is it a good idea to ignore my bf for a while??

Question

i was upset at him...it seems that his not the guy that i met before...cuz we usually talk on the phone for several hrs or we text messages....

after we spend time last saturday...he only called me once yesterday we only talk for only 2min and that was around 2pm...i know he woke up late cuz he left my house around 3am...after that he text around 8pm...well he just ask me if i ate dinner and his doing laundry...and thats about it.....

this morning he text me around 11:30am...he never does this before...well i'm assuming cuz lately we always kinda argue....now i'm guessing his friend or whom ever give him idea to give us space to avoid arguments...cuz maybe they think that we always talk on the phone and there's nothing to say so we end up arguing....

now should i ignore him for a while?? advice pls

Answer 1

I never found in the past that ignoring people or giving them the silent treatment worked. It's not a great idea, you're better than that. Suppose that you did ignore him. What would happen next? When would you stop ignoring each other? Would it permanently wreck the relationship? It wouldn't solve anything. Maybe you should ask him for a face to face, one on one conversation, and have a proper talk about things. Talk about your problems and how you might sort them out, and try not to lose your temper, it won't do anyone any favours. All the best.

Answer 2

Don't ignore him. That'll be the worst thing you can do for your relationship. Instead, talk to him about maybe having some "alone" time, meaning, without each other. Go out with your friends without him, do your own thing and such, but don't ignore him. Call each other each night and tell each other what you did during the day, if you have any stories, things like that. That way, you're not isolating him from your life, you're just doing your own thing without him for a bit. And vice versa for him. I know it seems that when you start dating someone you feel like you need to spend every waking moment with them, but that isn't the case. Everyone in a relationship needs a little "me" time once and awhile. It's how you can keep your sanity and still be with someone. It's all about balance.

Answer 3

It's never a good idea to play head games, don't ignore him, talk to him about it. If he needs some space, then give it to him. If you argue all the time then maybe you need a break too. Ask him if anything is bothering him, but don't get upset or argue if what he needs is space. Take some time to think about what it is that you really want too, maybe you argue all the time because neither of you is happy.

Answer 4

If you do spend that much time on the phone that you run out of things to say & end up arguing then perhaps you should be cutting your phone time down any way mate!! Can't you just see him instead, or arrange a certain time of day when you talk on the phone for only half hour? You wouldn't stay on the phone to everybody you ring after you've run out of things to say would you? If you did your phone bill would be quite high i'd imagine!

Answer 5

okay, to ignore someone is very immature you're not children. that's like letting him call you all day and not answering the phone knowing it's him. in this ay and age how long do youu think he'll put up with that kind of treatment. if you need space from each othe than give each other space. why does he need to speak with you every 5 minutes? are you taht insecure. if a man can't be trusted then you don't need that man. why don't you try sitting him down and calmly talk about your concerns instead of playing games. when you talk calmley to one another than you can find out why you're contantly butting heads. if you play it like a kid then you don't need to be in a relationship.

Answer 6

Sometimes space is good. People married for long periods of time will even say vaca away from your significant other helps the relationship tremendously. Just simply ignoring him is not mature nor will it be effective. Talk to him. Don't smother each other. Give each other some breathing room. Things will pan out

Answer 7

It doesn't sound like you are in a healthy relationship. You might want to talk to him and tell him how you feel. But usually in the begging of a relationship this are great and people act different so that the other person likes them. And when they feel comfortable with that person there true colors start to show.
You might think about re-evaluating this relationship.
suro

Answer 8

I think that you should ignore him for a while because only then will you see how much he loves you. If you try to stay away from him and avoid him, he should come to you and ask you what is wrong. Believe me, when he comes back and asks you this, just give him a big hug and tell him that you care about him and everything!

Answer 9

Why not take a breather for awhile, maybe thats what you guys problem is spending to much time together and not haveing time on your own to do things. I don't think you need to ignore him, i think you and him need to talk and come to a point in your life to were you can trust one another and be to your own likeing and enjoy time with a girlfriend or family. hope this helps out.

Answer 10

Ignore him for a while and if you do get in contact, just tell him no one ever really had anything to say important to each other. Talk when you are together instead of phoning or texting(that is so impersonal)!