How can I believe in God when my best friend is suffering and dying from cancer?

Answer 1

I'm sorry your friend is sick. My mother died of cancer in November and I still believe in God.

There are no accidents in the universe - it's all part of a plan.

I don't know why God allowed your friend to get cancer and I don't know why He allowed my mom to die from it.
Do I really need to know?

I can only trust that all of this happend for a reason and I may not know that reason for quite sometime - if ever.

I can tell you that with every death comes a re-birth.
It may be a re-birth within yourself or your family or within your friends family.

Again- I'm sorry your friend is sick.
Trust in the love you have been given for them because that love comes from God and love is a good thing to believe in.

Answer 2

It's not hard. My mom died of a terrible disease three years ago. Now she doesn't suffer anymore.

There are two ways I can view this ( and so can you.)

1) If there is a God, than I will see my mom again (and you will see your friend) and she will be happy, her suffering nothing but a memory. Millions of years from now after eons of happiness neither she nor I will care anymore that she suffered so terribly. The happiness will have long ago over came the suffering.

2) If there is no God than your friends suffering is meaningless and so was my mothers. Your friend will die, as will you, me, and everyone else, and all of it will mean nothing. Eventually the sun will explode and wipe out the entire planet and everything that ever lived on it and it won't matter at all.

If there is a God, a billion years from now all our earthly pain will not matter anymore. If there is no God our suffering is entirly meaningless and a billion years from now no one will remember our suffering anyway.

Believing in God will give you the hope you and your friend need to get through this difficult time.

Remember to think on a larger scale. In a billion years either our suffering won't matter or your friend will be too happy to care that he suffered.

Believe what you choose. I believe God gives me hope.
Good luck.

Answer 3

Because God is not the cause of suffering, and He doesn't kill children because He needs another angel in heaven.

The Devil is the cause of sin and imperfection and thus death. If you are truly going through something like this then I am so sorry. I have been there and done that and it is the worst feeling in the world. But knowing that God will rectify the situation in His due time is what sustained me.

"Every perfect present comes from Jehovah." It's the wicked ruler of this system of things who wants people to think that God is cruel and heartless (or nonexistent) for letting Satan wage his campaign against the Earth.

It will all come out right in the end, and if your friend does fall asleep in death, the hour is coming in which those in the memorial tombs will come out.

I can't wait to see my friends/family again :0)

Answer 4

God has a plan for everyone, and He decides when a person is born in this life and passes to the next life. This plan is greater than the wants of any person. It hurts that you are losing someone close to you, but they are being called to a better place. Find comfort that you were able to know this person at all, cherish the memories that you have, and look forward to the day when you will be reunited.

May I recommend a few books that have helped me:
90 Minutes in Heaven by Don Piper
Good Grief by Granger E. Westberg

Answer 5

This is a hard one--God isn't trying to cause you or your friend pain. I do believe in God and like you I still do not understand so much. Why would a loving God allow suffering, pain,and death? I think that this is where ones faith or lack thereof comes in. Bad things happen to good people, bad things happen to bad people. All I know for sure is that God has reasons for what he does, and for what is allowed to happen. If you believe in God the pray, ask him

Answer 6

No one says you have to. The same way no one says you HAVE to believe that 2 + 2 = 4.

Sure, people tell you that such and such is true, but that doesn't make it so. All the great answers in the universe are fundamentally patient, meaning that they do not require immediate obedience.

Don't believe in God when you're friend is dying. God perfectly understands why you feel the way you feel. Your imperfect knowledge is what is making you feel the way you feel, but that's ok. God doesn't expect us to always sing hallelujah; losing faith is as much a part of how we come to understand ourselves (and God) as having faith.

A friend is not one with whom you never fight with, a friend is one with whom you never stop fighting (and forgiving) with. Love doesn't mean never leaving, love means always returning.

Answer 7

I have cancer and believe me..I am so glad that God is with me. If he did not exist you would have to go through everything alone. Then the final reward of getting to spend eternity with wonderful people and not a worry in the world. It would be much worse to have cancer and have nothing to look forward to.

Answer 8

This is when your faith should be stronger than at any other time!
God may be drawing you to Him, through this---instead of blaming God, and getting upset with God, try praying and seeking Him, with your whole heart.
For the Lord says, in the Bible that those who seek Him with their whole heart will find Him! He draws many to him through things like this....for bad things turn out for good, ALWAYS with God! Whatever God's will is, is for the best- and if you did believe in Him, and trusted Him, you would see in the end how God was taking care of you the entire time. Sometimes through someone dying, we can really rest in knowing God is in control- this should draw us closer to Him....not apart from Him.
I would not be able to handle something like this without God!

Answer 9

Because God directed you to be the best friend of your best friend, to guide, console, and be spiritually helpful. You have to believe His decision. Why your friend got cancer, we'll never know. We're all leaving this place one day and it is a comfort to know that someone is there in our last breath. And if you are truly a best friend, your friend would probably like to see you before death.

Answer 10

When we suffer, we turn to our blessed LORD. He suffered also. He understands. We are in a fallen world. A world of suffering and disease. Our bodies are carnal, broken. That's why we don't hold on to this world. We look forward to the next life-eternal. No death, disease or suffering.