recently learned that not everything comes in a pretty package. Plus when you are with someone that you may not initially find attractive-you can fall in love and atually have other things besides appearance that attract you to that person.

Answer 4

OK i would tell both sets of girls that there is more to like and a relationship then money and looks. None of that matters if the guy treats you nice, with respect, respects your feelings and ideas, that accepts you for who you are and doesn't try to change you and is most of all a faithfull partner that makes you feel completed as a person and helps you to see your own beauty and happyiness. That is what matters most in a relationship. We all have physical flaws and we should never count some one out cause of those cause some one then may count us out for ours.

Answer 5

you know, i'm 24 but i completely agree with you. but i'll tell you like this...i have been told i am a decent looking girl and i have a good job, and 2 wonderful little boys. and i'm told i'm just the opposite of what you describe...that i'm not picky enough. i don't go for a guy based on his looks or how much money he makes. i'd rather be poor and happy then rich and miserable. he can look just like ken (you know, barbies' bf) but if he isn't nice or if he treats me like i'm beneath him, then he's out. my advice to these girls you describe (coming from a 24 year old's eyes). work on yourself before thinking about a man.

Answer 6

Actually, men and women of all ages are known to behave as you describe...it's their right, they can be as picky as they want, and if someone wants to be their partner then that's up to that person as well.

Personally I wouldn't waste my time on someone who wanted something, when they weren't willing to work to have their own anything...as for looks, everyone has their own preferences...what you consider 'ugly' someone else might really like.


What would I tell people like this? Don't be surprised if you don't get what you desire...we don't deserve more than we're willing to work for (although sometimes people get it anyway).

Answer 7

I hit the comparable kind of street block, even with the undeniable fact that i'm no longer 40. the extra youthful adult males are social gathering pushed, the little bit older are thoroughly profession pushed, and how older are merely into doing their very own factor. i've got been an 'equivalent risk dater' and it hasn't been very effective. i could recommend to aim the internet courting, it may provide the possibility to talk with somebody online, and are available to a determination in case you opt to fulfill them. particularly than dropping a bunch of time and capacity on a bunch of laborious first dates. maximum suitable of fantastic fortune!

Answer 8

Only one thing to say, people always want what they cannot have, this is a fact going back to the beginning of time!

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Answer 9

not to judge a book by its cover.. there are lot of average and not to good looking men out there .. and when you get to know them.. they are the prince charming... what is prince charming any way.. a charming man .. could that not also mean his personailty...i know way to many good looking men that are conceited and players.. now what is so charming about that

Answer 10

You should never "settle" for a guy. You should be compatible with him and he should have all the qualities you want in a mate.